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TheGambino

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But what exactly you like a lot about her? Other women have puzzies too, and if you ask me, is better to be with a 6-7 someone sane who don't play games than being with a 8-9 who is broken, damaged, plays games, ghosts and a bunch of $hit.

Being with a hot women is mostly ego, even if she's crazy the ego doesn't wanna let go cause she's hot.

But you'll be amazed how calm, relax and fun life is with someone not so hot.
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I’ll tell you. She likes the same things as me, working out going to fancy restaurants luxurious things, dancing same style. We both entrepreneurs I’m on a waaaaaay higher lever then she but okay. We like the same vacation styles, like what we like to do. We like to go to the same restaurants and bars, same music tast we were both rapping songs we knew out of our heads, best body type I like, blonde what i like, piercings where I want she’s a boss lady like. She doesn’t cave to sh*t we reacted the same on sh*t that happened and always agreed, same life values she wants daughters me also. Cex was amazing, her clothing style is exactly how I like it nails done hair done. We watch the same series and movies. She respected me, when guys approached her she hid behind me. Making out was good, she also showed 100% interest touching grinding holding my hands everything a girl does with extreme high interest. We are just a match what I saw last week but believe me I kept distance, I let her be, when she walked away to her friends didn’t chase her when she went out smoking or toilet for 40 minutes I didn’t follow her, when guys hit on her I acted like I didn’t notice. When group of guys she knew from last year vacation approached her I just smiled and didn’t act needy or insecure. I played it absolutely perfect sometimes she asked me sh*t I didn’t want to do I said no.
It’s just the full package of a woman I’m looking for ltr. Here’s the reasons.
 

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You are close, but no cigar!

Congratz on pulling hot chicks. It means you understand the rules of the game and must have something going on for you.
On the other side, after you land a hot babe, its a new game. And this one, you are still to master.

Relax, you will get there. This what you going thru with this woman right now might help you with that.
But just know, you lost this one. She has not lose you.

You lost this round. Thats a hard pill to swallow, goes straight for the ego, but it is what it is.
No problem tho, you win some, you learn some.

I highly recommend you rereading what was posted by Amsterdam, Diver, Duke, Gamish, Rainrain and Canadian Man.
They got it.

First thing is accepting that it was your fault and yours alone that scared her away. The Duke said it properly, so no need to repeat it. But it was your douchebaggery + suffocation whose sealed the deal. Rainrain reinforces this when he advises you to talk to other women to not sound pathetic and needy if she comes back.

Pro tip: She is NOT coming back.

Since you are so invested, you are failing to see that there are no games, as canadian man said. And if there is a game, you are playing by yourself. She is long gone in the c0ck carroussel man.

There is absolutely no chance that she, a woman, mid thirty, 10, hot asf, would be deleting her profile pic just to get a reaction from a guy she is not replying, and which was clearly a fling.

You gotta see it straight mate. People have more things to do with their lifes, and since whatsapp is such a big deal/tool, that she uses to connect to her friends, family and possibly for work related situations, she would not go that lenght for a random dude from 2 weeks ago.

Again, relax, I was there, as I guess everyone on this site.
Bottomline, trust the users opinion, specially if you are talking about 'that girl´

Read an old post of mine. It is very helpful in this matter. I've tagged you on it!

Cheers, and congratz guys!
 

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Okay thanks all, all indicators say it’s over, case closed. I accept it and move on, won’t block her or delete her ig snap but won’t watch any stories. Case closed.
 
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You are close, but no cigar!

Congratz on pulling hot chicks. It means you understand the rules of the game and must have something going on for you.
On the other side, after you land a hot babe, its a new game. And this one, you are still to master.

Relax, you will get there. This what you going thru with this woman right now might help you with that.
But just know, you lost this one. She has not lose you.

You lost this round. Thats a hard pill to swallow, goes straight for the ego, but it is what it is.
No problem tho, you win some, you learn some.

I highly recommend you rereading what was posted by Amsterdam, Diver, Duke, Gamish, Rainrain and Canadian Man.
They got it.

First thing is accepting that it was your fault and yours alone that scared her away. The Duke said it properly, so no need to repeat it. But it was your douchebaggery + suffocation whose sealed the deal. Rainrain reinforces this when he advises you to talk to other women to not sound pathetic and needy if she comes back.

Pro tip: She is NOT coming back.

Since you are so invested, you are failing to see that there are no games, as canadian man said. And if there is a game, you are playing by yourself. She is long gone in the c0ck carroussel man.

There is absolutely no chance that she, a woman, mid thirty, 10, hot asf, would be deleting her profile pic just to get a reaction from a guy she is not replying, and which was clearly a fling.

You gotta see it straight mate. People have more things to do with their lifes, and since whatsapp is such a big deal/tool, that she uses to connect to her friends, family and possibly for work related situations, she would not go that lenght for a random dude from 2 weeks ago.

Again, relax, I was there, as I guess everyone on this site.
Bottomline, trust the users opinion, specially if you are talking about 'that girl´

Read an old post of mine. It is very helpful in this matter. I've tagged you on it!

Cheers, and congratz guys!
which post? @Lotus Effect

I see her profile picture again now so she didn’t delete my number/ playing stupid games obv.

Anyhow this immature crap annoys me, I’m done.
 
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@All_Kindz_Of_Gainz
I’ll tell you. She likes the same things as me, working out going to fancy restaurants luxurious things, dancing same style. We both entrepreneurs I’m on a waaaaaay higher lever then she but okay. We like the same vacation styles, like what we like to do. We like to go to the same restaurants and bars, same music tast we were both rapping songs we knew out of our heads, best body type I like, blonde what i like, piercings where I want she’s a boss lady like. She doesn’t cave to sh*t we reacted the same on sh*t that happened and always agreed, same life values she wants daughters me also. Cex was amazing, her clothing style is exactly how I like it nails done hair done. We watch the same series and movies. She respected me, when guys approached her she hid behind me. Making out was good, she also showed 100% interest touching grinding holding my hands everything a girl does with extreme high interest. We are just a match what I saw last week but believe me I kept distance, I let her be, when she walked away to her friends didn’t chase her when she went out smoking or toilet for 40 minutes I didn’t follow her, when guys hit on her I acted like I didn’t notice. When group of guys she knew from last year vacation approached her I just smiled and didn’t act needy or insecure. I played it absolutely perfect sometimes she asked me sh*t I didn’t want to do I said no.
It’s just the full package of a woman I’m looking for ltr. Here’s the reasons.
To give you a positive closure:.
Most women like vacations, dancing, fancy restaurants, working out ( so they stay hot) , and ESPECIALLY luxurious shyte.

You can literally trade her in for a "chocolate version" and all will be the same. You just described 95% of women. You should know that bro..

This thread , including my own answers, reminds me of my detachment from my ex who I've been with for TEN YEARS. Had to tell me self that eventually she is just a woman ,as @All_Kindz_Of_Gainz says, with just a p00sy, and at the end of the day she was nothing more special then the next one...(10 years attachment vs 1 vacation..)

Delete nr, unfollow her and move on.
 

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I agree on deleting and unfollowing.

It’s best for your mental health.

Keeping her there won’t allow you to move on, as you will be always hoping that she is secretly watching your stuff. Which she is not.
 

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To give you a positive closure:.
Most women like vacations, dancing, fancy restaurants, working out ( so they stay hot) , and ESPECIALLY luxurious shyte.

You can literally trade her in for a "chocolate version" and all will be the same. You just described 95% of women. You should know that bro..

This thread , including my own answers, reminds me of my detachment from my ex who I've been with for TEN YEARS. Had to tell me self that eventually she is just a woman ,as @All_Kindz_Of_Gainz says, with just a p00sy, and at the end of the day she was nothing more special then the next one...(10 years attachment vs 1 vacation..)

Delete nr, unfollow her and move on.
Deleted number. I won’t delete IG or snap. I will post my awesome lifestyle, almost shredded need 3-4 more kgs to lose and she will see me shine like a Mf the next years. Also the there’s a chance she will reach out if I don’t delete her and I can fvck her again. I will look bvtthert if I delete and block her. Idc anymore man I mean it
 

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I agree on deleting and unfollowing.

It’s best for your mental health.

Keeping her there won’t allow you to move on, as you will be always hoping that she is secretly watching your stuff. Which she is not.
I don’t care anymore I’m not so attached as you think because I see that she lost interest. And I know there’s nothing I can do.
Women come back all the time after a while so she could come back. I’m seeing another girl tommorow and I’m on the grind don’t worry bro thanks so much for your time.
 

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But just some food for thought, if you think you will look bvtthurt, it does mean that her opinion on you still matters.

Think about it bro. I know I did.
Let her see my awesome life from now on. I like that thought. I will become even better and shine so hard. Let her watch. I don’t care I’m not going to delete her. I just move on.
 

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Deleted number. I won’t delete IG or snap. I will post my awesome lifestyle, almost shredded need 3-4 more kgs to lose and she will see me shine like a Mf the next years. Also the there’s a chance she will reach out if I don’t delete her and I can fvck her again. I will look bvtthert if I delete and block her. Idc anymore man I mean it
One important lesson we as don Juan's MUST learn is that women live in a completely different dimension as we do. Think about animals like dogs or cats, living sometimes in the same house as " a man" but yet their perspective is completely different. Their goals, motivations, and outcomes are different.

The REAL issue imo is that you don’t show you are ready to be with ( a lotta) women. Because if you were you would let ANY rejection slide of your shoulder like it's nothing. It's actually quite funny.

Women reject men. That's one of the most important things about the game. That's why it's ill-advised to attach your EGO to how women treat you because you will always always always lose eventually.

I am actually kinda glad to partake in this thread and witness what it looks like when a man acts like this. For many years I've been like that. Got to know women in and out and know now that they are the worst investment ever ,doesn't matter if it's emotional, financial or spiritual.

I understand most won't understand this tho..even most of my homies are desperate to get women, children, living together ect.

I would LOVE t9 have a great woman, one who takes great care of the children she gives me. One who I can trust. But such a woman is hard to find like becoming rich ,ripped and succes(sfull) . Things that most people won't ever be.
 

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No offense to any of you guys, I used to be frustrated by it as well.

Once you understand the game to a higher degree and start playing your hand correctly, it won't be frustrating anymore.

Its a turnoff to a woman when you act on your urges and tempations too often, even though they might like it at the moment.

All women want a leader(a solid rock). A leader doesn't give into someones wishes every time. She is looking for someone to define some boundaries, thats how she knows she can have faith in you later on in the relationship.
I hate all this gay **** like self-restraint, "playing it smooth", "define boundaries"
I am quite sure if you are meant to be together none of this gay **** matters.

This guy has ****ed the girl; a huge achievement.

It now becomes a mystery of why the stupid woman does not want to continue the relationship. This is very difficult emotionally for the man.

I don't know what he should do.
 

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I hate all this gay **** like self-restraint, "playing it smooth", "define boundaries"
I am quite sure if you are meant to be together none of this gay **** matters.

This guy has ****ed the girl; a huge achievement.

It now becomes a mystery of why the stupid woman does not want to continue the relationship. This is very difficult emotionally for the man.

I don't know what he should do.
@SummerTime nah my dear man with good intentions. These hardened players are right. I gave this women too much too soon. Also there must be some things that turned her off. And it was vacation also so back to reality is different. She is low interest now they are right. She might come back but I’m going forward like a winner and not waiting around for her as$. Keep lurking the forum and learn game and eventually u will understand that these guys are right
 

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I hate all this gay **** like self-restraint, "playing it smooth", "define boundaries"
I am quite sure if you are meant to be together none of this gay **** matters.

This guy has ****ed the girl; a huge achievement.

It now becomes a mystery of why the stupid woman does not want to continue the relationship. This is very difficult emotionally for the man.

I don't know what he should do.
Although I agree that is commendable that OP landed a supposed 10.

If you are quite sure ‘if you are meant to be together’ is a thing…

…Then you are not living in real life mate.
 

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Although I agree that is commendable that OP landed a supposed 10.

If you are quite sure ‘if you are meant to be together’ is a thing…

…Then you are not living in real life mate.
She is a drop off 10. From head to toe an absolute dime, best looking girl I ever layed. The types you see on IG with 200K followers. Super feminine.
I will use this as fuel to work even harder to reach my smv goals to attract the same quality women and keep them around me.

I can do it!
 

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I hate all this gay **** like self-restraint, "playing it smooth", "define boundaries"
I am quite sure if you are meant to be together none of this gay **** matters.

This guy has ****ed the girl; a huge achievement.

It now becomes a mystery of why the stupid woman does not want to continue the relationship. This is very difficult emotionally for the man.

I don't know what he should do.
Fvcking a woman is a huge achievement? Holy hell, now I see why guys today have so many issues if they think this is like climbing Mt Everest
 

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It now becomes a mystery of why the stupid woman does not want to continue the relationship. This is very difficult emotionally for the man.
It should never bother you why women pulling out; It is what it is.
There are million reasons why woman pull out, and some of them are very stupid from men prospective.but again, it is what it is, and in the vast majority of the cases, the reasons are not related to you or because you did something wrong.
It's futile to dwell and torture yourself emotionally for someone else's decision that is totally out of your control.
 

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It should never bother you why women pulling out; It is what it is.
There are million reasons why woman pull out, and some of them are very stupid from men prospective.but again, it is what it is, and in the vast majority of the cases, the reasons are not related to you or because you did something wrong.
It's futile to dwell and torture yourself emotionally for someone else's decision that is totally out of your control.
Could be another guy. Could be she’s not feeling it could be 10000 things. Could be she never was really attracted to you but just Playing
 
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