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That’s how I feel about clothing/fashion. I dress well because I like clothes, and I enjoy assembling outfits. It doesn’t make that much difference to women IME unless the guy’s fashion sense is REALLY bad to start out with. Back on the tats topic. Plenty of women find tats hot on a guy...

Just enjoy the food and music and try to have a good time. Don’t have any expectations. Hopefully you are at a table where you know somebody. Don’t worry about the dancing part. Only the couple of honor, a few established couples, and some groups of women dance at these. Most people...

Cool. Let us know how it goes. The last wedding I went to was two years ago. Went with girl friend. Didn’t end up meeting anyone. The bride lady shook my hand and chatted with me. Ok no big deal. They usually go around and chat with all the guests. The interesting part was she...

I went to therapy in the early 2000s. It didn’t make any difference for me in the women department. But it did it boost my confidence enough to land my first job. So it was an overall positive.

Maybe you’re doing too much by going to large social events. Even for NTs, introverts tend to do best one on one or possibly with two friends. Not so much with big parties/events.

Haha. Yeah I had some funny ones I posted in the past. I shared them because it was stuff I learned the hard way. I haven’t gotten any IOIs in quite a long time to miss or report.

Yes. RP greatly overestimates women’s preference for older men.

I’ve generally received compliments on clothes over the years and still do. But I used to over dress pre-Cove. The nurse chick I dated in 2018 yelled at me once and said that I “needed to dress down.” She was super casual, so even me wearing a stylish button down shirt and dress pants on a...

“Getting your shyte together” is a relatively recent paradigm in the PUA community. Early PUA was just approach and learn game. Very little was said about other aspects of a guy’s life in early PUA (early 2000s). Some guys are still stuck in the old paradigm. TLDR: The line between...

It’s very specific to the guy as AA points out. There’s no one size fits all. Notwithstanding, if I had to put money on one of the above, I would say that, anecdotally, I’ve seen more guys succeed with #2.

Women don’t respect a “martyr.” Even if the unfortunate circumstances aren’t his fault and he bravely faces it, at best, she still won’t give him credit for it. At worst, she will blame him and look down on him for it.

Yeah I learned that term from my mom, a boomer. On here, I often use the term “chick” which is also very outdated to be fair lol.

Yes, going to focus on this one. Anecdotally I’ve seen plenty of cases where two brothers end up complete opposites in the dating department. Looks aside, one can end up a bad boy slayer, and the other can end up a gentle nice-guy-cel. They both responded differently to the dysfunction at...

Yeah that’s exactly what I’m getting at. My female friend either doesn’t hug me at all, or it’s an angled pat on the back one (FZ hug). Back when I took dance classes, there was one lady who would give me very firm hugs as a greeting and practically jammed her boobs into me. It was such a...

Good point. There are generally two types of hugs. If she’s attracted to the guy or at least considers him dateable/on her level, it will be a firm hug with both bodies squared up with each other (ie full boob contact against the guy’s chest). And her hands will typically be firmly on his...

Are you perhaps overbearing? Some extroverts can come across as “too much” even if they think they’re just being friendly. Maybe be a bit more chill.

“The right one will come along when you least expect it.” Umm not really lol.

Agree with all above. Yes, I lived at home and commuted to a college a half hour away. I didn’t date in college because I still had no social skills at that time. I was also an engineering student around probably 90% dudes, except for the Gen Ed classes. And I probably knew I couldn’t...

I had divorced parents and was raised mostly by my mom. She was super strict and controlling. It was just school and go home to do homework. No extra curricular activities or parties of any kind were allowed. I was allowed one guy friend and even he had to visit me rather than the other...

Nah, it’s too late lol. Way too far into FZ at this point.