Getting with older women

[BackInTheGame78]

Please don't suggest an autist to go barebacking. Pulling out before the chorus isn't a safe method of birth control.

I think he's better off getting snipped.

He doesn't have sex anyway, he should have plenty of time to practice on between

 

[GoodMan32]

Please don't suggest an autist to go barebacking. Pulling out before the chorus isn't a safe method of birth control.

I think he's better off getting snipped.

I knew a man who relied on pulling out. He had 3 kids.

You're right, pulling out isn't effective.

 

[GoodMan32]

He doesn't have sex anyway, he should have plenty of time to practice on between

Umm, I have sex probably 2 dozen times per year.

 

[Solomon]

Most men on here appear to be into younger women.

I am in somewhat of the opposite position. Despite being 32, I prefer women in the 45-65 age range (I might even be willing to go above 65 on a case-by-case basis).

Is there anything different about the approach a man should use when trying to get a woman significantly older than himself?

Also, seeing as a decent chunk of that age range is old enough to be my mom, how do I get past the "I couldn't bring myself to do a bedroom session with a guy young enough to be my son" roadblock that a lot of older women have?

Older women are the easiest to get with especially if you're a younger guy in your 30s
1. Just be in shape
2. Don't be a weirdo

Some older women have high libido and want to have fun. The only thing about older women especially that age range 45-65.
Some of them have insufferable, vapid personalities, due to bitter or jaded life experiences. This is why I prefer to date younger or if around my age she has to not be bitter and jaded.

 

[GoodMan32]

Older women are the easiest to get with especially if you're a younger guy in your 30s
1. Just be in shape
2. Don't be a weirdo

Some older women have high libido and want to have fun. The only thing about older women especially that age range 45-65.
Some of them have insufferable, vapid personalities, due to bitter or jaded life experiences. This is why I prefer to date younger or if around my age she has to not be bitter and jaded.

I'm in pretty good shape (my newly uploaded profile picture is my bicep)

The "don't be a weirdo" part is the challenge for me (seeing as I'm an autist)

 

[GoodMan32]

On the topic of older women:

I've said on the forum before that the last time I had free sex was 3 and a half years ago.

After thinking on it, the last time I had free sex with a woman below 30 (or even a woman below 40 for that matter), however, was 2012. More than a decade ago.

Let that sink in. Ever since I nailed a 22 year old in October 2012, I've had no free sex with any 20-somethings or 30-somethings (only 40-somethings). Perhaps that's a sign I really am meant for older broads.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Let that sink in. Ever since I nailed a 22 year old in October 2012, I've had no free sex with any 20-somethings or 30-somethings (only 40-somethings). Perhaps that's a sign I really am meant for older broads.

and that you should stop ogling college-age girls and judge their baggy clothes.

 

[GoodMan32]

and that you should stop ogling college-age girls and judge their baggy clothes.

The young meat is nice to look at (even if I don't want to get involved with one anymore, baggy pants or not)

I'm glad the 22 year old I got with in October 2012 was wearing yoga pants.

As for the baggy pants on the college girl you're referencing from another thread, here's an analogy: It's been said on this forum that it's a shame when a young guy "ruins" his looks by dressing like a Boomer dad. Couldn't it also be said that it's a shame when a hottie ruins her good looks by wearing baggy pants?

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

As for the baggy pants on the college girl you're referencing from another thread, here's an analogy: It's been said on this forum that it's a shame when a young guy "ruins" his looks by dressing like a Boomer dad. Couldn't it also be said that it's a shame when a hottie ruins her good looks by wearing baggy pants?

The difference, Oh Dense One, is that the clueless man needs fashion advice because he wants to be ogled preferably by attractive women. He'll get some attention from the unattractive women, but nothing he can't handle.
The 'hottie' on the other hand tries not draw lustful looks and makes her unattractive to shallow pervs. She doing a good job of getting her goal by discouraging creepy pervs from approaching her. So she's a success, not a failure.

 

[GoodMan32]

The difference, Oh Dense One, is that the clueless man needs fashion advice because he wants to be ogled preferably by attractive women. He'll get some attention from the unattractive women, but nothing he can't handle.
The 'hottie' on the other hand tries not draw lustful looks and makes her unattractive to shallow pervs. She doing a good job of getting her goal by discouraging creepy pervs from approaching her. So she's a success, not a failure.

Umm, this forum is full of men who like to see a nice backside in tight jeans.

I'm pretty sure a lot of men on here would refrain from approaching a broad in baggy pants (no matter how good her looks are)

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Umm, this forum is full of men who like to see a nice backside in tight jeans.

Yes, and 90% of these members are creepy pervs this college-aged girl doesn't want any attention from because they're icky and cringe.

I'm pretty sure a lot of men on here would refrain from approaching a broad in baggy pants (no matter how good her looks are)

Wow, you're dense. The girl wearing baggy trouwers is purposely making herself unattractive to shallow creepy pervs. If her baggy pants discourage you and the other shallow pervs from approaching her, she is succeeding in her goal. She doesn't want to be approached by you. She is not looking to date you. She's comfortably dressing in baggy trousers because they're comfy and as a bonus repel creepy freaks who might think of her as a 'broad' or who drool over her 'nice backside in tight jeans'.



It's like women exercising with headphones on. They don't want to be approached. They're exercising. They noticed that horny guys stopped approaching them when they blocked their hearing. That's why they wear those huge headphones instead of more suitable for sports in-ear earphones. Creepy freaks who want to approach them might overlook the tiny white knobs in their ears, but the huge DJ headphones are visible from miles away.

And now you come in that these women obviously making themselves unattractive or incommunicado are missing out on getting approached by people like you. No, dude, they're not missing out.

She's breathing a sigh of relief that her headphones keep the freaks at bay so she can exercise.
She's breathing a sigh of relief that you stopped checking out her butt in her formless pants.

They're both glad they don't have to rebuff your creepy approaches and thank their deities for headphones and baggy pants.

 

[GoodMan32]

I've made it clear on this forum my pregnency phobia is why I prefer older.

That being said, I recall one poster (I think it might have been @BaronOfHair) suggesting I might seek older broads as a PTSD response to the way my female peers treated me in high school (viewing me as the freak of the school, a freaky creep no girl would possibly want, etc)

I stand by my claim that the pregnancy thing is undoubtedly the primary reason I prefer older.

I'm starting to suspect, however, the PTSD explanation might be a secondary reason I prefer older.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I've made it clear on this forum my pregnency phobia is why I prefer older.

That being said, I recall one poster (I think it might have been @BaronOfHair) suggesting I might seek older broads as a PTSD response to the way my female peers treated me in high school (viewing me as the freak of the school, a freaky creep no girl would possibly want, etc)

The bar for acquiring PTSD has become lower than Sydeney Sweeney's typical neckline these days

 

[GoodMan32]

The bar for acquiring PTSD has become lower than Sydeney Sweeney's typical neckline these days

Obviously I don't compare myself to a soldier who fought in Iraq when I say PTSD.

But when you hear the message "you're a creepy freak no girl would possibly want" all throughout middle school/high school (then, to some degree, in college too), it can tear you down.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Obviously I don't compare myself to a soldier who fought in Iraq when I say PTSD.

But when you hear the message "you're a creepy freak no girl would possibly want" all throughout middle school/high school (then, to some degree, in college too), it can tear you down.

CPTSD (complex ptsd) is the term you're looking for.

 

[GoodMan32]

CPTSD (complex ptsd) is the term you're looking for.

Fair enough. Call it what you want. The point is it might at least partially explain my preference for older broads.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Fair enough. Call it what you want. The point is it might at least partially explain my preference for older broads.

Actually, no. C-PTSD does not change your sexual preferences that way.

You don't have PTSD or C-PTSD. You're just autistic, which often comes with weird phobias to justify self-soothing behaviour.

Like a phobia for getting women pregnant is a mental justification for your emotionally autistic mind to your fetish for maternal figures. You feel safe with old women who won't ask you to be a man, but with whom you can be as much as a child as you want to be.

 

[GoodMan32]

Actually, no. C-PTSD does not change your sexual preferences that way.

You don't have PTSD or C-PTSD. You're just autistic, which often comes with weird phobias to justify self-soothing behaviour.

Like a phobia for getting women pregnant is a mental justification for your emotionally autistic mind to your fetish for maternal figures. You feel safe with old women who won't ask you to be a man, but with whom you can be as much as a child as you want to be.

First of all, 45 (the age in which where I'm no longer afraid to insert myself into a woman) isn't old enough to be my mom. A mere 12 years; that's more in older cousin/older sister territory.

Second of all, having a phobia of pregnancy is one thing. But going as far as focusing on post-prime broads to circumvent a pregnancy phobia, that's on an entirely new level. Many men couldn't bring themselves to focus on post-prime broads, no matter how much the man fears pregnancy. Hell, even on this very forum, I hear there used to be an active fellow autist who shared my crippling pregnancy phobia...yet even he (from what I've heard) preferred young broads.

There has to be another factor at play for why I feel no romantic feelings at all toward young broads. Young broads can be nice to look at; no doubt (And I'd love to kiss/fondle a young broad, as well as watch a young broad pee). But the desire to get romantically involved (or have sex) with a young broad? That desire is simply lacking in me.

There's got to be another explanation (besides my pregnancy phobia/ASD) at play to explain my total lack of romantic interest in young broads.

And I already covered why the mommy issues explanation isn't it. Mommy issues wouldn't explain why my preferred minimum age of 45 remains unchanged, even as the age gap between myself and a 45 year old broad narrows.

 

[SW15]

The "don't be a weirdo" part is the challenge for me (seeing as I'm an autist)

Game is a combination of looks, money, status, and personality. While I don't think personality affects seduction as much as looks or money, it can have an impact.

With your personality, younger women likely perceive you as strange. They feel something is off and they feel "the ick". Women who are younger than you are have a very low bar for behavioral oddities.

You are likely to have a very high rejection rate with younger women due to behavioral oddities. That's why multiple forum members have suggested therapy and medication.

For neurotypicals, chasing older women is very rare. Some younger guys might find it exciting to have sex with one of their mom's friends in their late teens/early 20s. Most neurotypical men grow out of that quickly. That's because the body of a 25-30 year old woman is superior to the body of a 45-50 year old woman.

Right now, 25-32 is a realistic age range for a 33 year old man. Most 33 year old men are focusing their attention on women in that age range when they find themselves single.

 

[GoodMan32]

Game is a combination of looks, money, status, and personality. While I don't think personality affects seduction as much as looks or money, it can have an impact.

With your personality, younger women likely perceive you as strange. They feel something is off and they feel "the ick". Women who are younger than you are have a very low bar for behavioral oddities.

You are likely to have a very high rejection rate with younger women due to behavioral oddities. That's why multiple forum members have suggested therapy and medication.

For neurotypicals, chasing older women is very rare. Some younger guys might find it exciting to have sex with one of their mom's friends in their late teens/early 20s. Most neurotypical men grow out of that quickly. That's because the body of a 25-30 year old woman is superior to the body of a 45-50 year old woman.

Right now, 25-32 is a realistic age range for a 33 year old man. Most 33 year old men are focusing their attention on women in that age range when they find themselves single.

There's some stuff I'd like to unpack about your post.

Other than observing my writing style in my posts (and hearing me mention stuff like being viewed as the freak of the school in high school), you don't know a whole lot about my personality.

Worth mentioning is the fact you said I don't show any surefire clues of being an autist in the YouTube clip you saw of me. Let's put it this way: If 100 randomly selected Americans who don't know me in person were to watch that clip, they'd probably be shocked to find out I was viewed as a creepy freak in high school.

Additionally, if (per your own admission) I'd have an extremely high rejection rate among broads younger than me, it's somewhat contradictory to then say I should pursue younger.

Yeah, I get that most 33 year olds don't want older. But I'm not most 33 year olds.

Reading between the lines, it sounds like older broads perhaps are more lenient when it comes to "off" behavior? In that case, it would appear going older might make the most sense in my specific circumstances (Especially since I prefer older anyway. As I said on my last post on this thread, young broads are nice to look at, yet I have no romantic feelings toward young broads)

I've gone to several therapists already. As for medication, my parents opted out of putting me on medication as a kid because medication often leads to new problems. They were right.