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[SW15]

The difference between myself and neurotypicals is the fact virtually no neurotypicals would commit suicide over a pregnancy. Put frankly, the stakes (when it comes to pregnancy) are a lot higher with me. That's why I'm willing to focus on older broads who are past their peak attractiveness, if that's what it takes to avoid ending up in a position where I have to kill myself.

As for the age preference thing, I'm totally fine with anyone pointing out the fact many broads in my preferred age cohort won't go for a 33 year old. What I'm not fine with is when anyone (whether online or offline) tries to convince me I should change my age preference.

Telling a guy who's afraid to stick it in a fertile-age broad that he should go for fertile broads, on the other hand, is like telling a guy with a fear of heights that he should apply to a roofer job.

The statements that you make are indicative of abnormal psychology. I'm not sure if you realize this. Neurotypicals would read this and come to this conclusion.

A response like this is the type of response that a neurotypical person has with your fixation with menopausal/post menopausal women.

Handsiness and age

I mentioned on a recent post that older broads have generally been much handsier with me than younger broads. I suppose the topic warrants its own discussion. Has anyone else noticed the same pattern? Or have younger broads been handsier in your experience?

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There is a way to fix abnormal psychology. It likely involves therapy and medication. Mental health professionals would need to be involved. You would have to seek out treatment from the appropriate mental health professional.

You have been told to fix your mindset by other posters on this forum.

YouTuber does 100 ask outs to overcome fear of rejection

I remember reading a comment on Quora once that said something along the lines of "There are many cases where a woman thinks she's being obvious, the man thinks she's only being nice, so then he never makes a move on her (even though he is into her). One problem is all the attention hos out...

www.sosuave.net

YouTuber does 100 ask outs to overcome fear of rejection

I remember reading a comment on Quora once that said something along the lines of "There are many cases where a woman thinks she's being obvious, the man thinks she's only being nice, so then he never makes a move on her (even though he is into her). One problem is all the attention hos out...

www.sosuave.net

 

[BeExcellent]

On the topic of my age preferences when picking a woman, I'd be intrigued to hear if @BeExcellent thinks the odds of a woman going for a man 12 years younger are as dismal as some posters make it sound (my age preference begins at 12 years older than me)

As a woman whose husband is 8 years younger than her, she could provide some valuable insight. 12 years really isn't a whole lot different than 8 years. It's not like we're talking about a 20+ year (or even 15 year) age gap.

The odds are certainly NOT in your favor. Women are going to shy away because they will see you as an individual who lacks the life experience to lead them. On top of that the spectrum and your deficits in social calibration are additional impediments.

My husband has elite level looks, is a elite level athlete and has killer style. He makes a six figure income. He is over 6 feet tall, all the physical things y'all are constantly jealous about on here. He had never before been married and he has no children of his own. He thinks he ought to be the MAN in the relationship, but he acts like an immature selfish punk much too often, tries to tell me how to parent (then gets upset when I ignore his faulty advice), tries to lecture me on real estate despite never having owned any real estate himself. He acts insecure around my social circles and the very very successful and smart men who are in that social circle.

He lacks the maturity to stay in his lane. I've done 50+ real estate transactions and built my net worth via investment property....I've raised 3 respectful children with great behavior and good values. He tries to assert himself in inappropriate ways where he has no experience. It is annoying. Needless to say his behavior is eroding my respect for him, and that is not good.

The trade off of course is that I run circles around most men my age & older. I want someone I can play golf, dance, and ski with, someone very active. I don't want a guy with a gut and a C-pap who needs to be in bed by 10pm. I want someone desirable. So I took the tradeoff but it is not all unicorns and rainbows. I nearly skipped him altogether because of the age gap. He was very persistent.

 

[SW15]

I run circles around most men my age & older. I want someone I can play golf, dance, and ski with, someone very active. I don't want a guy with a gut and a C-pap who needs to be in bed by 10pm. I want someone desirable. So I took the tradeoff but it is not all unicorns and rainbows. I nearly skipped him altogether because of the age gap.

In general, a woman in her 50s would be most likely to date a man in his 50s-early 60s.

A woman who is in good shape in her 50s eliminates a lot of men in their 50s-early 60s in below average to bad shape. It was reality for you dating in your late 40s/early 50s to have to encounter some men in their 50s with significant health concerns that have altered their lifestyles.

Most women in their late 40s/early 50s won't go younger but will try to look for the similarly aged men in good shape. They would be looking for the roughly 55 year old man who lives an active lifestyle.

While a woman in her 50s can get an abundance of options (usually by using tech based dating methods), her abundance of options often aren't very impressive.

 

[GoodMan32]

The odds are certainly NOT in your favor. Women are going to shy away because they will see you as an individual who lacks the life experience to lead them. On top of that the spectrum and your deficits in social calibration are additional impediments.

My husband has elite level looks, is a elite level athlete and has killer style. He makes a six figure income. He is over 6 feet tall, all the physical things y'all are constantly jealous about on here. He had never before been married and he has no children of his own. He thinks he ought to be the MAN in the relationship, but he acts like an immature selfish punk much too often, tries to tell me how to parent (then gets upset when I ignore his faulty advice), tries to lecture me on real estate despite never having owned any real estate himself. He acts insecure around my social circles and the very very successful and smart men who are in that social circle.

He lacks the maturity to stay in his lane. I've done 50+ real estate transactions and built my net worth via investment property....I've raised 3 respectful children with great behavior and good values. He tries to assert himself in inappropriate ways where he has no experience. It is annoying. Needless to say his behavior is eroding my respect for him, and that is not good.

The trade off of course is that I run circles around most men my age & older. I want someone I can play golf, dance, and ski with, someone very active. I don't want a guy with a gut and a C-pap who needs to be in bed by 10pm. I want someone desirable. So I took the tradeoff but it is not all unicorns and rainbows. I nearly skipped him altogether because of the age gap. He was very persistent.

So in conclusion, despite the fact he has stuff going for him that I don't (height, income, athleticism), his ASD still causes him to exhibit certain behaviors that make you barely tolerate him.

Goes to show how much of a hurdle ASD is (even without taking age into account)

Circling back to age, what about if I'm looking for casual sex (rather than a girlfriend/wife)? Would the age gap between myself and my preferred woman (45-60s) matter as much then?

 

[GoodMan32]

The statements that you make are indicative of abnormal psychology. I'm not sure if you realize this. Neurotypicals would read this and come to this conclusion.

A response like this is the type of response that a neurotypical person has with your fixation with menopausal/post menopausal women.

Handsiness and age

I mentioned on a recent post that older broads have generally been much handsier with me than younger broads. I suppose the topic warrants its own discussion. Has anyone else noticed the same pattern? Or have younger broads been handsier in your experience?

www.sosuave.net

There is a way to fix abnormal psychology. It likely involves therapy and medication. Mental health professionals would need to be involved. You would have to seek out treatment from the appropriate mental health professional.

You have been told to fix your mindset by other posters on this forum.

YouTuber does 100 ask outs to overcome fear of rejection

I remember reading a comment on Quora once that said something along the lines of "There are many cases where a woman thinks she's being obvious, the man thinks she's only being nice, so then he never makes a move on her (even though he is into her). One problem is all the attention hos out...

www.sosuave.net

YouTuber does 100 ask outs to overcome fear of rejection

I remember reading a comment on Quora once that said something along the lines of "There are many cases where a woman thinks she's being obvious, the man thinks she's only being nice, so then he never makes a move on her (even though he is into her). One problem is all the attention hos out...

www.sosuave.net

Ok, for argument's sake, let's pretend I were to start focusing on my own age bracket. After thinking on it, I have my doubts of how much better my luck would really be.

I'd still be swimming against the current because of my ASD. The vast majority of the female population will never find an autist sexually exciting.

As @BeExcellent indicated on her post, her husband's ASD makes him exhibit behaviors she can barely stand.

The fact I was viewed as the freaky creep no girl wanted in high school, as well as the fact I relied on tech methods in college, goes to show what broads born in the 1989-94 range think of me.

Then there was my last date (back in 2023) with the 1985 baby (which is still relatively close in age to me). It took all of 4 days for her to start giving me attitude.

Additionally, my insistence on watching my partner pee is a hurdle too (as not every woman is on board with her partner watching her)

In conclusion, I circle back to what I said at the beginning of my post (I'm swimming against the current even with broads close in age to me)

 

[SW15]

let's pretend I were to start focusing on my own age bracket. After thinking on it, I have my doubts of how much better my luck would really be.

I'd still be swimming against the current because of my ASD. The vast majority of the female population will never find an autist sexually exciting.

In conclusion, I circle back to what I said at the beginning of my post (I'm swimming against the current even with broads close in age to me)

Your ASD does not make you that special. The conventional mating environment is challenging for neurotypicals who have a healthy range BMI and are looking to date women close to their age.

Neurotypicals don't throw up their hands and give up on dating women in the own age bracket because the environment is tough. Neurotypicals under 35 don't decide that dating menopausal/post menopausal women is the solution to their problems. I can't think of any neurotypical who would choose that solution if he were having a problem in the conventional mating market.

A neurotypical with a strong mindset will engage in self-improvement tactics to get pussie near his own age. He might try to level up in his fitness or career to improve looks/money/status. Improving looks/money/status can help with getting pussie.

You need to improve mindset, which covers the personality side of the attraction/seduction equation.

The current mating environment really stinks for a lot of men. It's bad out there. You're not doing yourself any favors with your mindset.

The fact I was viewed as the freaky creep no girl wanted in high school, as well as the fact I relied on tech methods in college, goes to show what broads born in the 1989-94 range think of me.

It's true that you received negative feedback from the market in high school and in college. That stinks for you.

You finished high school 15 years ago. That shouldn't be relevant anymore. If you finished college in 4-5 years after high school, that means college is 10 years in the past.

You are letting old information guide the present. At a certain point, information becomes outdated and is no longer relevant.

I am TOTALLY UNIMPRESSED with the work that you have done in psychotherapy with various psychologists and/or psychiatrists. This is something that should have been fixed in talk therapy and/or with medication a long time ago.

You need to bring in new mental health professionals to assess your current situation and help you work past these old problems. Only mental health professionals can do this. No SoSuave forum poster can help you fix your mindset problems unless you take the initiative and fix your problems with the correct therapy and medication process as diagnosed and guided by a licensed mental health professional.

there was my last date (back in 2023) with the 1985 baby (which is still relatively close in age to me). It took all of 4 days for her to start giving me attitude.

So what? I could go on a date with a 1985 born woman within the next week and she could start giving me attitude within 4 days. That's nothing special.

If I went on a date with a woman born in 1985 this week and she showed that she had an attitude problem, I would get rid of her as fast as I could. I would want nothing to do with her.

I can give you an example of a woman who gave me bad attitude and I punted her over it.

At some point in the 2010s, I set up a date from a swipe app. At the time, my car was over 10 years old. It was a car that was mechanically sound and in good shape. It looked good on the outside too. She gave me attitude on the first date about having an old car as she had a less than 2 year old luxury car at the time (it was one of those crossover models). I punted her fast over her attitude that my car was trash. I didn't try to bang her and I didn't want to be around someone with her bad attitude over my car.

Also, for you, a 1985 woman is like a 1977 woman for me. I don't go on dates with women born in 1977. That would be a waste of my time. I'm not going to get what I want out of a woman born in 1977 and she's not going to get what she wants out of me.

 

[GoodMan32]

Your ASD does not make you that special. The conventional mating environment is challenging for neurotypicals who have a healthy range BMI and are looking to date women close to their age.

Neurotypicals don't throw up their hands and give up on dating women in the own age bracket because the environment is tough. Neurotypicals under 35 don't decide that dating menopausal/post menopausal women is the solution to their problems. I can't think of any neurotypical who would choose that solution if he were having a problem in the conventional mating market.

A neurotypical with a strong mindset will engage in self-improvement tactics to get pussie near his own age. He might try to level up in his fitness or career to improve looks/money/status. Improving looks/money/status can help with getting pussie.

You need to improve mindset, which covers the personality side of the attraction/seduction equation.

The current mating environment really stinks for a lot of men. It's bad out there. You're not doing yourself any favors with your mindset.



It's true that you received negative feedback from the market in high school and in college. That stinks for you.

You finished high school 15 years ago. That shouldn't be relevant anymore. If you finished college in 4-5 years after high school, that means college is 10 years in the past.

You are letting old information guide the present. At a certain point, information becomes outdated and is no longer relevant.

I am TOTALLY UNIMPRESSED with the work that you have done in psychotherapy with various psychologists and/or psychiatrists. This is something that should have been fixed in talk therapy and/or with medication a long time ago.

You need to bring in new mental health professionals to assess your current situation and help you work past these old problems. Only mental health professionals can do this. No SoSuave forum poster can help you fix your mindset problems unless you take the initiative and fix your problems with the correct therapy and medication process as diagnosed and guided by a licensed mental health professional.



So what? I could go on a date with a 1985 born woman within the next week and she could start giving me attitude within 4 days. That's nothing special.

If I went on a date with a woman born in 1985 this week and she showed that she had an attitude problem, I would get rid of her as fast as I could. I would want nothing to do with her.

I can give you an example of a woman who gave me bad attitude and I punted her over it.

At some point in the 2010s, I set up a date from a swipe app. At the time, my car was over 10 years old. It was a car that was mechanically sound and in good shape. It looked good on the outside too. She gave me attitude on the first date about having an old car as she had a less than 2 year old luxury car at the time (it was one of those crossover models). I punted her fast over her attitude that my car was trash. I didn't try to bang her and I didn't want to be around someone with her bad attitude over my car.

Also, for you, a 1985 woman is like a 1977 woman for me. I don't go on dates with women born in 1977. That would be a waste of my time. I'm not going to get what I want out of a woman born in 1977 and she's not going to get what she wants out of me.

Umm, my preference for older broads isn't because of the struggles I've faced with my own age bracket. It's a pregnancy prevention loophole.

As for the story of a broad giving you attitude over your car, I agree you were right to deep six her.

From the sounds of it, she gave you the attitude on the 1st date. At least you knew right from the start she was bad news. The alarming part about the 1985 baby I had the date with is the fact the 1st date went extremely well, yet I still ended up getting attitude 4 days later.

 

[BeExcellent]

So in conclusion, despite the fact he has stuff going for him that I don't (height, income, athleticism), his ASD still causes him to exhibit certain behaviors that make you barely tolerate him.

Goes to show how much of a hurdle ASD is (even without taking age into account)

Circling back to age, what about if I'm looking for casual sex (rather than a girlfriend/wife)? Would the age gap between myself and my preferred woman (45-60s) matter as much then?

I love him very much. He loves in a way that is difficult to describe. Almost child like in its innocence & belief in the idea of love. And he is beautifully dedicated to that love idea and expressive of it with a largeness of heart that is as unusual as it is refreshing. Psychologists refer to it as austic joy. It is a wonderment you could say. He loves me very much too. So I would not say I "barely tolerate" him. Its just a study in contrasts behaviorally

You see ASD people feel the normal range of emotions, sometimes very much more intensely than the neurotypical person. They just don't always know how to channel what they feel. And often they have zero filter in social settings.

He is not going to be controlled (good, but at times annoying), and he is rigid in his expectations. But he does try to relate & to show me how he feels. And he has let me in, which is like getting access to Fort Knox.

But no relationship is a total picnic. I happened to choose a more complicated man than most.

In answer to your question, yes. I think your prospects are better looking for a short term lover type interaction, however the other problem you may face is women my age often want to settle down as their beauty fades, and in that case will look for a more relatable life companion candidate rather than a horny younger stud.

Your mileage may vary.

You'll need to learn to communicate your intent in a direct and transparent way. Calibration is everything.

 

[Gamisch]

Vasectomy would solve your problems. You already expressed that you don't want kids anyway, because of your sh!tty DNA, so why not take your balls out of the gene pool? At least we wouldn't have to read your cringe threads where you try to justify your fetishes.

A fetish that leads him nowhere.

If anything he should be able to EASILY pull women from his preferred bracket. But to put it bluntly: he lacks das balls.

To cut him some slack: I keep seeing more and more men like this. The downside is that his competition is huge. Many desperate men pray for the same type of woman.

 

[Gamisch]

@GoodMan32

What is it that you want? I've lost track

 

[GoodMan32]

I love him very much. He loves in a way that is difficult to describe. Almost child like in its innocence & belief in the idea of love. And he is beautifully dedicated to that love idea and expressive of it with a largeness of heart that is as unusual as it is refreshing. Psychologists refer to it as austic joy. It is a wonderment you could say. He loves me very much too. So I would not say I "barely tolerate" him. Its just a study in contrasts behaviorally

You see ASD people feel the normal range of emotions, sometimes very much more intensely than the neurotypical person. They just don't always know how to channel what they feel. And often they have zero filter in social settings.

He is not going to be controlled (good, but at times annoying), and he is rigid in his expectations. But he does try to relate & to show me how he feels. And he has let me in, which is like getting access to Fort Knox.

But no relationship is a total picnic. I happened to choose a more complicated man than most.

In answer to your question, yes. I think your prospects are better looking for a short term lover type interaction, however the other problem you may face is women my age often want to settle down as their beauty fades, and in that case will look for a more relatable life companion candidate rather than a horny younger stud.

Your mileage may vary.

You'll need to learn to communicate your intent in a direct and transparent way. Calibration is everything.

Ok. I thought it sounded like you were miserable with your marriage. If you enjoy being married to him, more power to you.

One thing I can relate to is how he's insecure around your social circle. As a fellow man with ASD, I feel inadequate socially too.

You're preaching to the choir about how those of us with ASD don't always know a socially acceptable manner in which to express our emotions.

Communicating my intent in a direct/transparent manner is one thing I've always struggled with. That's probably why 7 of my 9 non-escort partners have come from hookup websites (because at least then, it's implied both parties want casual sex; no need for me to find a socially acceptable way to tell her)

I'd imagine even neurotypical men often struggle to find a tactful way to tell a woman they want casual sex.

Further complicating matters for me is the fact a socially awkward man is prone to getting viewed as a creep if he wants casual sex (whereas a smooth alpha is viewed as badass if he wants casual sex)

 

[GoodMan32]

A fetish that leads him nowhere.

If anything he should be able to EASILY pull women from his preferred bracket. But to put it bluntly: he lacks das balls.

To cut him some slack: I keep seeing more and more men like this. The downside is that his competition is huge. Many desperate men pray for the same type of woman.

With all due respect, you appear to be contradicting yourself. First you say my so-called lack of (what you call) das balls is the only thing stopping me from bagging more cougars.

Yet then you go on to say there's lots of competition for an older woman (which would suggest even if I had das balls, I'd struggle)

 

[GoodMan32]

@GoodMan32

What is it that you want? I've lost track

I want a sexual relationship with a woman in the age range of 45-60s.

I'm down to do other stuff with her too. I just don't want the commitment of an all-out boyfriend/girlfriend relationship (and I certainly don't want marriage)

 

[SW15]

It's a pregnancy prevention loophole.

No it isn't. It is you exhibiting abnormal psychology.

On this forum, the majority of male posters are not looking to get a woman pregnant in the near future. The younger ones (under 45) aren't seeking menopausal women as sex partners. Most of the younger posters are looking to get a substantially younger girlfriend, even if a pregnancy isn't a priority item.

The majority of the world isn't posting on SoSuave or similar forums.

The majority of men are also trying to avoid pregnancy most of the time. Most unmarried men aren't desiring children. They are either childless men who see children as a possibility in the distant future, childless men who aren't prioritizing having children/do not want children, or men with children from prior relationships. There are a few married men who are actively trying to have children with a wife but that's a smaller percentage of men. A lot of married men (especially in more middle class + social circles) have their 1-3 children with the wife (usually 1-2 children) and then are done with having children. The having children phase is a very short phase for most established couples. In my social circle, most of the blue pilled guys and their wives had their 1-2 children already and aren't planning on more.

A lot of men use condoms. Condoms are useful for both pregnancy prevention and for preventing STDs/STIs.

As for women, most of them under menopause age aren't looking to get pregnant in most sexual encounters either.

It's possible that my perspective on women is skewed by my interactions with mainly bougie White women. I define a bougie White woman as a White woman with a bachelor's degree or higher living in a major city and working some sort of white collar type job.

Bougie White women are typically using birth control, especially when they are under 35 and childless. After 35, some childless bougie White women might slow down the birth control after 10-20 years on it. By 35-40, many bougie White women have had their 1-2 children with their beta husbands. If these women leave their beta husbands, they typically won't be looking to have more kids and they may/may not use birth control to achieve that.

Younger, childless women who use swipe apps to meet men and/or are actively going to bars to meet men aren't prioritizing getting pregnant in the short term. Some of them might want to get pregnant in the future in a more stable relationship, but that's a future concern for them. The current concern for most younger women is not getting pregnant in the next few months.

With condoms and birth control, most younger adults find ways to have sex and avoid pregnancy.

There's a reason that birth rates have been lower for the Gen Y/Millennial and Generation Z/Zoomer generations.

 

[Gamisch]

With all due respect, you appear to be contradicting yourself. First you say my so-called lack of (what you call) das balls is the only thing stopping me from bagging more cougars.

Yet then you go on to say there's lots of competition for an older woman (which would suggest even if I had das balls, I'd struggle)

I mean that you might think this " fetish " sets you apart ( it does), but not as much as you'd think.

There's a reason why 2024 was the year when the so-called "cougar's" popularity skyrocketed.

Why you ask? Because a large group of young men are invisible to women their own age. So they go for the next best thing: older women. The only difference between you and the next man who struggles is that that next man would still prefer a young woman but he simply can't get that.

Hence my comment about stiff( no diddy) competition. The older woman you are after requires more game than ever because she will also have an abundance of choice, mainly horny desperate young men who wanna nut somewhere.

Still it's odd that if you would be active on a dating app and set the age range from 45 to 60 that you are not able to land one . Most men set the range from 20 to 45 .

 

[GoodMan32]

No it isn't. It is you exhibiting abnormal psychology.

On this forum, the majority of male posters are not looking to get a woman pregnant in the near future. The younger ones (under 45) aren't seeking menopausal women as sex partners. Most of the younger posters are looking to get a substantially younger girlfriend, even if a pregnancy isn't a priority item.

The majority of the world isn't posting on SoSuave or similar forums.

The majority of men are also trying to avoid pregnancy most of the time. Most unmarried men aren't desiring children. They are either childless men who see children as a possibility in the distant future, childless men who aren't prioritizing having children/do not want children, or men with children from prior relationships. There are a few married men who are actively trying to have children with a wife but that's a smaller percentage of men. A lot of married men (especially in more middle class + social circles) have their 1-3 children with the wife (usually 1-2 children) and then are done with having children. The having children phase is a very short phase for most established couples. In my social circle, most of the blue pilled guys and their wives had their 1-2 children already and aren't planning on more.

A lot of men use condoms. Condoms are useful for both pregnancy prevention and for preventing STDs/STIs.

As for women, most of them under menopause age aren't looking to get pregnant in most sexual encounters either.

It's possible that my perspective on women is skewed by my interactions with mainly bougie White women. I define a bougie White woman as a White woman with a bachelor's degree or higher living in a major city and working some sort of white collar type job.

Bougie White women are typically using birth control, especially when they are under 35 and childless. After 35, some childless bougie White women might slow down the birth control after 10-20 years on it. By 35-40, many bougie White women have had their 1-2 children with their beta husbands. If these women leave their beta husbands, they typically won't be looking to have more kids and they may/may not use birth control to achieve that.

Younger, childless women who use swipe apps to meet men and/or are actively going to bars to meet men aren't prioritizing getting pregnant in the short term. Some of them might want to get pregnant in the future in a more stable relationship, but that's a future concern for them. The current concern for most younger women is not getting pregnant in the next few months.

With condoms and birth control, most younger adults find ways to have sex and avoid pregnancy.

There's a reason that birth rates have been lower for the Gen Y/Millennial and Generation Z/Zoomer generations.

I'm going to start by saying I used to (as a teen) insist I would never have sex (because of how much I'm terrified of pregnancy)

The fact I'm willing to have sex at all now (even if I prefer much older) is major progress.

The fact I've dabbled with using condoms/birth control with fertile broads is major progress too.

Of my 28 sex partners, only 13 (roughly half) were either 45+ or already pregnant.

When a condom slipped off in 2022 with a woman around my age, that was a turning point (it really scared me)

Come summer 2024, I gave that very same woman the condom slipped off with another try (and this time, I checked the condom throughout the sex like you do). As I've said, checking the condom to make sure it stayed in place killed the joy of sex. No amount of therapy would change that.

 

[Gamisch]

I'm going to start by saying I used to (as a teen) insist I would never have sex (because of how much I'm terrified of pregnancy)

The fact I'm willing to have sex at all now (even if I prefer much older) is major progress.

The fact I've dabbled with using condoms/birth control with fertile broads is major progress too.

Of my 28 sex partners, only 13 (roughly half) were either 45+ or already pregnant.

When a condom slipped off in 2022 with a woman around my age, that was a turning point (it really scared me)

Come summer 2024, I gave that very same woman the condom slipped off with another try (and this time, I checked the condom throughout the sex like you do). As I've said, checking the condom to make sure it stayed in place killed the joy of sex. No amount of therapy would change that.

Are you scared you have to become responsible? It's not your coochie getting ripped apart,its hers.

Strange fear . I don't get it..I rather fear an std than a pregnancy.

You sound like a man on a boxing forum saying he wants to box but don't wanna get hit. Just " beat the sack" would be the most sound advice.

 

[GoodMan32]

I mean that you might think this " fetish " sets you apart ( it does), but not as much as you'd think.

There's a reason why 2024 was the year when the so-called "cougar's" popularity skyrocketed.

Why you ask? Because a large group of young men are invisible to women their own age. So they go for the next best thing: older women. The only difference between you and the next man who struggles is that that next man would still prefer a young woman but he simply can't get that.

Hence my comment about stiff( no diddy) competition. The older woman you are after requires more game than ever because she will also have an abundance of choice, mainly horny desperate young men who wanna nut somewhere.

Still it's odd that if you would be active on a dating app and set the age range from 45 to 60 that you are not able to land one . Most men set the range from 20 to 45 .

I suppose one thing that sets me apart (from the younger men who would like a young woman, yet merely struggle to get one) is the fact the cougar wouldn't have to worry about me leaving her if a young woman takes a liking to me (on the other hand, most younger men who look for older broads out of desperation would bail the second a young woman offers him cooch)

I've nailed three 45+ non-escort broads. I met all 3 on Craigslist. I haven't really had any luck getting 45+ broads through traditional dating sites/apps (The dates I've gotten from non-Craigslist dating sites have been 35 and below)

Granted, part of that could be because I haven't really tried a whole lot with 45+ broads on traditional dating sites/apps (as most would immediately disqualify me based on my age, even if they liked my looks/personality)

The closest I've gotten to a 45+ free woman on a non-Craigslist tech method:

-A 50 year old doctor reached out to me on Bumble. Even though nothing came of it, I'm extremely impressed by the fact a doctor reached out to me.

-A 49 year old woman on FetLife offered to come over and let me watch her pee (which is every bit as enjoyable as sex to me). Unfortunately, our schedules never matched up.

 

[GoodMan32]

Are you scared you have to become responsible? It's not your coochie getting ripped apart,its hers.

Strange fear . I don't get it..I rather fear an std than a pregnancy.

You sound like a man on a boxing forum saying he wants to box but don't wanna get hit. Just " beat the sack" would be the most sound advice.

I don't want to raise my progeny, nor do I want any financial responsibility for my progeny.

Furthermore, even if I could reproduce without having to raise or support my progeny, I still don't want to pollute a woman's womb with my genes.

Most STDs are curable. For that reason, pregnancy scares me way more than STDs.

 

[Sega Genesis]

He lacks the maturity to stay in his lane. I've done 50+ real estate transactions and built my net worth via investment property....I've raised 3 respectful children with great behavior and good values. He tries to assert himself in inappropriate ways where he has no experience. It is annoying. Needless to say his behavior is eroding my respect for him, and that is not good.

I want someone desirable. So I took the tradeoff but it is not all unicorns and rainbows. I nearly skipped him altogether because of the age gap. He was very persistent.

I just read this ^^ @BeExcellent and just wanted to say I'm sorry and hope y'all can work it out and that your love is enough, it's not always.

Also to say as a woman with such a high SMV as yourself (despite your age which is irrelevant imo), you shouldn't have to "trade off," you can have both!

You know this too so a bit shocked to read this but your honesty about it is refreshing.

Happy Holidays!