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I think it is great that you are working on yourself and improving. I think we could all do that and I commend you for it. However be careful of too much self congratulations, it might all be in your head. The test of a man is not how he perceives himself but how others perceive him. You say...

Have you read The Rational Male? If not you should. You should be aware of what’s in that book. Do what you want with what it says, but be open minded and be aware of the information it contains. Rollo talks about LDRs and makes the point that they are a buffer used by men to protect themselves...

LDRs don’t really work. You are far better breaking it off with her and moving on. I know you don’t want to hear that but you are young and you will find plenty of girls where you are going. At your age you should just be playing the field, sampling the buffet. Don’t get too serious with...

Well done, handled that perfectly.

Who brought up the subject of sex? If it was her, then I think you are wasting your time, that’s been my experience. I was on my second date with a women about a year ago, I had taken her to dinner. All of a sudden she says that we should wait to have sex. I remember thinking how random that...

This happened to me quite recently. Two dates went well, kino, she texted me afterwards. Tried for the kiss on the second date and she said no. I am not going to ask for a third date. In your case if she has indicated willingness to come over and cook then I would go for it, may as well. If she...

Kind words. Thank you.

Looks wise it is hair loss. Almost bald. I own it and have a number 1, the marine cut as I call it. Looks wise I’m not bad 6’3”, 200lb, dress well, British accent which some ladies love. My biggest problem is confidence and escalation. I’m working on both and getting better.

On a related note, I was recently at the eye doctor and she was quite attractive. When it was over we were at reception, I was paying and she was filling out some paperwork. She got a text which she read instantly. She was quite annoyed and under her breath she said “not now Gary, I’m at work...

That’s BS, makes me 10. lmao.

I never double text (not now anyway, I used to in my youth). The last lady I dated took 5 days to reply and her reply started with “Wow, I can’t believe I missed this text”. Give me a break, do they really think we don’t know what game they are playing?

You do not know me, so don’t judge me. I’m not judging you and I would ask you to extend the same level of respect. I have no dog in this fight, I’m just giving a different perspective that OP may not have considered.

I would be careful of reading too much into the fact that this lady has male friends. Nothing wrong with that at all, as long as they are just platonic friends. I have female platonic friends and they have boyfriends, the boyfriends know about me (I’ve met them) and everyone is cool. If you...

This is a really great post, good point, made me think. It’s posts like this that make this forum valuable.

I tend to agree with OP. I’ve heard all kinds of BS, like guys that abstain become more in tune with women. Like OP says I suspect that is confirmation bias. I think porn addiction is really bad, and my guess is that a lot of self pleasure goes with watching porn. If that’s the case then I...

Of the 4 rejection scenarios you give the first one is not a rejection. She may even be testing your confidence to see if you back down. Don’t back down persist and ask for her number. The other three are rejections and generally I would not try again. However, maybe @rjc149 has better advice...

His book “How to be a 3% man” is one of the best dating books I have ever read. His older videos are good but I can’t watch his newer stuff, he is just too big headed for me now. I recommend reading his book before judging him too harshly.

You need to read The Rational Male. Rollo explains it best and there’s no point trying to explain it in detail here. But basically women do not date down, they need to see an opportunity to improve themselves by getting with a man. He has to be of higher status, better job, larger salary than...

Very dangerous that you let her move in with you. I don’t know where you live but in many places she would have legal rights after a short period of time, especially if she is not paying rent and you are sleeping together. Be very careful. You might even consider paying for an hour of an...

You should not take it personally, it is just the society we live in. Always smile, always say hello, thank you and goodbye. If they ignore you then don’t think anything of it. Having said that I think the bigger issue is that it bothers you. It speaks volumes of how you see yourself and...