What to do now - dont want to make mistake

[TheGambino]

Vacation is similar to clubs/bar when you meet women.

It's a "fantasy world" where the normal realities don't exist. The club/bar for the night, the vacation for the time they are there.

The biggest mistake is guys think that because something happened on vacation that once they are back in the grind of the real world that things will just continue where they left off.

But that's not how it works. Once vacation ends, you are both in a different world and it's very hard to go from one world to the other no matter what happened or how many times you fvcked her.

High likelihood that you don't see her again. You should never expect anything to last once vacation ends. It's just a different mindset women are in when they are on vacation and they see it as something fun and exciting but then once they go home they are back to their "normal life" and usually the guy on vacation doesn't fit into that life.

Maybe things will be different but you should never expect anything that happens under those circumstances to continue after.

If anything you should keep it casual and light and have no expectations that anything will happen. Anything that does happen from this point forward is a bonus.

I know but we had a real click. So this is different. We match on all points, I’ll just wait it out and ghost and expect nothing.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I know but we had a real click. So this is different. We match on all points, I’ll just wait it out and ghost and expect nothing.

Nah, you just think it is.

You met the fantasy version of her...the one she wants you to believe exists in the real world.

But that woman doesn't exist.

 

[TheGambino]

Nah, you just think it is.

You met the fantasy version of her...the one she wants you to believe exists in the real world.

But that woman doesn't exist.

well see what happens

 

[Gamisch]

Now our last contact was saturdaynight, she says sleepwell xx and I say sleepwell with a blowkiss but she never opens/read that text. Its still grey from saturday. I posted loads of stories on my snap of me having fun with friends, she checks everything but thats it. (but she never commented on my stories, also in spain she didnt).

So now were silent since last saturday/ our phone call was thursday.

Would you call her this evening and try one more time to meet up or just outwait her?

This had me almost pissing my pants.

Regarding the context of age story this was funny altho you might feel like I'm being disrespectful. Yo, sometimes we as men gotta laugh about this shyte..

Last weekend I met this hippy-ish Russian girl. I speak a bit russian( like a 3 y.o) so, instant "click " although she introduced herself with more redlflags than a Chinese march. I offer to buy her a drink. Buy the drink ,come back outside POOF, she's gone

Imo that's funny. On to the next.

To " ease your pain" a bit: you cab hit her up, and if timing is on your side even feck her once or twice. But then she'll pull the same move while you are in it WAY deeper. Should've made tour moves in Spain. Forget about her. Yes I said it. She's gone, feck her,next one.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

well see what happens

She ghosted you, we already know what happened.

Your unwillingness to accept reality is what gets you in trouble.

 

[TheGambino]

She ghosted you, we already know what happened.

Your unwillingness to accept reality is what gets you in trouble.

Girls pull back and come back all the time my friend. I had so many girls pulling back and coming back again. Heck I got a girl I posted 5 threads about a couple of months ago that you guys said it’s over, was over texting me last week and seeing her Thursday.. @BackInTheGame78

Also I will ghost 2 weeks so no trouble

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Girls pull back and come back all the time my friend. I had so many girls pulling back and coming back again. Heck I got a girl I posted 5 threads about a couple of months ago that you guys said it’s over, was over texting me last week and seeing her Thursday.. @BackInTheGame78

Also I will ghost 2 weeks so no trouble

Yes...you are the guy she sees when she has nothing better to do. Not exactly the position you want to be in.

 

[TheGambino]

Yes...you are the guy she sees when she has nothing better to do. Not exactly the position you want to be in.

idgaf about her lol, but well see what happens. GN

 

[BackInTheGame78]

idgaf about her lol, but well see what happens. GN

Clearly you do.

 

[TheGambino]

Clearly you do.

bout the old girl, nah not a flying fvck

 

[BackInTheGame78]

bout the old girl, nah not a flying fvck

Stop lying to yourself.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

idgaf about her lol, but well see what happens. GN

This always puzzled me about 'players' like you.
Why would you be intimate with someone you don't give a fvck about?

 

[TheGambino]

P

This always puzzled me about 'players' like you.
Why would you be intimate with someone you don't give a fvck about?

I do care about her, I’m just indifferent if she wants to see me or not. That’s what I mean. I don’t have scarcity of losing her anymore like I had a couple of months ago. If she comes or not i won’t feel different though I’m kinda excited to see her. So yeah.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I do care about her, I’m just indifferent if she wants to see me or not. That’s what I mean. I don’t have scarcity of losing her anymore like I had a couple of months ago. If she comes or not i won’t feel different though I’m kinda excited to see her. So yeah.

You have some work to do there, especially on the detachment part. Don't be a yo-yo.

 

[Bingo-Player]

No offense to any of you guys, I used to be frustrated by it as well.

Once you understand the game to a higher degree and start playing your hand correctly, it won't be frustrating anymore.

Its a turnoff to a woman when you act on your urges and tempations too often, even though they might like it at the moment.

All women want a leader(a solid rock). A leader doesn't give into someones wishes every time. She is looking for someone to define some boundaries, thats how she knows she can have faith in you later on in the relationship.

Whilst I do concur , the reality is in 2024 men are not rocks and nor should we really be expected to be

Women have ascertained far far too much power within the dating / mating game largely in exchange for just existing

Men have to do a lot already without these extra layers of B.S

Approach , display value ,be confident, maintain tempo , build attraction etc etc none of this is "easy"

For a man to do all this correctly and then still receive bad behaviour / ghosted is really really duplicitous by women

I know it shouldn't but it really makes me feel like women desperately need to be put back in their place , more men need to start giving women home truths

Tate for example tried and they censored him very quickly

But we've now engineered a situation whereby the man virtually cannot win

If he calls the ghosting / bad behaviour out for what is is he gets labelled as "butt hurt"

If he allows it or ignores it he loses by default

 

[The Duke]

Whilst I do concur , the reality is in 2024 men are not rocks and nor should we really be expected to be

Women have ascertained far far too much power within the dating / mating game largely in exchange for just existing

Men have to do a lot already without these extra layers of B.S

Approach , display value ,be confident, maintain tempo , build attraction etc etc none of this is "easy"

For a man to do all this correctly and then still receive bad behaviour / ghosted is really really duplicitous by women

I know it shouldn't but it really makes me feel like women desperately need to be put back in their place , more men need to start giving women home truths

Tate for example tried and they censored him very quickly

But we've now engineered a situation whereby the man virtually cannot win

If he calls the ghosting / bad behaviour out for what is is he gets labelled as "butt hurt"

If he allows it or ignores it he loses by default

Look for girls that had their grandparents help raise them. They know their place. I've had two of them. It's the only type a man has the best shot of success with. These girls will be "old souls" and they are rare.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Whilst I do concur , the reality is in 2024 men are not rocks and nor should we really be expected to be

Women have ascertained far far too much power within the dating / mating game largely in exchange for just existing

Men have to do a lot already without these extra layers of B.S

Approach , display value ,be confident, maintain tempo , build attraction etc etc none of this is "easy"

For a man to do all this correctly and then still receive bad behaviour / ghosted is really really duplicitous by women

I know it shouldn't but it really makes me feel like women desperately need to be put back in their place , more men need to start giving women home truths

Tate for example tried and they censored him very quickly

But we've now engineered a situation whereby the man virtually cannot win

If he calls the ghosting / bad behaviour out for what is is he gets labelled as "butt hurt"

If he allows it or ignores it he loses by default

This really has nothing to do with how a man should be acting tho.

The majority of the reason women have gotten to this point is from men becoming weaker and weaker, in large part due to continual lowering of testosterone levels since the 1960s.

You are talking about extrinsic factors but that shouldn't have any effect on a man intrinsically.

I'm not one for excuses. The standard is the standard. I'm not lowering mine because it's "too hard these days".

 

[Agamemnon43]

Look for girls that had their grandparents help raise them. They know their place. I've had two of them. It's the only type a man has the best shot of success with. These girls will be "old souls" and they are rare.

While I think this used to be true, I also percieve today's grandparents to be some of the worst influence on children's upbringing. I observe several of them in my wider family and they are awful. Too agreeable, too allowing for everything, too reacting to everything children do, needy for cuddling, kissing, don't teach the kids anything valuable, just weak and meek presence in children's lives. All they give them is "love" and they can't help themselves because they are addicted to seeing their grandchilldren 'cause they have nothing to do in lives. Just sad. Opposite of what it used to be. I usually find parents more stern than grandparents.
I had to get this out, lol

 

[BackInTheGame78]

While I think this used to be true, I also percieve today's grandparents to be some of the worst influence on children's upbringing. I observe several of them in my wider family and they are awful. Too agreeable, too allowing for everything, too reacting to everything children do, needy for cuddling, kissing, don't teach the kids anything valuable, just weak and meek presence in children's lives. All they give them is "love" and they can't help themselves because they are addicted to seeing their grandchilldren 'cause they have nothing to do in lives. Just sad. Opposite of what it used to be. I usually find parents more stern than grandparents.
I had to get this out, lol

Grandparents always spoil kids, that's their job. The parents are the ones who are supposed to instill discipline and boundaries, and they are mostly failing these days because they want to be their kids best friends instead of their parents.

 

[TheGambino]

Update: now she doesn’t have a profile picture on WhatsApp. So she either deleted my number or deleted her profile picture to test if I’m scared that she might blocked me to make me text her and find out so a test.

On Instagram and Snapchat were still followed and friends.

really weird sh1t…. Don’t know what to think about it.

My last message goodnight is still on grey not read

It’s probably just a test otherwise she would delete me off snap and IG means she wants me to reach out and make me think about her dududu

* I can see the status “Hi I use WhatsApp” so that means she didn’t block me just deleted her profile picture or deleted my number.

She’s playing games