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Okay Here's a little update.... I read some of the posts and decide maybe I'm overanalyzing everything. SO, I decide I'll go with the flow and see what happens. Considering my last contact e-mail, she left an invitation to seeing other again. I decided to ask her out. I had planned to ask...

Poonani... You're right about the posters here. There is a sense of brotherhood. Each understanding the other's predicament and basically looking out for the well being of their fellow man. I wish the situation was as you say, because I would have taken the approach most of you would have...

Thanks for your responses all have some avenues worth exploring... There are no expectations on my part. It would be easy to just go to dinner and have a good time, and we did that. Am I hoping for something more? I don't know. Based on what I've dealt with in the past, I'm pretty realistic...

Awhile back I pursued this chick and got nowhere with her. I basically cut off contact, but whenever she contacted me I was cool to her. She has for the past few months been trying to see me, but I've resisted it. Until the other day... She asks me out to dinner, her treat. I thought well...

Recently, we had been having some problems, and I fell into the "nice guy trap", trying to appease her and help her in her mood swings by being nice and understanding with her. Ironically, she started to lose interest in me and become more distant. Read this and think about what you've...

Missusomuch, Out of curiousity, did you confront the other guy? I mean, he's your friend.... There is a certain code, which appears to have been violated. How did you handle it? The reason I ask is... I have a close friend (close enough to go on vacation with) who is working a girl I am...

What's so funny is most fellows on this site are constantly complaining because they struggle with their girl fwandering away from the relationship. Your girl's behavior suggests a healthy dose of comfort with the security of the relationship. She appears to be statisfied with you as a mate...

Soprano, Trust your instincts. I've been in your shoes, and it smells like your being strung along. All for the attention. My advice to you is... Limit how much she affects you. Start to recognize the traps she sets and avoid them. For example, My girl of interest would tease me with...

Soprano, Trust your instincts. I've been in your shoes, and it smells like your being strung along. All for the attention. My advice to you is... Limit how much she affects you. Start to recognize the traps she sets and avoid them. For example, My girl of interest would tease me with...

You don't bring up the boyfriend. You don't bring up the weather. You stop talking to her. What good does it do you to continue this drama? I imagine your work is suffering and you're going nuts. By removing yourself from the drama equation you will get a sense of balance back. And what a relief...

MIssusomuch, She did the classic switch on you. It went from her doing something totally wrong to you hurting you her so bad that she can no longer be with you. WTF??? You're begging and pleading for someone who was screwing you and a friend at the same time???? She throws the...

lOUVG22, Who's to say if bringing up the other guy during lunch was to get you jealous or create some sort of reaction. It really doesn't matter what her intentions were. What matters is her disrespect for you. Her behavior was totally offbase, which you are partly responsible for. By...

Elton, My friend it aint gonna happen. She controls the pace for a reason. Move on. It's not easy. She will find another method to manipulate you for the attention. She saw your sympathetic ear as a way of getting attention. NOw that you're tired of it because nothing of substance is...

I have an opinion slighty different than the other guys on this post. I believe you can get her back by removing yourself from the picture. Cut off all contact!!!! It might be difficult especially at work. But it can be done. All it requires is an enormous amount of patience and a...

Do a search under histrionic personality disorder or just the word histrionic. Plenty. Your girl might not necessarily fall into the category, but might have strong similarities. The thing most striking about AW's is the constant need for attention. That is why they come on so strong. They...

JJMCLURE, You are spot on with this one. Uncertainty is the key to their game. The one thing I've noticed about an AW I've dealt with, is the strong need for power. Everything is about controlling the situation. Making up crap to create drama. She even told me she thought she was dying to...

Okay Here's an update.. I decided I was going to take all of your advice and attempt to apply the principles as best as I could. I've tried to stay away and avoid using this site as a game enhancer. It hasn't been easy. What I have learned through searching is I'm dealing with a full blown AW...

Korean Girls are more introverted. You want a fun girl that's open. Stick with Filipinas. They are definitely less inhibited. Trust me :D

Thanks for the feedback gentleman! I've been pushed back towards evaluating what is important to me. This was definitely a reality check. Victory Unlimited You provided real insight when you say: I hope I don't have an AW on my hands. I think I was sucked in by this girl with...