NewMan
Master Don Juan
I've been reading the Don Juan emails for about a year now. Going on with my life, living with my girlfriend.
Sure, we had problems, and worked through them - but the last 6 months found us pulling away from each other - Sex was less and less - in the end perhaps once every 2 weeks.
Then there was a girl friend of her's at work. She was married to a man 14 yrs older than her - who never wanted to go out. My GF got some work advice from her (regarding a new job) and they ended up being friends. Then things started going down hill - whether this woman had anything to do with it I don't know. But my GF told me that one of her friends suggested that we break up - distance got greater between us..... then we were out with some friends from my work, at a local bar, and my girlfriend said she wanted to go home - she was tired. Not one hour later I get a call - she's at a bar with her new GF.....
One week later, sitting in her car riding home from work she tells me we should break up. That she's not feeling the same about me in her heart. That she loves me, but that she needs to find herself. I agreed, I was not getting what I wanted at home...... and left the following day.
It's a month later. I went through 2 weeks of shear hell - finding a place to live, getting my new apartment set up (I had nothing in the way of furniture) - and calling her - telling her I love her - that I want to work things out. I was going crazy. Mad. I needed her back in my life. I couldn't go on without her.
Week 3 came around, and thanks to friends I finally got some smarts back in my life. I stopped calling her, emailing her. I could think logically.
She started a new job Monday (remember her new GF helped her) - and she sent me an email - saying Hi, and giving me her new #. I sent her flowers - not because I wanted to let her know I love her, but because I wanted her to have something special on her first day - I still love her of course. She called me, wanted to know how I was.... I of course told her things were great. Eveerything was going well - that I was happy for her ans wanted her to have flowers on her first day.
I don't know what to do. I love her, would like to work things out. I've learned a lot I feel - saw that I didn't give her enough things to look forward to in our relationship - no goals, no future (I was the I'm not getting married kind of guys) - but now I realize what I lost. I want her back.
I'm leaving her well alone - hoping that giving her space will make her see - or make her figure things out.
I have a date tomorrow night as well - I'm determined not to sulk around.
I read some of your guys post's today for the first time. You guys rock. Your advice is solid. I'd like to know your opimions - perhaps you've gone through similar? Any thing you can suggest? Ideas? or just general thoughts on my post.
Thanks!!!!!
Sure, we had problems, and worked through them - but the last 6 months found us pulling away from each other - Sex was less and less - in the end perhaps once every 2 weeks.
Then there was a girl friend of her's at work. She was married to a man 14 yrs older than her - who never wanted to go out. My GF got some work advice from her (regarding a new job) and they ended up being friends. Then things started going down hill - whether this woman had anything to do with it I don't know. But my GF told me that one of her friends suggested that we break up - distance got greater between us..... then we were out with some friends from my work, at a local bar, and my girlfriend said she wanted to go home - she was tired. Not one hour later I get a call - she's at a bar with her new GF.....
One week later, sitting in her car riding home from work she tells me we should break up. That she's not feeling the same about me in her heart. That she loves me, but that she needs to find herself. I agreed, I was not getting what I wanted at home...... and left the following day.
It's a month later. I went through 2 weeks of shear hell - finding a place to live, getting my new apartment set up (I had nothing in the way of furniture) - and calling her - telling her I love her - that I want to work things out. I was going crazy. Mad. I needed her back in my life. I couldn't go on without her.
Week 3 came around, and thanks to friends I finally got some smarts back in my life. I stopped calling her, emailing her. I could think logically.
She started a new job Monday (remember her new GF helped her) - and she sent me an email - saying Hi, and giving me her new #. I sent her flowers - not because I wanted to let her know I love her, but because I wanted her to have something special on her first day - I still love her of course. She called me, wanted to know how I was.... I of course told her things were great. Eveerything was going well - that I was happy for her ans wanted her to have flowers on her first day.
I don't know what to do. I love her, would like to work things out. I've learned a lot I feel - saw that I didn't give her enough things to look forward to in our relationship - no goals, no future (I was the I'm not getting married kind of guys) - but now I realize what I lost. I want her back.
I'm leaving her well alone - hoping that giving her space will make her see - or make her figure things out.
I have a date tomorrow night as well - I'm determined not to sulk around.
I read some of your guys post's today for the first time. You guys rock. Your advice is solid. I'd like to know your opimions - perhaps you've gone through similar? Any thing you can suggest? Ideas? or just general thoughts on my post.
Thanks!!!!!
