Been balling my eyes out the last few hours..

[pdx1138]

JHCL4000,

that too is exactly what happened to me last new years. she went off on a double date with her friend.....just before she asked me if I'd be getting a ticket to the event.

Ya like I would be a stupid a$$ and follow her around like a puppy dog.

we hooked up a few more times in feb. she said "she would know by june".
obviously had her eyes on another dude. I knew she wouldn't know jack $hit and if that dude didn't work out there would be another and another so I made it my new years resolution to get over her and i did.

Good for you on putting a stop to it.

 

[floydb25]

Not sure how many times this has to be said: that's what this kind of girl does. She's trouble. Bad news. A heart-breaker. She isn't afraid of losing you because of you, but because of her. She wants to use you. She's a user, and a player. You mean nothing to her. She doesn't care about you, or anybody.

What you need to do now is recognize this kind of person, and don't let it become a pattern. If you date too many, you might just end up crazy like them. You can always tell when someone is trouble. Don't go against your instincts.

Also, work on traits that enable this kind of behavior. Doing be so sympathetic, understanding, desperate, willing to give multiple chances, afraid to leave, etc. Bad people will use these things against you, and seek them out. Don't trust or give so easily. Never believe or assume anything. Don't fall for BS.

 

[pdx1138]

That sums it up perfectly Floyd.

This type of girl would never have the decency to unlock your door for you after getting her in the car.

 

[floydb25]

... But she'd ***** to no end if you did anything that goes against her in any way - including not opening the door for her, not responding to her calls, etc. These girls are all about themselves. Been through it all before... Got a whole history of dating *****es under my belt... Ha ha. They were all hot, though.

Their greatest asset is also their biggest downfall, because they use it to their advantage - at everyone else's expense. They know they can act like this, and people will allow it. Otherwise, they wouldn't be doing it. They usually get used and abused for this same reason.

That's why you don't sympathize with people, or take their side. You focus on the facts, and pay attention to who they are. A lot of these *****es who complain are usually the problem, and pull the same BS on you. Suprise. You can't stand them, either. Just like all of their exes who hate them. They blame you for everything, and play the victim - just like they did with them. Nothing changes - they were never the victim to begin with.

 

[perseverance]

man this girl aint worth the toliet paper pieces left on your a-hole.

Most women aren't if the truth be told, he like many of us will look back and laugh about this incident and then will wince through sheer embarrassment, but it happens.

I'm just pleased he had the balls to end it.

 

[backbreaker]

I mean... how can i say this.. there are girls *****s, and then there is the girl the OP is talking about.

I'm sorry OP but this chick the more I read is pure fvckig garbage. not worth the dirt your tears feel on

It's one thing to be casually dating guys and just not want to commit. she gets off on leading guys on and going through all this ****. she is what will smith is called a "party starter". she likes living this soap opera esque life ****.

get out of this and don't look back. i don't cdare what she offers, this ***** is toxic.
where do you honestly see here in 10 years. lol I can tell you exactly where I see her in 10 years, and it it's not pretty.

she's probably a cute girl but that's it. besides being attractive this girl doesn't bring anything to the table that would be a good quality in a LTR

 

[Jhcl4000]

I'm starting to realize just how lead on I've been.. All the lovey-dovey things she said to me (telling me she misses me, calling each other "baby" constantly, saying "I like you" whenever we'd part ways, acting needy/clingy sometimes), us going out on actual dates, sleeping over, "making love," acting like BF/GF whenever we were together, ect..

All this and more, yet she didn't want to commit to me.

 

[floydb25]

See, that's how you know when someone is trouble. You dwell, analyze, dissect... This always leads to bitterness, resentment, anger... You can't understand how they could do this. They hate it when it happens to them; how could they do it to you? What did you do so wrong to deserve this? How could they be so cruel and heartless? It doesn't make sense... Really, nothing makes sense with jerks... You can't figure it out.

If they weren't jerks - you wouldn't be bothered so much. Jerks play games, string you along, make you feel special, mess with your head, take you on a rollercoaster of emotions, leave you drained, shatter your heart, etc... It's what they do. They also get under your skin.

The bottom line is that they don't care. If they did - they wouldn't be doing this. These are their true colors... Everything you saw in the beginning was a charade. That's why they USED to be so nice. It's not who they really were. There's nothing you did to cause this. They are the ones with the problem - as is evidenced by the fact that they are doing the same thing to others. They might make it seem like its your fault for not being good enough, but don't buy it. Don't blame yourself.

The unfortunate side effect of this is turning into a jerk yourself. Which, ironically, just attracts even more jerks and losers into your life, and causes you to hate even more. Not a good path to go down, but everyone does at least once. That's why you don't get involved with jerks. It's not fun or exciting for long.

 

[Slickster]

Well, it's over for good, and it was my doing..

You are a fool! She left YOU dude. You've allowed her to make a chump out of you over and over. How does it feel? Let it soak in REAL good.

There was a little moment of hope for you when you said this:

I just got off the phone with her, and Christ.. I can tell that this girl lives on drama and the less interested I act the more interested she is. She asked me what changed blah blah blah and I told her making "adjustments," seeing other people, detaching myself from the situation, and realizing where we are at/that a relationship between us wouldn't work anyways. I even told her that if she doesn't want to be with me and doesn't see what I could give her, then she doesn't deserve to be with me. I didn't cry or any sh*t. I laughed a number of times. Even when I could hear her crying a little bit, I made jokes and laughed.

However you blew it big time.

Take a look back at the advice you've been given in this post and maybe someday it will sink in.

Until then you are just another chump at the mercy of women and your own emotions.

Hopefully you will stop posting your self-pity bullshyt and other members will stop responding to it.

Now go cry in your pillow until you are ready to wake up and learn!

Consider your arse kicked!!! :kick:

 

[Jhcl4000]

You are a fool! She left YOU dude. You've allowed her to make a chump out of you over and over. How does it feel? Let it soak in REAL good.

There was a little moment of hope for you when you said this:



However you blew it big time.

Take a look back at the advice you've been given in this post and maybe someday it will sink in.

Until then you are just another chump at the mercy of women and your own emotions.

Hopefully you will stop posting your self-pity bullshyt and other members will stop responding to it.

Now go cry in your pillow until you are ready to wake up and learn!

Consider your arse kicked!!! :kick:

She rejected me (my wanting of commitment), but I ended it.

I don't see how she "made a chump of me over and over." I allowed myself to fall for this girl and I got hurt. Obviously, it wasn't a good decision to see her for another week after the initial "break-up," but I had fun when we were together and I don't completely regret it. It's just unfortunate that it ended up like it did.

 

[Atom Smasher]

How she put it was "three guys have left my apartment crying and heartbroken this past year" or something.

What more do you need to understand what a monster she is?

 

[floydb25]

I had a girl tell me she hurts everybody who gets close to her. Didnt listen.... She was exactly like this girl. Everything the OP says in every post was her.. 100%. She was stunning, seemed nice, sympathized with her... One of the worst experiences ever.

 

[Jariel]

I don't want to rub it in your face and say "we told you so", but hopefully this has not been in vain and you have learnt a valuable lesson from this. Maybe if you'd been colder and indifferent with her, you could've got the upper hand, but maybe you will consider this next time.

In the meantime, you must be hurting and I sympathise with that. My advice to you is to embrace all that pain, anger and frustration and use it to motivate you. Make a plan to improve yourself and become better than you've ever been. There's nothing as satisfying as seeing an ex girlfriend's mouth drop open when she sees you looking better than ever, seeing the regret in her face over letting you go. Hit the gym, change your diet, read up on seduction and the psychology of women, give yourself a new image etc.

 

[Atom Smasher]

When a man hears any warning verbalized by women, it is time to head for the hills.

You will not be the exception. You will be the next victim.

 

[Slickster]

She rejected me (my wanting of commitment), but I ended it.

I don't see how she "made a chump of me over and over." I allowed myself to fall for this girl and I got hurt. Obviously, it wasn't a good decision to see her for another week after the initial "break-up," but I had fun when we were together and I don't completely regret it. It's just unfortunate that it ended up like it did.

Dude I'm not trying to be an a$$ here. You obviously have a long way to go and a lot to learn. If my comments come off as harsh I'm only trying to help and my firm tone is only meant to get your attention.

Most people come here to learn and maybe get advice about their problems. You don't seem interested in listening to anything. Instead you seem to be using the forum as your box of tissue to cry your eyes into. If that's the case we all feel for you man. We've all been there. You've put on a pretty pitiful display already and still seem completely lost and oblivious.

Open your eyes!!!!

Somehow you still think that you "ended it". This relationship was over well before your original talk. She told you that she still wants to be friends and fcuk you but in reality she's branch swinging to another dude and holding you there as a back up. This New Year's eve guy or maybe somebody else has probably been involved a lot longer than you think.

Even if you two remained friends with benefits while she was fcuking other dudes it would only last until she met her next bf and you'd be pushed to the side in a second. This same story plays itself out over and over every day on these forums.

As for making you look like a chump you really need to reassess. You've acted like complete wussy and total push over throughout this entire thread. You've allowed this girl to lead you and your emotions around like a little puppy dog.

You've allowed her to break up with you more than once and you are still willing to go back for more. Even after she's basically admitting that she wants to fcuk other guys!!

You are really sad man! Time to wake up!!!

Do some reading.

 

[floydb25]

When a man hears any warning verbalized by women, it is time to head for the hills.

You will not be the exception. You will be the next victim.

A to the Men. I think that we don't take these things serious enough, and don't pay attention to the things they say. We only hear and see what we want to. This is especially true when you're desperate, or crazy about someone.

The red flags are always there. We just choose to avoid them, or think we're somehow special enough that they won't do this to you.

 

[AAAgent]

Its AFC's/chumps like this guy that when i read these posts and the AFC OP's response that i just lose all hope. I commend the vets in trying to help these guys but they some AFC's are just natural AFC's.

This guy came here hoping to find reinforcement for his retarded actions and the responses he's received is either the OP is a "Chump/AFC" or they sugar coat the truth saying the the girl is horrible. No woman is as bad as an afc. If a DJ were in this situation this girl would probably be a prized gf, cooking, cleaning, and inviting the guy to her NYE shindig and not out fvcking other guys.

The fact that you still want to have sexual relations with this girl after she's clearly telling you that she's going to fvck other guys and svck their d1cks.

When i wouldn't listen and open my eyes to the truth and refused to accept reality my DJ friend would tell...

"if you take her back you will be sucking that guys d1ck. because she sucked his and therefore by kissing her you are sucking his d1ck. Let me know how his d1ck tastes."

Good luck op. Let me know how it tastes not that i really want to know but thought i'd say it anyway.

 

[PokerStar]

i think we should close this thread.

 

[Korrupt]

LMFAO! And NOT at the OP, at the guys in here insulting him!

Look.. Did you all really expect the OP to cut all ties and run?

Would YOU have broken it off if you were in HIS POSITION?

DID you break it off immediately when you WERE in his position?

I can safely say that NONE of the people who have posted in this topic (including myself) would have done much of anything differently. At least not with the level of experience that HE has. Believe it or not, love does exist, and guys fall easier than women, and it blinds you. It's easy to say "break it off" when you're not in the same position as the person with the problem. And it's especially easy to say that if you've never even been there. I actually commend the OP for making the decision to break it off when he did and for walking out. It's not an easy thing to do.

 

[bullethead]

OP learn from this guy...
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=187019