and the guys so hung up on her hitting me, jsut really shows how out of touch you guys are. her hitting me, does not concern me 1/10th as much as she ****ing followed me around for half a day. she tailed me for half a freaking day! and this **** just flew over you guys heads like when the word "hit" came up.
if i'm concerned about anyting, that's it. i could care less about her hitting me. **** happens. charge it to the game. In the grand scheme of things it's not that big of a deal about something that should not have been that big of a deal to begin with. I know she wont' hit me again and she knows we will have serious issues if she ever does without a damn good reason (like, walking in the house with me with 2 cameras rolling getting on with julia bond and keri sable, issues).
no.. that does not concern me in the least bit. what concerns me, is that. hell. wow i can't believe how this just flew by you guys. 2 pages.
dude, she followed me around for a half a day. that is what i am really pissed about. Because now I have to ask myself and i have asked her. is hit the first time you have done this? she says yes. I believe her but hell, that's not very cool. You just can't ****ing just stalk your boyfriend or girlfriend. Not because I was creeping or anything but hell just how much do you trust me. I had to lay some serious groundwork because that was concerned me a hell whole lot more than a love tap did.
Let that **** sink in. she got in the car, paid a freaking babysitter to keep our son, while she decided, fully consciously, she was going to follow me around... but...without me knowing she was following me around.
Got in the car, sat in the ****ing car I presume, 2 hours while I was in the gym. She says she went to target which is not far away and i believe her becuase she knows when i'm in the gym i'm in the gym. anyway, waited until I left the gym, got in the car followed me to starbucks and just ****ing sat there. and did all this fully knowing what the hell she was doing lol.
Like i said, I am not happy about the situation but that right there, more than anything, is why we have ****ed like rabbits the last 2 days trying to make up to me. i don't give a **** about her hitting me. i forgot about that **** seconds after it happened. I can understand a distraught woman getting emotional and doing something like that, under the right cirmcustances.
my real sticking point is, she hbit me and by the time did she did that she was all worked up emotionally. by the time that has happened she has had to drive home, crying, call me 10 times and tell me how much of a pecie of **** i am,im' quite sure call one of her girlfriends and tell him, get one of their imput on my ovvbious cheating, you know how women are.
then, somethign i don't think some of you caught. I did not follow her straight home. so she sat there for about nother hour and half wondering if/when i was coming home, getting more worked up.
under those circumstances, i can understand her hitting me. while i dont' agree with it and will not tolorate.. again. But I now that that result was a direct effect of her being worked up and in 3 years that is the most emot4ional I have ever seen here, that is not goingto happen again.
and have made that clear that was not my sticking point, becuase she made that decision in a very worked up frame of mine
but she made the very rational decision lmao, to follow my ass around all day. That is my sticking point. She thought it out and thought it was a perfectly rational decision to get in the car and trail me. That is why the frame argument is so silly, she lost "frame" when she decided it was a good idea to go into stealth mode. The game was over then.
in about 3 years we have had 4 major arguments. the restaurant argument which frankely, I deserved becuase i was flirting with her right in front of her face. that was not an argument as much as her setting boundaries of how she will be treated when I'm around her. She earned some respect from me that day. She basically in so many words told me I will put my cards on the table, i really like you alot, but i'll be damned if you are going to treat me like ****. you will respect me when we are together. About a few months ago my son had rightfully earned his first ass whipping of his life and i was more than ready to give it to him and she she would not met me, she is from my mom's school of child rearing (my mom would just call my dad, who would whip my ass.. she was not against child rearing as much as she was against her doing it). When we first became serious she tried to give me a lesson in how to be a good son when she saw how I deal with my mom and my grandmother and told me she does not know how a good son could possibly treat her mother like that. We went at it. lol, after my son was born, and I took him down to Arkansas and my mom said to my face basically why are you dating a white woman, in front of 15 people at red lobster.. the mother of her first and only grandson... needless to say, she pretty much now rolls with my school of thought on dealing with my family now. The only time she has talked me out of a family related decision my grandmohter (that one, yes, the crack smoking grandmom) died right after my birthday and she convincewd me to go down there and be with the family even though I did not want to because she said that even thougvh you don't like her and probably rightfully so, she is on her death bed and at least give her the chance to see her entire family again before she goes. that hit home for some reason and i could not argue with that and I did and to be honest, did not have a bad time. My mother and I made some half ass progress while was down there. baby steps, me and my mom. We call each other once a week now to keep up, we don't talk about religion or anything like that, just keep in touch I let her speak with my son, i get to speak to my sister. This is a very big deal for us. if all goes well i might even fly them down for Christmas.
anyway, and now this. she has earned enough mile high points with me to warrant looking at this as a look, i ****ing am head over heels about you and i lost it when i thought you were ****ing someone else becuase, she normally doesn't do **** like this. but that is a much bigger issuse in my book
you tend to look at being hit by a woman as about the same as being hit by a child, you just shrug it off. It would have been different if it was a sustained assault, or if this was a repeating occurence. We are constantly told here that women run solely on emotion, clearly that was what guided her behavior here.
