You gotta kill that romance self of yours. Or rather, learn to wield it only in select situations. Catching feelings for a girl, attachment, I almost want to it is not natural. We're humans, yes. We can get attached to people. And I won't deny that men and women can get feelings for one another that cannot be developed between two friends of the same sex. Especially if sex is involved. There is however a beta need that comes from wanting to be with a woman more. Like you cannot live without her. That means you are not busy enough producing things for yourself. Which is why I and others keep telling men to do things in their life that is productive and career building. Women are not the center of your world. They simply supplement it.