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[GoodMan32]

I just read this ^^ @BeExcellent and just wanted to say I'm sorry and hope y'all can work it out and that your love is enough, it's not always.

Also to say with a woman with such a high SMV as yourself (despite your age which is irrelevant imo), you shouldn't have to "trade off," you can have both!

You know this too so a bit shocked to read it but your honesty about it is refreshing.

Happy Holidays!

I thought her marriage sounded bad (based on her description)

She then replied to me that she's happily married (even if her marriage isn't perfect)

Personally, I think her husband sounds miserable to be married to, largely because of his ASD traits (and I say this as a fellow autist)

 

[Sega Genesis]

I thought her marriage sounded bad (based on her description)

She then replied to me that she's happily married (even if her marriage isn't perfect)

Personally, I think her husband sounds miserable to be married to, largely because of his ASD traits (and I say this as a fellow autist)

Thanks I just read that too and that she loves him. So I hope that love is enough because from my perspective and what's been posted here, once respect is lost, it's pretty much done.

In any event, it's Be's call of course, I still don't think she needed to trade-off though.

She's gorgeous, educated, highly intelligent and accomplished, turns heads wherever she goes, she can certainly have both a hot man and a man who is her intellectual equal (or higher). A man who doesn't annoy her and whom she respects.

They do exist.

JMO as always.

 

[GoodMan32]

Thanks I just read that too and that she loves him. So I hope that love is enough because from my perspective and what's been posted here, once respect is lost, it's pretty much done.

In any event, it's Be's call of course, I still don't think she needed to trade-off though.

She's gorgeous, educated, highly intelligent and accomplished, she can certainly have both a hot man and a man who is her intellectual equal (or higher).

They do exist.

JMO as always.

Autists in general make bad husbands (I'm self-aware enough to admit it; one reason I'm never marrying)

As you said though, when it comes to her specific marriage, it's her call.

I know you said her age is irrelevant. To me, it's relevant...in a good way. Her age adds to her sexiness factor (a woman is like a fine wine: better with age)

From what she's shared, her husband is educated and makes good money (even if he lacks the real estate investments she's made)

His income, combined with his height, plus the fact he's surprisingly athletic for a man with ASD is probably why he's gotten lots of attention from the ladies through the years (and why his persistence ended up helping him in securing a wife)

As an autist who lacks a high income, is only average height, and lacks athleticism, I haven't been nearly as fortunate as him (in terms of attention from the ladies). In fact, when I've been persistent (in the past), it came across as creepy. Funny how a certain behavior can be viewed as creepy or hot depending on who the guy is.

 

[Sega Genesis]

My opinion is not based on the fact he's autistic.

@ Be posted he is essentially not her intellectual equal, he lacks the knowledge, expertise and savvy she has, interjects about things where he has no business interjecting, and that it annoys her and is causing her to lose respect.

However it's not my place to judge, it just saddened me to read it that's all and hope it all works out.

Love is often not enough but in @Be and her husband's case, I truly hope it is!

 

[SW15]

His income, combined with his height, plus the fact he's surprisingly athletic for a man with ASD is probably why he's gotten lots of attention from the ladies through the years (and why his persistence ended up helping him in securing a wife)

It's possible to have a decent dating life as a top tier looks man who is not neurotypical. Black pill content creator Wheat Waffles addressed that combination in his What Should You Do In Your Dating Life? (Flow Chart) video.

Being a 'Chad' who isn't neurotypical is way better than the other looks tier options and not neurotypical.

 

[GoodMan32]

My opinion is not based on the fact he's autistic.

@ Be posted he is essentially not her intellectual equal, he lacks the knowledge, expertise and savvy she has, interjects about things where he has no business interjecting, and that it annoys her and is causing her to lose respect.

However it's not my place to judge, it just saddened me to read it that's all and hope it all works out.

Love is often not enough but in @Be and her husband's case, I truly hope it is!

Ok, I get where you're coming from.

Even if her husband is booksmart (and is a successful employee in a STEM job), he (per her admission) interjects about stuff like real estate and parenting advice (areas he has no experience in)

He also acts insecure around her social circle (Which, as a fellow autist, I totally understand. We don't do well in social settings in general. And I can only imagine how intimidating the social circle of a woman with @BeExcellent's social status must be)

 

[GoodMan32]

It's possible to have a decent dating life as a top tier looks man who is not neurotypical. Black pill content creator Wheat Waffles addressed that combination in his What Should You Do In Your Dating Life? (Flow Chart) video.

Being a 'Chad' who isn't neurotypical is way better than the other looks tier options and not neurotypical.

Yikes. After following the flowchart for my own circumstances, I ended up in the box of "find fulfillment outside of getting a woman"

 

[BeExcellent]

My opinion is not based on the fact he's autistic.

@ Be posted he is essentially not her intellectual equal, he lacks the knowledge, expertise and savvy she has, interjects about things where he has no business interjecting, and that it annoys her and is causing her to lose respect.

However it's not my place to judge, it just saddened me to read it that's all and hope it all works out.

Love is often not enough but in @Be and her husband's case, I truly hope it is!

@Sega Genesis he is brilliant. He has a Master's degree in a STEM field, he plays an instrument beautifully and he is an incredible vocalist. Intelligence and IQ are different than emotional quotient or EQ. I have high IQ and EQ. I have businesses and also work as a consultant in a STEM field.

He probably would do with a mood stabilizer frankly but he is in deep denial about his ASD and that is akin to a paralyzed man refusing to embrace/accept the paralysis, and thus refuse the tools available to help him. We were at a high brow Christmas party last night. Fortunately they had a live ensemble playing so my husband could take a seat & enjoy the music & I could alternatively socialize & sit a while next to him. Before we went to the party (and for the first time ever) he told me he gets uncomfortable and anxious at functions like this. That's a big step toward acknowledgement. He has a skewed view (thanks tone deaf in laws) toward mental & emotional health and sees medication as indcative of a mental health problem. There are deep roots in dysfunctional family background. He did well at the party, people there are understanding about his social issues and are welcoming.

Any man involves pros and cons. Any man. I am well aware and chose him based on things most important to me.

 

[GoodMan32]

@Sega Genesis he is brilliant. He has a Master's degree in a STEM field, he plays an instrument beautifully and he is an incredible vocalist. Intelligence and IQ are different than emotional quotient or EQ. I have high IQ and EQ. I have businesses and also work as a consultant in a STEM field.

He probably would do with a mood stabilizer frankly but he is in deep denial about his ASD and that is akin to a paralyzed man refusing to embrace/accept the paralysis, and thus refuse the tools available to help him. We were at a high brow Christmas party last night. Fortunately they had a live ensemble playing so my husband could take a seat & enjoy the music & I could alternatively socialize & sit a while next to him. Before we went to the party (and for the first time ever) he told me he gets uncomfortable and anxious at functions like this. That's a big step toward acknowledgement. He has a skewed view (thanks tone deaf in laws) toward mental & emotional health and sees medication as indcative of a mental health problem. There are deep roots in dysfunctional family background. He did well at the party, people there are understanding about his social issues and are welcoming.

Any man involves pros and cons. Any man. I am well aware and chose him based on things most important to me.

That's impressive how he's a good musician and good at STEM.

As a rule of thumb, STEM types generally aren't good at musical/artistic creativity.

 

[SW15]

After following the flowchart for my own circumstances, I ended up in the box of "find fulfillment outside of getting a woman"

I followed that flowchart. It confirmed that I have chosen the correct path in being a mainly daygame focused seducer. Focusing on daygame was a choice I made in the early 2010s after some deep reflections as I was nearing age 30.

 

[Sega Genesis]

Any man involves pros and cons. Any man. I am well aware and chose him based on things most important to me.

Thank you for clarifying @ Be, and re what's quoted above, I agree fer sure!

For me personally, having high respect is important to me so when I read you were losing respect for your husband, it saddened me. You yourself even said that wasn’t good.

However after reading further responses and specifically your last, I take it back!

If you're in love and happy that is all matters at the end of the day.

Again Happy Holidays and wish you both the best in 2025!

 

[GoodMan32]

I followed that flowchart. It confirmed that I have chosen the correct path in being a mainly daygame focused seducer. Focusing on daygame was a choice I made in the early 2010s after some deep reflections as I was nearing age 30.

Needless to say, I refuse to accept the "pursue other interests" path.

Yet if the chart is any indication, I'm destined for failure (which would explain my bad luck)