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What do you not understand about the fact that I've said I feel much better and I have made a lot of progress? Yes, the thread is 2.5 years old but the relationship was still alive during this time, against my better judgement. I'd be VERY impressed and surprised if you did receive that text and...

No, not at all. In fact I feel much better now and I'd been feeling OK for a while. I know most people will think it was foolish to have replied, but it helped give me closure.

After 6 months of complete No Contact, and after being completely sure that I would never hear from this person again, she contacted me in the form of a few short text messages a few days ago. A few nice texts saying that she knows we are not a couple, but she wants me to be happy and that she...

And that's not even reserved for divorced women/single mothers. I would assume they were this way before they were married the first time. I've always thought multiple driving charges were somewhat a sign of instability; it shows recklessness, lack of concern and disregard for others and...

Even if she did contact you again over the next couple of months and you ended up getting back together, either you would find that you actually don't want her anymore (i.e - you only wanted to her back because you couldn't have her anymore) and/or the same problems would re-emerge and...

If a female who has some degree of BPD and a male who has some form of ASPD/Sociopathy (basically, two people with Cluster B traits), were to date or enter into a 'relationship', how would that look? Would the male be relatively unfazed by the females attempts at manipulations, mind games and...

I read that what people perceive as 'daddy issues' are actually much more commonly 'mother issues' in reality. If a girl's relationship with her mother is unhealthy, erratic and controlling, she is likely to be the same in a relationship.

Was she Asian by any chance? The fact that her mother got involved and put pressure on the situation sounds like it. Anyway, I suppose don't go chasing after gold diggers and maybe don't bring up your money issue at all... But don't you have more pressing matters to be saving for, such as...

I can relate to this. I'm 26 and after a couple of very bad relationships, with the last one making me question everything about myself and 'love', I have become more and more cynical and I don't think I even see the world as a good place anymore. I have always been more introverted but I fear...

Also depends what mood stabilisers you are talking about. OTC stuff like 5-HTP isn't that 'consequential' but medication like anti-depressants or Valium could point to a bigger issue. Even more so if it seems as though she doesn't actually have anything to be majorly depressed or anxious about...

I think you already know the answers to these questions. They usually point to a deeper lying psychological issue. It sounds like she's telling you all you need to know, so if you do choose to be involved with her and things go badly, you'd only have yourself to blame. My ex used to take them...

I'm glad that it helped you in some way. I'm still not totally recovered but I feel my life is now moving in a better direction. I'm still not convinced that she was definitely Cluster B or anything like that - she seems so much more stable and happier now and there have been zero attempts at...

You will get over her. Take your time. Even if you got back with her, it wouldn't work out, and the further you go with her, the more painful the experience will be each and every time something like this happens. Trust me on this; if you think what you feel is bad now, after just a few months...

I know how you feel in regards to the jealousy and regret of letting this girl go. That is might have turned out like that for you if you had stayed. Truth is, sometimes two people just aren't compatible. The dynamic and her behaviour with a new guy will likely be different to how it was with...

Mate, I totally sympathise. I broke up with my ex (or she with me to be more accurate) over 6 months ago now, 5 months of not a word from her. It has been the toughest 6 months of my life. It brought me to my knees. I still dream of her very often. Especially when you wake up and then get back...

Handed in my notice of resignation yesterday.

I get what you're saying and I completely agree with you. But I've tried everything, there is just a lack of fit, and it's become exhausting. I've never encountered this problem in my life. I'm just not a cliquey person and I have no desire to be either. I hadn't considered it like this...

Been in a job (ad industry) for the past year or so in the country capital. Good company, big clients - it's a decent job but the pay is crappy. However, despite trying, I just cannot fit in with my team, who are all female - fairly power and control hungry but good at their jobs. Kinda sick of...

I have listened to every piece of advice I've been given on this forum - I stupidly didn't heed the advice at first and I admit it was a mistake not to - but I have since and I am infinitely grateful to the people on this forum, I really am. It's been extremely helpful for me. I think I just...

It's been a long ****ing time now. I've seen a psychologist, I've almost obsessively questioned and analysed my own behaviour and worked on myself, I've seen other girls, I have other options (which I just cannot become interested in), I've stuck to NC, I've focused on my job, I've all but...