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Anybody had experience here? What has it been like? For me, the word "drama" is operative (duh, I know). Mixed signals in the lead-up to the relationship. Insecurity and cattiness in the relationship. Disappearing without a trace after. Talked to two girls who I've known for a while this...

From what I've seen, there's a lot of good-looking women out there married to straight up doofusy-looking guys for his "personality", even though the guy has none. Women want to be in relationships, need to be, ideally ones that take the least amount of effort to maintain as possible. Doofuses...

I have been dating a woman since February. We get along great, but there's no long-term there, we've both said we want to keep it casual and we haven't called each other BF/GF. So really, we're just dating, which is great. She may have an issue with me dating with other people, (she's asked if...

You'll forgive me - I'm an INTJ and perhaps overly logical in my pursuits (romantic or otherwise). When something doesn't make sense, I so desperately want to formulate an explanation for it that I ignore the reality that sometimes the best explanation - the only explanation - is there is none...

This is one of those "I know the problem, I'm looking for confirmation - or am I crazy?" posts. I'm not looking for answers, more group therapy, haha. Ghosting in my recent experience has been a HUGE issue. Very demoralizing. But I'm starting to notice a pattern (sorry, I'm slow) - I'm a...

10-4. All I did was send a jokey text on Tuesday. She texted back with a jokey response. I haven't sent anything since.

I'll preface this by saying I've had lots of great first dates that never led to a second date. I've concluded it was a mix of bad timing, and me being too overeager, too soon. So with that said.. Had a great first date. Lots of fun and chemistry... and some making out (PG-rated). She said...

Forgive her. Free yourself. Move on. If you find yourself feeling sorry for her (or anyone who has complete volition over their life and choices), go volunteer at a homeless shelter or a veteran's hospital. That'll put things in perspective.

There's a difference between being introverted and debilitatingly shy. If you can't act in any area of your life because of paralyzing shyness, you need to work on that one step at a time. If you're just guarded around people you don't know, nothing wrong with that - 1.) that's smart, and 2.)...

You're going to get a million different pieces of advice, and while all may be valuable, they may be irrelevant. Ask yourself - What is it that I'm missing? What is it that still hurts? Is it the sting of being dumped? Happens to everyone. Even Brad Pitt! Don't let your ego cloud your...

So pretend I have no idea what I'm doing (actually, don't pretend, looks like it's 100% true). Your advice is to just back off, and if she initiates, great? Otherwise, don't contact? I just don't see what I keep doing wrong. I've had a string of great first dates and I merely text the next day...

Counterpoint - girls play games too in order to protect their rep/ego/whatever - even with high IL. Is it worth my time? No, you're right, probably not. But should I just go cold, or try again?

So much to my disappointment/confusion, my last few first dates went great, but they ghosted before the second date. The 'ol self-esteem has taken a bit of a hit. These were cold pickups and OLD, so no big. This newest girl I know personally, so I'd like to avoid the ghosting fate. She invited...

"She's not for you." Best advice I can give you - and you in turn can give yourself. Not going to pretend it doesn't suck being lied to and replaced. It does. But really, truly, honestly, ask yourself - Do you want to spend one more second with someone who does that to you? Let alone spend...

So yeah, with social media you see tons of attractive women who are "Friends of Friends", but because of the creep-factor, you can't just randomly message them without being "guy who randomly Friends and messages girls on FB"...so what to do? I'll provide an example I'd like specific advice on...

Maybe I'm just fortunate, but I play my iPod on shuffle and the right song always seems to play eventually.

You can't intellectualize an addiction, you can only struggle through it. She's like drugs, alcohol or cigarettes - you know she's bad for you, but you still want that dopamine kick you get from her. Can you listen to music at work? Find a new song every day that you find validating and listen...

DAY 60! I'll just leave that sh!t at that.

Funnily enough, my scarcity mentality only springs up when I lose something - whether an LTR or a great date. Otherwise, I'm fine. It seems like my issue is I just don't like losing. So like you said, I just need to work on not giving a sh!t. I will say this - we had only met once before and...

I dunno man. If someone says "That's enough", then I'm not going to risk it. Besides, it's not like she said "I'm not sure" and I started apologizing. Way I see it, she essentially said "No", I respected boundaries, ended the night on a high note, then made contact a few days later...so yeah...