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I just didn't expect her to move on so quickly and be able to cut me out of her life so easily (probably for someone else), but not before blaming it on me. And yes, I've been re-reading that thread, too. It was accurate at the time, which was 2-3 years ago. But since, she seemed to mature a...

I feel totally defeated. In a weak moment, I checked her blog (after not doing so in almost 2 months, she doesn't know I have the address). She is sleeping with the new guy. She seems fine and no longer writes about me. I can't believe how much this has affected me. How much I let it affect me...

Also interested. I'm almost 4 months out (3 years together). She broke up with me. No contact helps but it doesn't seem to be getting much easier yet. I still feel massive regrets about being complacent with her, which caused her to end things. She displayed cluster B traits during the early...

Despite the good advice here, it still doesn't seem to be getting any easier. I'm still shouldering a lot of regret and I still miss her. She provided me with plenty of warning before it happened. She asked me if I wanted to fix us - I answered complacently. I'm aware she probably had the...

To be honest, it sounds like you kind of deserve all this. I must have read that you broke up with this girl at least 4/5 times, whenever you felt like doing so. And now you wonder why she flakes on you and doesn't give a crap anymore? Yeah, she sounds pretty unhinged but so do you. I've been...

@Asmodeus I don't want to get too specific, and to be honest, it was hard to think of something both recent and pre-break up. But for example, last year, I'd flown out to see her and to fix things/get her back. Things were good. We were both our shopping in a mall and whilst she was in a shop...

@fastlife No I just mean the way she considered things was fairly irrational. Like she thought I should be the one to chase and fix things despite it being her that pulled apart what we had. I regret how I acted before the breakup. For example, she said she wanted to come and visit me for Xmas...

Yes, during those first 6 months or so, you are right, it definitely wasn't my fault and it caused me to end things. But after that, after she stopped the lying, the mind games and became more stable (granted, we became long distance), the demise of the relationship feels like it was largely my...

TL;DR: Having massive regrets of letting ex girlfriend (who demonstrated possible cluster B traits during the first 6 months, but looking back I'm not sure if she actually was) slip through my fingers only to realise how much she meant to me after she was ready to move on and cut me out of her...

I'm in the same position, although it's only been about 6 weeks since last contact/3 months since breakup. She hasn't tried to contact me and I know she never will again. it was very final. She had been through too much with me, and I'm 99% sure she's seeing someone new. Was there ever a stage...

Thanks, Saline. I read what you wrote multiple times. You're right, I do self blame a lot, but I want to take responsibility for where I went wrong. I don't just want to demonise her and play the victim. I only found out about her activity with other guys post-break up by snooping where I...

Damn, those posts were hard to read. I know that what you are saying makes sense and is the right thing to do. I just hate losing people, especially when it's due to my own stupid complacency. I can never seem to appreciate something when I have it. I can't seem to see past my current feeling...

I'm having a really low couple of days and seem to have slipped into a depression. I have many regrets about the way I acted and treated her when I was with her. There were times when she'd tell me she wasn't happy with things, asking me if I wasn't worried that I might lose her if I didn't...

It was definitely from her mother. Her mother even called me after and left a voicemail expressing her confusion of how I'd received the email instead of her husband. She'd sent me emails by mistake in the past, too. It was just a (big) mistake which set me back quite a lot. And yes she was...

Thank you again. I have read those sites above before and although some behaviour is similar (as I'd imagine it'd be with a lot of attractive women), some of it isn't. She never ever had a fear of abandonment, wasn't insecure or jealous. I think she could just feel that I probably loved her...

Hi Saline, I just wanted to thank you personally for the posts in my thread. I appreciate the time and thought it must have taken. Whether or not she had serious mental issues, I can see now that I am simply better off out of the relationship, as is she. It just wasn't healthy for either of...

First of all, I do appreciate all your replies, especially Saline's - that was beautifully written and I appreciate the time it must have taken! As tough as what you guys are saying is to swallow, I WILL take it on board. I have become very self-absorbed through all of this, I can see and...

I'm not Chinese but good effort.

Thank you all for the replies, I do appreciate it and they help in processing this. I think one of my problems is that I do not know when to just walk away. I am inherently a nice person and I find it hard to leave someone. I always felt like I had helped her a lot, helping shape her into the...

Yeah, I accept that. I have to take responsibility for the way I am feeling. It's just so difficult to remove yourself or walk away when you are emotionally attached and have been through a lot with a person. I will definitely head the advice this time.