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    need advice. ex is back and wants to have sex

    Rom, all that will do is prompt her to say whatever she thinks will work best for her own self interests while keeping you in orbit. "yes, yes, you're right... I'm confused. This is so confusing. Thank you for not taking advantage of me. I'd like to figure out what I'm feeling. You're so good...
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    Ex lied/cheated and no longer want to be friends...do i tell her or just act like it

    FRIEND: "one attached to another by affection or esteem. A favored companion" Friends have meals together, do activities together, socialize with each other, share their lives. So you really mean, not being "friends", but being "civil" with each other. When a girl says, "let's be friends"...
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    Interesting situation with the Lesbian

    Yeah, the ones she doesn't want for herself, namely, "lesbian chick". Str8up, here's a suggestion: Never listen to nor talk about your love interests with others in the same circles. That goes for discussing it with your wing-woman and your biz partner. When you do, you may be unknowingly...
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    Emotional Unavailability

    re: trust issues after being cheated on I think we had "blind trust" previous to that. We're brought up generally to be trusting of others. We're brought up to believe love lasts forever, those things could never happen to us, this one's different. Then we come to find out we all share the...
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    need advice. ex is back and wants to have sex

    Yeah. Keep texting and waiting for replies instead of just calling her and nailing it down; always ask a woman for just a few hours later on that day for when she more then likely already has plans; keep on giving her control of the situation as you're doing; when she turns you down for one...
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    Interesting situation with the Lesbian

    Ever occur to you that the bi girl who told you that this chick was a lesbian was maybe just saying that to c@ckblock you? Maybe your alleged "lesbian chick" is bi. Anyhow, even if this gal was seemingly buzzing with your business partner, it doesn't mean a thing. Maybe she was just buzzing. If...
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    Ex lied/cheated and no longer want to be friends...do i tell her or just act like it

    There's this tiny little detail I'm having trouble understanding about your story, Heretolearn. Let's see, your ex lied and cheated on you, but wants to be your friend. So, here's the bit I have trouble getting: A friend is someone with a history of lying and betraying you? Maybe it's me, but...
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    need advice. ex is back and wants to have sex

    You don't live in her pocket, so you don't know what exactly's going on in her life. Chances are, she can attract guys, and that she met one or two already and it didn't work out. Like maybe the guy she dumped you for that you didn't know about* So, maybe put off, for right now, by the scary...
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    How to respond kindly when someone backs out of a date??

    Friend, I don't know if anyone else sees them, but you've got so many inconsistencies in your posts that I think I'll say 'bye too. Best of luck.
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    How to respond kindly when someone backs out of a date??

    I think you do some chumpish things but I don't think you're stupid. I think you're unaware of some things, and, being unaware, you don't realize it. I think you react to your emotions. I think you don't like to think that maybe it's you and not the other people. I think you're not that...
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    This struck me as odd about a 25 year old girl I met last night

    My hunch is that's her saying she liked you. A lot. Why would she be thinking "relationship" and need to mention it? In the context, she's dancing with you, touching you, kissing you. Obviously, she seems to like you. She's attractive, so she evidently can get men, but basically infers to you...
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    Advice - Exboyfriend calling my LTR

    It's real life for couples who end up breaking up. How may times I've heard guys minimize the damage that's probably being done by rationalizing away the arguments and bad blood in a relationship while the woman is silently keeping track of it all and resentment is building inside her. Now I...
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    A gentleman who has enough self-respect to walk away is the "bad boy"?

    It would be the equivalent of a healthy guy strolling down the street saying, "Look at me - I'm walking!" >> Im an independent women, strong and successful >> I've found this means: "I'm a b1tch. I will compete with you. I will try to dominate, get my way. I've had to be this way to claw my...
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    A woman rants on Craigslist...

    Just the fact that she made the effort to post her vent on CL, which requires not only writing out the whole thing, but going through the submission and verification process, indicates, to me at least, that she's prone to act on her anger. Then I see her commands telling others what they can't...
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    Asking a girl out for a drink/coffee - when you don't drink... What are other options

    You understand the point of the "coffee date" is not about coffee. It's to give you a low cost, minimal time meeting within which you're to see the girl physically for the first time if you've met her online to see if you like the way she looks and she likes the way you look, and to gauge her...
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    Accepting Rejection

    I think what's effective about "living well" as a kind of revenge, is not so much about if we become cut or increase our assets or have a babe on our arms, as it about the ex, looking at us now, sees us living an interesting, happy life style, doing cool things, enjoying new experiences, having...
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    A gentleman who has enough self-respect to walk away is the "bad boy"?

    I was thinking that, rather then confidence coming from the knowledge that you can and will find women again, first and foremost is that you have to be okay and comfortable with being alone. If being alone doesn't rattle your cage, you will always be strong enough to walk regardless of your...
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    Simple BPD message

    What is that? Slovenian for "We have the same therapist"?
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    Accepting Rejection

    Recompense for injury or loss is not at all "revenge". Revenge is not about seeking an equitable award for damage sustained. Lawsuits to seek payment for damages are proscribed by sets of laws and formalities that society abides to, revenge, by contrast, is one person doing whatever they wish...
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