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Igetit! You're quoting what I'm saying, but you're not really addressing anything. Like the woman who was in a relationship for 3 years and met someone else. You just focused on "spilling your guts" but you never went back to the behavior of the guy she left him for. Do you think that guy...

I'm not ignoring your other points, but I'm choosing to address this one because it's closest to my original point. You're saying being upfront greatly decreases your chances of getting friendzoned? What are you basing this on? Again, you're making the assumption (like the other poster) that...

In order to raise a woman's emotions, you have to first realize that how you think she should react to your display of emotions doesn't matter. It's how she feels based on her emotions from behavior she sees. You have to separate the two and cannot let that get in the way and cloud your...

She referred to you as a "friend" and then started dating someone else? This tells me her emotional investment in you was low, which would have nothing to do with thinking your chances were ruined because you waited too long, which further reinforces my point. This is exactly the message I was...

1.) How do you know if you're her type? You don't. I'm assuming your answer is going to be you will find out once you make a move, which proves my point that her emotions have no chance to get invested in the situation because you're too focused on your own. 2.) Let's assume she was attracted...

This is a scare tactic used by pickup artists and dating coaches to encourage guys to take action. They think they have to be direct, make their intentions known right away, to avoid falling in this imaginary trap. Ironically, this is what lands guys in there to begin with. What they don't...

The problem with cold approaching is you are displaying interest in a woman who doesn't know you. At all. You are basically forcing her to make a decision about her romantic interest in a stranger she's never met before. Unless you have exceptionally good social skills and the women is very...

The woman should always be the one bringing up the "relationship" label. In this situation, I don't really see what did wrong, though. I do have my suspicions that you came off too strong, because that's what her response somewhat implies to me. Regardless, she's explaining it too logically to...

Did you come off too strong?

A woman you've been out with a few times asking what you "think of us" typically indicates she wants to be your girlfriend. So for her to respond the way she did is just odd. You never know what these women are thinking.

What did you say before that?

You're reading too much into it. She clearly seems interested. You guys are just starting out. Keep cool. It's still your job to initiate. A lot of guys are going to tell you to wait for her to contact you. In this situation, I think that's being too passive. A woman is not going to go along...

As much as I think I'd like to have more women approaching me, I wouldn't. Something about that would make me feel feminine. Like the roles were reversed or something.

People who are looking for excuses will always find one.

Why do you think you need to have a mistress to have leverage over a girlfriend or wife? That stems from an insecure mindset if you ask me. If you are doing what you are supposed to and acting like a man, she won't think she has any power over you, she'll think you have the power. I don't think...

So you would be okay if a woman cheated on you, avoided getting caught, and gaslighted you to make it seem like it was your fault? Doubt it.

Lost all respect for you with this post.

One thing I can tell you is that you don't want to be a story teller with women. You want them to wonder what your opinions, feelings and thoughts are. Keep conversation light, playful, slightly flirty, and try to let them do most of the talking.

In order to give advice going forward, I would need to know exactly what was said leading up to this point as far as text exchanges. All these guys throwing their opinion around and we don't even know the full story.

Calling her too soon has nothing to do with the options that you perceive she has, it's because you are searching for validation that she's still interested in you. If the girl was a 6, you'd probably wait a week, maybe two. Maybe you wouldn't even call her again. If she was that repulsive, you...