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But it really doesn't matter, dude. Whatever she did or didn't do is not going to change what you should be doing (No Contact, Cold Turkey, Get Yourself Back). She didn't dump you for him. She dumped your relationship (safe, comfortable, fun, secure) for one with him (new, exciting, validating...

One more thing - every dude gets dumped at some point. It's just the way it goes. Women are fickle, especially at that age. Even if you're her favorite person in the whole, wide world, she's not going to settle for the first flavor she gets at the candy store. You need to operate under that same...

Don't just unfriend her. Go to BlockSite so you can't even check her pages for Updates. Don't hamster about it anymore. You're literally addicted to her, even though your rational mind tells you she's no good. Treat her like a drug and go cold turkey. She doesn't exist anymore and neither do...

30 days NC on Sunday. She and I belong to the same FB Group for a volunteer thing, so I've had to post on there a few times. She "Liked" one of my posts. Other than that, NADA.

This thread reminds me of a Will Rogers quote - "Good judgment comes from experience and a lot of that comes from bad judgment." It's become cliche at this point, but if only I knew this sh!t earlier!!!!!

My ex is "FB Official" with one of her orbiters about two months post breakup. Musical theatre people, so lots of gay guy friends and only a few straight (-Beta) ones. Just gonna' do my thing and let come what may.

Need some tips - I'm not getting any matches. I'm a good looking guy. Profile is funny, short. Only three pics, though admittedly all of them are just pics of me. Am I missing something? I only swipe during the day, rarely at "peak hours." Can you message someone outside of them being a "match?"

Day 21 No Contact. Day 8 No Snooping. 2.5 months Post BU. I don't want to make contact. I don't want to social media snoop. That's huge progress from where I was a month ago, or even a week ago. Still spending a lot of time on Love Shack and Relationship Talk reading articles about GIGS. Yes...

Day 16 - No Contact Day 3 - No social media snooping Saw this week that she was "FB Official" with a new dude - a grand total of two months after we broke up (oh, and I took her on a nice vacation). Rebound? Don't care. Overlap? Don't care. GIGS? Don't care. Falling apart because she misses me...

You're right. She's made this as clean as possible, so kudos to her. I know this isn't what you guys want to hear, but she did care enough not to rub my nose in it. That indicates some level of affection, though attraction is lost. As Paul McCartney once sang "I said something wrong, and now...

Day 7 - Still social media snooping (stupid). Still posting on forums, like this, looking for answers. But intellectually I know the answer. Emotionally, not there yet. In the grand scheme of things, she made the mistake, not me. I'm done with getting her back. I'm going to get myself back.

Thanks dude. Immediately post breakup I was way more rational, and even agreed with her decision frankly. Truth be told, I wanted out (maybe not right then, but eventually), but didn't want to hurt her. Then the inevitable mix of oneitis, scarcity mentality, post-breakup beta mentality, "Is she...

Haha, no I'm well aware. Really, what set me off was post-breakup blues/surprise, combined with the feeling that she got over me after everything we'd been through just like that. That messes with a guy. Clearly.

This is a silly and an unhealthy attitude, I admit, but I guess I just want the "power" to be back in my court. If I "better myself and reflect", what's the likelihood she'll regain her attraction after time passes? I mean, without getting too graphic, let's just say she'll have a lot to miss...

Any chance I hear back from her if I stay NC? Any insight as to why she's ignoring her old friends?

Again, the post-breakup fog is clearing. Just coming here for some opinions. My girlfriend of 19 months broke up with me two months ago. She's 20, I'm 27. Everything was fine until I made a comment that I wasn't going to propose during an upcoming trip. Key word - "during." We took the trip...