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I think you stay too much in your comfort zone (same hobbies, friends, etc.), and that's what is keeping you from moving forward. I'm not in your head, but don't rush things. Try a total new activity and see how it goes ? You will find a new circle with new people and you can take it from...

Ok I see I'll repeat myself again, so bear with me my friend. So she likes to be in contradiction right ? and you're letting her. What can you do ? What is your weapon ? Yup, same old song again Your attention is your weapon. Withdraw it. Don't let her drive you too much. It's ok to...

BPD Borderline Personnality disorder

She seems BDP to me run fast

Go for it and have fun. once. Then run because they're crazy

She is behaving like that AT YOUR DATE FFS Look, it's one of those 2 scnenarii 1/ It's a sh1t test to see how you will react. She is gauging your IL toward her. By doing nothing, you're cutting of your BALLZ in her eyes and you'll be nexted 2/ She is playing games to get the power...

My guess is that You still have oneitis. Just go NO CONTACT at all, spin plates. Eventually, you'll be healed

Always trust your guts and judge her based on her acts, not on what she's saying Go ghost. Things will get clear

^^^ this Yeah, I bet that he is some kind of an orbiter that tries to get in her pants and use you. So everything you tell him will reach her, with some deformation in the process to make you look bad. Cut the ties my friend

Dtsm3, No contact doesn't mean you don't talk to her. It means you cut EVERY flows of information between you and her. That's the true form of NC and the most effective way to heal. Read at some earlier post (vegaFan I think) when his friend talked about her and how that set him back...

BeatJunkie, Yeah It never feel right at first. But give it more time my friend. There are things that can play as an emotional trigger and set you back a little, like now. That why you get rid of all the things that can make you think about her. Obviously, you can't get rid of everything...

Darrenez, my friend Yeah you might have gained a little more power. Could have been better if you were with another girl on that picture ! But I don't know. The way you describe this event, I feel like in reality, you're still too focused on that sh!t. I know you can't change your...

CerwinVegaFan, man, I can totally feel what you're going through, my friend. If there are things that you absolutely need, well yeah get them back. And GTFO But for the watch or **** like that, don't even care. Let her keep it. Actually, it will make her think about you. If you get it back...

STOP IT RIGHT NOW. DELETE. Or your next post will be "back to square 1, I'm crushed. You were right" Just... don't. Or don't send and post it here if you want. (can be therapeutic)

Ok on the topic of things that have to be settled post break up : Shoes, concert ticket, or anything. Consider that it's gone. Don't dwell on it. For me, it was money (and a lot). What I actually did is playing the indifference game. But I'm financially very solid, so maybe it's not...

I think you already realize that it's only an excuse right ? Like I said, keep cool, do it with professionnalism. Keep it short, polite. DO NOT SHOW ANYTHING ELSE or you will be back to square one, hurting like hell. As a bonus, more hamster spinning for her too ! If you don't and start...

Ncnoob, If you show her what you're showing to us, even just a glimpse, then it's already her win. Because she will tell to herself things like : 1/ Her decision is right ("thank god I dumped him, he is crazy and want to hurt me" 2/ He is not over me and I'm over him. such a chump ! I...

@CerwinVegaFan Stay strong my friend. You've been "70%" dumped. There is a reason for it. And realize that this reason is still there. Now, yeah I feel you man. 4 years is no small wound (7 for me, so I've been there). Maybe you should consider not even reading her message or listening to...

What you're feeling right now, I think everyone here know it well. Basically, you want some proof for yourself that everything wasn't a lie. That he is as hurting as you do because he also cared. Guess what ? He did. Even if he doesn't show it, I promise, it's just a mask he is wearing...

I think you are just making excuse because your ex is still on a piedestal right now. First don't think that she will come back. It will juste create hope that will be trashed. Now, consider this : if she shows sign wanting to come back, it has to be a very strong and determined sign...