One, I have never heard of a doctor or lawyer struggling for women even in the black pill communities.
Many doctors and lawyers are blue pill married men in subpar to mediocre marriages.
In Smithville, Ohio, sureeeee 100k is sufficient enough to raise your value and make you a top 1% male in The community. However, in Los Angeles, 100k is pennies and your competition raises drastically.
Smithville, OH is 28 miles from Akron, OH and has a population of under 2,000. It'd be nearly impossible to date in Smithville itself itself due to lack of population. Akron is 189,000 and probably large enough to have a sufficient dating population. Akron is 40 miles from Cleveland and only about 20-25 miles from outskirts of Cleveland. It'd be possible though less probable for Akron people to date Cleveland people.
$100k in the Akron market will be way better than $100k in Los Angeles.
In Dallas, $100k is better than $100k in Los Angeles, but Dallas is becoming less affordable. $100k in Dallas isn't going to impress anyone as a 30s/early 40s guy in a white collar role and normie tier looks. White collar normies who don't have an edge to them would need a salary in the $150-$200k range at age 30+ to start to impress childless women. $100k at age 30-40 in Dallas is beta bux for a very average looking single mom. $100k at age 26-27 in Dallas might impress some 20 something childless single women who are more relationship oriented and see big time salary growth in 10 years.
John is in his mid to late 30s and he makes around 50-70k a year which is enough for a single man to live comfortably by in a lower COL part of the state. Eventually, he realizes he is nearing 40 and his social circle group is dwindling, so he decides to get serious about finding a potential wife. John starts looking for single women around his age, but notices that they are career women and make more money than him. He looks at the women below his income and they are mostly washed up welfare single moms at this point. Realistically, John is royally screwed lol.
John is going to have to make some major lifestyle changes that he will not see the effects overnight to become viable in the dating marketplace. He is not economically viable to women in his age range and he lacks the money and looks to date younger women.
The best solution to this is to avoid turning in to John in the first place.
In the John example at the highest income ($70k) and late 30s in an area with sufficient but small-ish population (150,000 - 250,000 population), swag will help. Things like badass tattoos, riding a motorcycle, and some other thrill seeking, out of the ordinary hobbies might make John more competitive. He's also young enough at 37 to build some bigger muscles in the gym
. It's debatable whether hunting alone would be enough to be considered swag in a smaller area, since smaller areas might have more guys who hunt and fish than bigger cities. Hunting, a motorcycle, and a few well designed, well placed tattoos would probably be enough swag in an area with sufficient but small-ish population. Being a white collar drone with 1-2 smaller, more concealed tattoos is not swag and not enough tattoos to be considered edgy enough to impress.
Overall, bigger muscles and swag are his best options.
"Money, muscles, game" -Rollo Tomassi
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Putting it all together, here's a realistic scenario from Texas.
John is a 37 year old childless man in Amarillo, Texas (estimated population 201,234 as of 2021 and a lower cost of living area) making $70,000 in a year in a white collar role and has a non-STEM bachelor's degree. He is normie tier on looks. Amarillo does not have a lot of careerist women, so the 30+ women in Amarillo will be mainly single moms. If John were a 37 year old single dad in Amarillo, a 30-35 year old single mom making $40-$60k in Amarillo is very realistic and he doesn't need to level up. For this exercise, we will call him 37 and childless and he's unwilling to take on a single mom.
What are John's options?
His best options are through his social circle. At age 37, it's likely he's been in Amarillo for some time, as Amarillo doesn't attract a lot of transplants. There's a good chance that his bachelor's degree was from Texas Tech in Lubbock, 120 miles down Interstate 27. Texas Tech is the biggest university near Amarillo. He might have already exhausted all his social circle options by now, including getting introductions to the friends of his female co-workers. If he hasn't done this, he needs to do it immediately. By age 37, and being in Amarillo 10+ years, he's likely done this.
If he has no social circle options and all he can do is app swipe, send DM on social media, or approach strangers in person, he's in a tough spot. Having swag/an edge is his best hope in doing that at a $70k salary. The options are very limited in the 30-36 age range in Amarillo, as that will mostly be single moms. He could have options with childless women 21-27 with enough swag or using "Mystery Method" like techniques, but that's difficult. Most people who use "Mystery Method" or the Torero-Krauser London Daygame Model don't see a lot in the way of results with it. It's still better to try to learn a Game system than be a blue pill normie, but it's difficult to see results with it. At $70k in Amarillo, 21-27 year old childless women mostly won't be impressed. If he leads his frame with money, in Amarillo, he'd need at least $100-$130k to do that to attract a 21-27 year old childless woman or the outlier childless 30 something.
John could move to Dallas. It'd be realistic for him to immediately turn his $70k job in Amarillo into a $90k job in Dallas. While that sounds better, $90k isn't much in Dallas. It's far from the $150k baseline needed to impress women with money/lifestyle in Dallas. Even $150-175k in Dallas is a minimum to be competitive on money. John's not getting there soon. 37 years old and $90k in Dallas is a solid prospect but will still struggle. Bigger muscles will help somewhat and to a greater degree if he's 6'0"+. The biggest advantage that John has in Dallas over Amarillo is more quantity and more childless 30 something options. At best, he can get some mediocre to possibly slightly above average girlfriend based on more quantity in Dallas than Amarillo.
Dallas at $90k is likely an incrementally better option at age 37 than Amarillo at 70k at age 37. Either way,
@CornbreadFed is correct than John is in a bad situation either way. As
@jaymbrs pointed out, women don't want a semi-successful man, which is what John would be in Dallas at $90k at 37. John's really going nowhere in life but at least he can support him financially and not be a drain on the welfare system.
Men in this category, $75k-$125k salary, relatively in shape, drive a good car, has a few hobbies, women do not want. Why? Because this man has standards. Women do not want to work for their men. Women of today want a simp or a millionaire. Simple as that. This is what society aka social media...
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Middle tier men like John are in the worst position. It's better to be broke, tattooed, and look like you've possibly served jail time than be a middle tier, normie white collar man. It's better to be a nightclub/strip club bouncer and bang hot, young strippers and bartenders than be a middle tier, normie white collar man. It's also better to be a higher level white collar executive than a middle tier white collar guy, who is either a middle manager or a higher level individual contributor.
