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Interesting. I've had similar experience. I wonder why the fluctuation in value of confidence may be tied to ovulation? Cheers,

Thanks very much for the recommended reading! In that sense i'm okay with a little "false confidence" - in a sense of needing a base level of confidence to even try a new task. That's one thing but building an ego or identity around false confidence is ****ed up.

concise and pragmatic. I dig it.

Cheers for the pointers. Interesting perspectives. It's funny how in some domains. let's say basketball its super obvious who a great player is. yet when it comes to seducing i could just say im amazing and theres not standard by which to measure me against. If I said I was better than Lebron...

I appreciate that perspective. I don't 100% agree about womens ability to see through BS but I hope you're right. Fair enough. Complaining isnt worth much. Cheers

For the sake of dialogue I'll assume you are actually serious with that comment. Yes it matters. it matters a lot. 1)it's the same phenomenon that give con-men the charm they have. 2) it's one of the underlying reasons for the glut of misinformation. 3) It can contribute to high anxiety...

This 1000%

No disrespect but this is deeper than PUA and that world. This is a human problem that I dont know if has any solution. It's probably not tenable to doubt everything all the time. And probably not possible to properly check everything all the time. so how do you navigate the mismatch between...

Just kind of odd. I'm probably missing something here in the situation but I literally almost never feel that feeling. I constantly am checking my thinking and asking myself "am I making a dumb mistake here?" I think my inability to exist out of that frame ( I.E. not have the sort of charming...

The other night I was out with some friends. Random guy who is a friend of a friend joins. Pretty normal night. Drinks, mingling, joking around. Cut to a conversation between me, one of my gfs and him. I have never met someone in real life who was more sure of himself yet more wrong about...

1) The only circumstance in which calling out works to your advantage is in person and when it happens and when it provides opportunity to increase banter/tension. if you were to call her out over text after the fact you 1) run the risk of text being misleading in what message you send 2) imply...

You made at least 50% of the mistake here. If an individuals entire operating system (in this case your brain) is able to be hijacked by a bug (in this case emotion) for a whole variety of reasons can you really expect a person (nevermind how this applies to just women) to be able to make a...

I mean it's a uncomfortable thought but as is the case in a lot of areas currently there is a big difference between pretending to comply with rules and norms and actually complying with rules and norms. I'd rather not get into a tinfoil hat style rant more than I already do but I'm extremely...

The real issue here is managing the perception of physical contact. I personally dont believe that this virus is really changing the core realities (it is changing the technicalities and dynamics) of dating. people are still ****ing. that will never stop. I've noticed that being a bit more...

I personally think philosophy is underneath literally every subject. Perhaps I'm stretching the definition of philosophy a bit but if you do that thing kids sometimes do where you repeatedly ask 'why?' it'll get pretty abstract and pretty philosophical really quickly. Developing a diverse...

Ya That was particularly weird. less than half a years if you count from the first case in Wuhan. (180 ish days) If the implicit time-horizon that people consider medium to long term is lets say 3 months then how in the **** are we supposed to motivate people on huge goals that take multiple...

Having a desire is antithetical to indifference. Unless you've all achieved nirvana I highly doubt all this chest puffing about indifference is anything more than that.

Agreed. I'd be elated if there were even small consistent improvements. However I think this is just the next story in the news cycle and will eventually blow over if covid regulations ease because people will go back to status quo normal life. In the same way George Floyd took over the...

Haha I love that. Kinda like the old experiment in youth education where they'd give young people animatronic dolls for several weeks that respond to stimulus (food, emotion, etc) to see how the kids respond. Also the egg experiment where kids are expected to "care" for an egg for a week and if...

Not really self-help explicitly but they do help in certain areas: Money: The Intelligent Investor - Benjamin Graham Any good book on budgeting --> also start tracking income, expenses,etc Dating: Book of pook - a classic from this community Models - Mark Manson Evolution of Desire - David...