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    how to get my ex gf back

    Maybe - That would probably have been the best time. In fact about four months earlier would have been better still but I'd not found this place. We don't do thanksgiving here - so the holiday season has only just begun. Maybe its a curse of sorts but I have to maintain my own standards and...
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    how to get my ex gf back

    Thanks. :) OK, no contact from just after new year then, once I've discharged my current responsibilities to her. Some of the things we planned for the lead-up to new year involve her best friend, who is coming-up to visit. She moved south earlier this year and we spent a few days with her...
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    how to get my ex gf back

    Hard words Igetit! but I do appreciate and value your advice and insight - Thanks. :) However, I'm not inclined to give-up just yet. Firstly, I have been applying your advice and have cut down contact in the last fortnight to just a few hours over two days in the last week, instead of...
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    To look or not to look

    Generally no, same with Facebook and the likes. I've had the opportunity as well, as mine often leaves her phone lying around, or askes me to shove it in a pocket when dancing and has left the FB password from when she uses it on my phone (bigger screen) but I don't do facebook and don't go...
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    Blown-out Again; How do you keep rejection from phasing you?

    Keep at it sir! If you don't know them, or have any emotional "investment", how can their rejection hurt you? Even after being out of things for as long as I have, I've found that after a mere few weeks practice, I've greatly increased my hit rate for approaching and striking-up positive...
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    how to get my ex gf back

    Well, she's been texting me all afternoon, about all sorts of random stuff eg "I got soaked waiting for the bus to work". Since I replied to her morning text and said I'd not be able to go up for her boy tonight as I'd other things to do. I replied once, offering to meet her half way & meet...
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    how to get my ex gf back

    Not a lot to update this week, as I have had very little contact with her. Texts plus two brief calls of a practical nature or about the fall-out from last weekend and our performance last night. She initiated and I replied but kept the number to an absolute minimum. Anyway, come Saturday...
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    Rate these Disqualifers on the Response Scale

    I saw this used on a friend recently: "Hey - You tick all the right boxes!" Which had quite a strong affect on her - she loved it and was giggling and going back over it for ages after, although she didn't go any further with the guy.
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    Should a man call a woman on her bullsh*t?

    Maybe give her the benifit of the doubt and presume she had a genuine reason to flake, so offer the chance to reschedule but I certainly wouldn't be expecting to waste more time on her if that one falls through. I would not however be making any great issue or calling her out on it and I...
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    how to get my ex gf back

    Yes - I do get both of you on this one and I have already cut back contact considerably. Particularly private time - eg during the week, when I was spending many evenings after her work and plenty of time with the boy. That has all-but stopped, apart from one evening last week and for the...
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    how to get my ex gf back

    An update after quite an exciting weekend. Although I've not been able to apply the advice here as strictly as I could, I have decreased my amount of contact with this woman considerably. As detailed above, just one coffee and chat and the next day, I met her from work and gave her the cash...
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    Drinking

    Yes, me. A serious illness in my late teens meant I had to avoid alcohol till my mid 20s. After that, I'd learned to enjoy myself without drink, so never got the habit - It makes no difference if I drink or not really. Even these days, I only occasionally enjoy getting drunk & in some ways...
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    how to get my ex gf back

    Well, I've kept contact to the absolute minimum this week. Just a few texts, practical concerning the couple of things she was doing for me. Which has been easy enough. However, I was working in town last night, near her work, which she knew about and she asked me to meet her after we...
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    New to Forum

    Fit like Glasgow Boy, I'm a North East loon and also pretty new here. Can't offer you any significant advice on your predicament but I can say there is a lot of good info here that has so far helped me to a degree and some very helpful posters, whose advice/insight is a breath of fresh air if...
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    What was the worst shape you ever been in? What made you snap out of it?

    About 20-odd kg overweight following a prolonged period of no activity on a ****tail of ever-increasing strength painkillers when a damaged nerve exploded into continual agony. I couldn't climb one flight of stairs without stopping for a breather. Prior to all this, I had been pretty fit and...
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    I am a god-awful dancer

    Get out there and learn some basic steps, moves, walks and apply them wherever possible, whilst showing some degree of enjoyment then. This place is full of blokes who can't dance, won't dance or at best may stand round the edge of the dancefloor ogling women. Since I did something about...
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    how to get my ex gf back

    The reason I tend to stay with her at weekends is simple practicality. Her place is a lot closer to the city than mine and when we hit the town and have the chance, we do tend to go at it till we are about fit to drop. Although our energy levels are well matched, adding another half hour or...
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    how to get my ex gf back

    There will be some contact next week as I've left her with a few favours to do for me but I think I can cook-up enough convincing reasons keep contact minimal otherwise. After my taking the couch again last night, I was more standoffish today. At the session she was maybe getting her own...
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    how to get my ex gf back

    Well, the next few weeks leave me with plenty of opportunities for social/dating interaction and I'll be taking full advantage this time. :) I agree in general - As I said above, it is the strength of her reaction/passion when she is on for me and a few other things that make me want to work...
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    how to get my ex gf back

    Yes, if that had been a steady consideration I would have been right away long ago. However, her reaction when she is on for me and a few other things make me want to see this through to the end, one way or the other. I fully appreciate that I may well be wasting my time but I'm now in...
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