Right mate, Imma break this whole thing down for you...
I've been with my girlfriend a little over 8 months and it's occasionally been rocky as all relationships are
No. Not ALL relationships are.
, but on the whole, It's been great. Recently she's been very up and down again and been moping around the house for the last week or so. She isn't on her period
It's not only when she's on you have to worry about. It's the week before AND the week after as well. Look up PMS and PMT. Women are under serious influence of various hormone fluctuations for AT LEAST 3 weeks per month.
and prior to this she's seemed generally happy apart from going through these weird hot and cold phases but thats pretty standard. Tonighr after putting up with some of her bull**** for the last week or two where she's told me that the guy should pay for everything and that I dont treat her enough (having paid for all but 1 date in 8 months,
In the 21st century, you need to stop doing that, unless she's your house wife. Which I doubt she is.
that really got under my skin)
I'm not surprised. Either that she said it, nor that it got under your skin. You are spoiling her and she's got used to it. Probably from other men too. Until she meets a real man (potentially you, but it may be too late to back-track now), who expects her to pay her way as well, or at least share, she'll always be like this. You're gonna pay for every date for the rest of your life? You're a fool.
'The man pays everything' is SO antiquated in today's society. I'm dating a uni student and she still buys me lunch/dinner/drinks. And I allow her to.
and her snapping at me big time for asking why she's been moping about and if she's okay,
F*ck it. She's far too comfortable. And when a women gets too comforatble in a relationship, the relationship on the downward slope, the top of the bell-curve, not going to get better. You need to start manning-up with this chick, and quickly. She sounds bored and complacent, not BPD (Bipolar).
she has also been attempting to get me to do everything for her, washing up, filling her glasses of water/making her cups of coffee etc when im busy and she's just doing nothing,
Same goes here for with the paying for dates. You are doing FAR too much for this lazy bint.
I snapped. I asked her if this is what she wanted
DON'T ask her what she wants AGAIN, FFS. You already give her far too much.
and that she's been treating me like **** recently and it needs to change.
THIS is the CORRECT attitude, my friend. But you need to back it up with action, not just words (despite what they say, women react more to actions than words). Take time out from her. Start having less time for her. Make less time for her. And she needs to find a hobby by the sounds of it.
She started crying and after about 40 minutes, she got more upset and told me I was a prick. We talked normally for a bit and it seemed alright but she said that 'this side of me scared her'. Who's in the wrong here and how can I sort this all out? Thanks in advance and sorry for the long post.
No one's in the 'wrong'. You're both under the delusion of how modern relationships work.
YOU need to man up and stop being such a push-over (see above).
SHE needs to start investing a bit more in the whole affair, the more a woman invests, the more she is metaphorically invested in you as well.
YOU BOTH need a time-out and not rely on each other as sole purposes in your lives. Despite what modern 'romance' dictates, a 'couple' remains two individuals who just happen to be together. You are both losing elements of your individual selves, if you rely on each other for self-actualisation too much (as a couple).
There's a start, for a Saturday night.....