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Yeah, all you can do is put your best effort forward and do your best to keep up your end of the bargain once you get into a relationship with a girl. If some hedge fund guy making seven figures makes a play for the girl I'm dating, what can I realistically do if she leaves me for him? Am I a...

There's nothing AFC in my opinion about shedding tears in the immediate aftermath when a LTR of several years ends with your woman cheating on you and leaving you for another man. Now if several months down the line he is still a blubbering mess, that's another thing. It's not either/or. You...

No, the way I read the OP, it is ABSOLUTELY describing a mercenary and ultra-hypergamous situation. Unless he left out some pertinent details, I interpreted him as ABSOLUTELY condoning ultrahypergamous behavior. I wonder how he'd feel about it if his wife cheated on him and left him for a man...

So? His girlfriend of four years cheated on him and left him for another man. He's entitled to feel like s*** and be upset. That doesn't make him a chump or a p***y. It makes him human.

Good. I'm sure you'll be quite understanding if your wife leaves you for a man that makes a lot more money than you, has a few thousand more square feet in his house and drives a flashier car. And if she cheats on you and does the deed with the guy before formally cutting you loose, well that's...

Is there necessarily something wrong with a woman that is single and goes out on first or second dates with more than one man but isn't sleeping with any of them yet? I don't see anything objectionable about that or that demonstrates she's low quality. Or are we simply talking about a woman...

Makes me wonder if some of the guys here know what a Venn Diagram is. I, too, thought an AFC solely meant a guy who is not good with women, operates from a scarcity mindset, and tries to get women by being overly nice and accomodating. Some AFCs are liberal feminists that go along and stand up...

Okay, that's fair. At least where dating is concerned, I would think the studs and players would be delighted at AFC "competition."

Okay, that makes more sense. The first one should be nothing more than an object of sympathy and pity. The second one, the type that sucks up to people like Amanda Marcotte, I can't stand those guys.

But I think the question Zekko is asking is who are AFCs making life difficult for besides themselves? Alphas almost by definition do not have problems with getting what they want from women, so who are AFCs hurting besides themselves? AFCs operate out of a scarcity mindset, so they think that...

But if you're an Alpha, or the top 10-20 percent of guys that 80 percent of women fall all over themselves chasing and clamoring to be with, then you get all of the good stuff that women have to offer and none of the crap that they dole out to AFCs. What does it matter to you if she's banging...

I've never understood it either. My guess is internal insecurity on the part of the self-styled "PUA" that takes the form of projection, because a lot of guys here are either former AFCs, recovering AFCs, or still have some AFC habits or tendencies. I don't see how AFCs make things harder for...

So this is really an implicit critique of Men Going Their Own Way?

It's tricky. I think you have to be a positive and optimistic person that has things going on in your life (steady job, finances in order, fit and reasonably in shape, along with hobbies and pursuits that make you a well-rounded person with interesting experiences) before you can worry about...

Terry Richardson is the ultimate when it comes to guys who look like they've been hit with a shovel yet get tons of @ss due to their line of work and the verbal game they can run.

It's just typical female entitlement, cynicism and solipsism...i.e. "All men are philanderers, men can't handle a strong, independent woman." etc. Whatever. I don't have the time to debate or try to change the minds of people who deal in absolutes and black/white thinking. It's nothing new under...

If backbreaker is saying that a woman has to have strong feelings of passion to get pissed at you, then he would be correct. If he is advocating be a straight-up jerk, then that won't work. It's not the @ssholish behavior that I think women are drawn to, it's the cavalier attitude and charm that...

This is how it's done, Sam: http://www.okcupid.com/profile/HornsFan78

At first I was gonna say forget about it, it's the equivalent of a pocket dial, but unless she's a huge dolt, why is she emailing you in response to an obvious spam message? Anyways, best to just ignore it.

I've been in this situation before. First girl I ever really fell hard for, took her to my high school prom...but of course I was the classic AFC at the time, put her on a pedestal, killed her with niceness, definitely had oneitis for her. Anyways, shortly after prom she started dating a friend...