Recent content by DonJuanna

this is totally not a response to your last question, and i am a girl so by your standards not capable of logical conversation, but i have to say something- you're 24 years old? you're way too young to be certain about anything in life, like whether or not you want a family. maybe the fact...

um, girl's opinion here- i think most girls don't care about it, because it happens to almost every guy. or you could have a doctor write you a prescription for propecia, it's a pill you take every day, helps slow hair loss for some guys.

hey, here's some of my thoughts about what you said. It doesn't sound to me like this girl would of hooked up with you if you had reeled off a list of activities, sounds more like she was just making conversation. I don't think a social life is really attractive in itself, it's just that the...

Hi, it's me again. I disagree 100 percent with every post in this thread (Edit- except the one right above mine). By the way, it sounds to me like you're making progress- that is, you're getting closer to being able to have fulfilling relationships with women. You hung out with this girl, and...

do men have a right to use any woman's private parts, or just some women in particular? what criteria do you use to determine which women each normal everyday guy has a right to?

ok, had to respond to some points here- jophil- i think you're too confident that i would "condemn" a guy for cheating. you really think that if a girl said "my boyfriend admitted he went on a date with and kissed another girl, and flirted with an ex", i would respond "oh jeezus! what a...

ok i saw this thread and had to say something... girl's perspective here... it sounds like she has real emotional issues and the two of you have relationship issues that you should of worked out before moving in together- but since it sounds like you both want to make it work, i think you guys...

I'm going to come to Trader's defense here. If people want a "traditional" life (ie, a couple eventually settles down into a "lifetime" commitment, the man works, the woman stays home and keeps house), it makes perfect sense for the guy to pay for dates- he's symbolically demonstrating his...

Maxtro, I'm sorry to hear things went badly. It's lame that she brought another dude along. I'm going to offer my assessment of the situation. This girl is a shy, dorky 20 year old, possibly a virgin, and she's being pursued by a guy (you) considerably older then her. Maybe that other guy...

Being "clingy" and "being a nice guy" are two entirely different things. Clingyness, I would say, is when person A wants to spend more time together (or be more emotionally intimate) then person B does, and person A either fails to sense this discrepancy or sees it and chooses to ignore it...

Ok, I'm back. Igetit, yes it's true, I think he should go for comfort first. But I think while he's establishing that comfort, he should be gradually upping the ante in terms of physical contact each time they hang out- first sitting very close to her, then sitting with his knee pressed...

Maxtro said that he's mostly talked to this girl in class, and hung out with her alone "a couple of times". If a couple of times means seven, then that's one thing. If it means 2 or 3, then I think it would be premature to... test the light switch, I suppose (I do like that metaphor). 2...

As a feminazi liberal, I must say I'm certain I would return from Afghanistan chastised, humbled, and willing to serve my American male masters without complaint!

Igetit, the issue I have with the advice you and others are giving is that you are conflating two issues: 1. How he can get the girl interested in him 2. How he can show her that he's interested in her For example, you wrote: To me, the phrase "establishing attraction" suggests the guy is...

Ha yeah... I guess the anime nerdiness shined through. Ok, that all sounds reasonable. I would just say that I don't think kissing is an effective attraction check. Girls kiss guys who they aren't attracted to all the time, just to be polite or not hurt their feelings or whatever. So--...