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Who is b#tching? People can do what they want. Some people prefer casual fling and hookups, friends with benefits, eff-buddy arrangements...some people want long-term relationships and marriage/kids. Different strokes for different folks. I don't care what you want, and I doubt you care what I...

typical feminist hamstering from Amanda Marcuntte.

If there is a silver lining to my experience, it's that I have become a much better judge of character, and my Red Flag Radar is pretty tightly honed. I have nexted attractive girls that for one reason or another gave off a vibe of "Danger! May be Trouble Ahead" whereas in the past I hung around...

There's a saying about BPD girls: "In the beginning she mirrored me and things were wonderful. In the end I mirrored her and it was awful."

You won't know immediately that you're dealing with BPD. Things begin with them much the same way they do with other chicks. The low-functioning ones you would probably be able to spot a mile away because they can't hide their dysfunction. It's the higher-functioning ones that are scary: they...

Sharon Stone's character in Casino is a textbook example of a Borderline, if you need a frame of reference.

I think full-blown BPDs are somewhat rare. There are 9 criteria according to the DSM IV and you have to meet at least 5 to be diagnosed that way. But I think that there are a lot more women that probably have some BPD traits and are on the spectrum. Some are low-functioning (the cutters, obvious...

This is the key. Stop visiting the BPD sites, stop talking about it with your friends and family, and at some point make it a point to try and start dating again. Don't worry about whether or not it leads to something, the main point is "Am I having fun spending time with this chick?" I'm about...

I almost never dreamed about her the first year and a half after she cut me out, maybe 5-6 times total. Which was a good thing, because the first six months she was constantly on my mind, first thing when I woke up, last thing when I went to sleep. It was a needle that threaded through every...

You know what's funny is that people who have been through this experience say things that I have thought and felt. A lot of what you write in your post rings true to me. I have the same feeling when I go to Al-Anon meetings and hear people say things that have been on my own mind. I think a...

In my opinion, dating in the aftermath didn't really do any thing for me either way. I mean, it was nice to have somebody to do stuff with and to get laid, but it didn't take away my pain. It wasn't a magic elixir. I'm not saying you shouldn't date. Perhaps you'll come across somebody who you...

At a certain point, yes.

The BPD label is really thrown around a lot and unless you're a mental health professional or you know for sure she has recieved this diagnosis, you don't know she's BPD. But if your girl was a true honest to goodness bona fide Cluster B then don't beat yourself over it taking longer than it...

You pretty much nailed it Buddha Mind. It's fine if she was bored with the guy. It's fine if she felt like the guy couldn't support a lifestyle she wanted to have. It's fine if she realized that after four years together she couldn't really see them going the distance for another 40. It's fine...

Let me clarify. I remember I line Rollo used on his blog once about committed relationships, about how once things get to a committed, exclusive stage, there is an implicit understanding your partner isn't going to just bolt one day or despise you one day to the next...just woe to the man who...

I think hypergamy is a spectrum, and this girl was at one extreme end of it. If all women are "like that" then no man can ever feel like his relationship is on firm and steady footing, no matter how well things seem to be going on the surface. In response to that, it logically makes...

Scamming even more people out of web-design fees? :D

Yeah, I concur. The restaurant manager had a good job in one of the states hit worst by the financial crisis. That makes him a winner in my eyes.

According to the article, she branch-swung from her long-term bf at the time to get with this guy. Four years later everything comes full circle.

It could very well be that she's bearding for him...in which case he could probably care less who she sucks face with. If he is straight and this wasn't a PR-managed romance, he should kick her to the curb with extreme prejudice and find another hottie. With his fame and fortune that won't be...