Its not so much getting rejected by this one girl as it is all of the negative thoughts about this and how rejection will always happen to me every time would get confirmed if she rejected me and then I would probably become very depressed. I already slipped into a pretty bad depression just from my sh*tty texting performance and haven't been sober very much in the past couple days as a result of it.
Thanks for the advice, I'm gonna bookmark it and keep it in mind for next time. I still just feel like sh*t right now because of how badly I messed up and that I killed any interest that could've been there with this very poor texting performance.
1. Yeah I know I didn't, I saw myself making that mistake and I did nothing to fix it. I guess I just figured that it was too late to fix it by adding that in later in the conversation, it should've been there from the beginning.
Yep, that's better than my long As$ and sh*tty texting performance. I still feel like sh*t because of how badly I messed up, I also feel like a huge idiot for messing up so early on.
Stop caring about that one girl. That's the problem. Once you have a handful of women going you can stop caring about any one in particular.
Yeah that's what happens when you're almost never around any girls, you develop oneitis with the girl that you are interested in because no other girls are around, now its back to square one. And yeah you probably should go and talk to that girl in person again if she's stalling.
Yeah I get that, it can be pretty funny to see other people's cringeworthy fails, I'm guilty of doing the same. I don't think things can be salvaged with this girl, I feel like I blew it with her anything else would be a lost cause.
That old chesnut - no, this girl is DIFFERENT. Been there.
You've already pretty much assured it by playing it in your mind over and over like a movie. Your mind doesn't know any different so when you are in a situation like that in real life, it will find a way to make sure the result plays out exactly how you scripted it in your mind thousands if times.
There still is no reason to text a chick he already knows fairly well more than a few times before asking her out. Otherwise he is going to look scared and like he is trying to work up the courage to do it like he has with all this other BS he was texting her about.
You just described me better than I ever could have, that's why I said in an earlier reply that I kind of think I subconsciously made those mistakes when texting her on purpose in order to fit the narrative that my mind and conscious already know, just like how you said.
Exactly, and that's why looking back on our conversation now, I kind of think that at the VERY beginning she was happy and excited to hear from me because she thought I was gonna ask her out, but then quickly lost interest in me and saw that didn't have the confidence and courage to ask her out after I started babbling on about all the BS that I said instead.
I make a point of not putting the pu$sy on the pedestal, I think it was more of me being a blabbing idiot who made a mistake that most guys my age with half a brain wouldn't ever make. But she actually did know me before this, did you see where I wrote in my first post that we worked together at a temporary summer job and that's how we met?
Today I wrote "I might have got ahead of myself with your having braids and the same name as my favorite model, I should come see you at work this week" and she immediately sent two long replies saying that was a great idea and she's still up for it.
Yes I saw that, she may have knew you, but you guys didn't text at all like that before. When you open your mouth and blab on and on, you start acting like a chick friend. It's better be silent and s chick asking you what's wrong than s girl replying yea or it's been a long day, no way, interesting
Yeah we didn't and that was a really bad first phone conversation between the two of us. There definitely was no mystery and nothing left up to her imagination after what I did, the only thing that was a result of my messages was boredom and predictability on my part when it should've been more mysterious and unpredictable instead.
Glad that worked out for you, that's exactly what I should've done instead, just had my texts to her be short, simple, and to the point and let her be the one to write the long replies.
