KingofHearts
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I'm writing this post knowing full well that it will sink to the bottom of the page by the end of tomorrow. I wish I could post this on the MM side. And if I posted in Anything Else, it doesn't really get a lot of views, oh well.
I'm reluctant to write and post this but its still 100x better than trying to talk with my friends about this. My friends don't know **** about women or what to do with one when they fall in their lap. I would appreciate any comments from guys on this site, at least you all know a thing or two about women.
This is about a girl named Kelly. She's overweight by a decent amount. She has a cute face and is all around pretty cute, but she could stand to lose some pounds. An HB5, maybe less to some of you if saw her. Its whats kept me from actually falling for her the way she has fallen for me. Throughout the duration of us knowing each other, she has never really done me wrong. I mean she's made mistakes, but its all been with good intentions. She is submissive, sweet, kind, friendly, unselfish. She is everything that my ex-wife pretended to be, except this is the real deal.
What Kelly is missing is 1) being as attractive as my ex-wife or other girls i've dated and 2) not as fun to be around. I mean going to the doctor was fun with my ex, we could turn everything into fun time. We both had that attitude of "how can I make this moment fun?" Lots of fire, passion and chemistry. That spark seems to be missing between me and Kelly. I attribute it mostly to me not being physically attracted to her very much. I can still get it up and **** her good, but sex is different when you don't love the *****.
But the reason she has stood the test of time is her persistence. Her love for me is just beyond anything I ever seen. Such loyalty. This girl has been chasing me for quite a while. For years. I mean since she was in 6th grade. Sure she dated people and even had sex, but once we started dating, her loyalty to me went up a notch.
We started dating a couple years ago (she was 20 then). She was one of the plates I was spinning while I was dating my future ex-wife. Eventually I just stopped talking to all my plates when things got serious with my ex. Basically went no contact. Kelly did attempt to call me several times, text me etc. I just ignored it or gave short answers to let her know I moved on. She never told me she loved me but, I felt it from her. She fell for me hard, and all the more because she had a crush on me long before I even knew her name.
Fast forward to last year. I'm finally getting over the mess of my divorce and started dating again. I get Kelly on the phone and we didn't miss a beat. The more I talk to her, the more she reveals how much she really loved me. I have never said it back. So I'm spinning multiple plates again for a while until the whole thing bored me to tears. I still date sporadically now i guess, maybe once every few weeks. But this girl Kelly will not let me forget about her.
Kelly has sent me dozens of letters, notes, texts, left phone messages, sexy pictures of herself, shes always been that way. And she really let loose when I told her how much i liked the heartfelt messages. When we see each other, she always has gifts for me. I guess it would come off as creepy if I asked her to stop and she didn't stop. In fact I have asked her to stop on occasion, and she complies. But eventually I start spinning that plate again and she starts up with the loving affectionate stuff again.
Now you could say its just an AFC version of a girl, especially given her lower value to guys. But she has dated other guys in the past. She's had sex and had boyfriends. But she has stopped all that since we started talking again. She has never once gotten mad at me. We have never had an argument ever. See, I've had girls go all AFC on me plenty of times. They send me letters and stalk me and chase me. But they get out of control. They can't stop themselves. I chase them away and eventually they stop harassing me. But Kelly has never gone whacko on me. Its just like she is just anxiously yet patiently waiting for me to see that she is the right one for me. She has even told me this in similar words.
And now that I think about it, as much as she isn't the typical slutty gf, she would make the perfect housewife. I would rather marry this girl than date her. Does this make sense to anyone? I mean Kelly gives me sex whenever I ask. In fact she does everything I ask. She is so teachable in every sense of the word. Really, and the longer we get to know each other, the better her precision is at pleasing me (and not just sexually). After years, you would think that a women gets better at pushing the right buttons to piss a man off. But Kelly is finding the right buttons to push to make me happy. Its amazing when I look back at how far she has come. The most impressive thing is she respects me. She holds me in such high regard and compliments me in public and in private. Even other girls that have confessed their love for me eventually turn evil and go bat**** on me. But Kelly is just so consistent.
I have shared with her my desire to have a submissive wife, and she has told that's exactly what she wants to be. From sexual, to how to act in public, to being my assistant for work, to helping me clean, giving me physical attention (baths, massages, back rubs etc), she's proven herself over and over that she could be whatever I ask her to be. She is exactly what I want to come home to.
And I've overlooked these qualities in kelly because I thought I could do better, at leaest from a physical standpoint. And yes I can. Even now, I'm talking up pretty attactive girls, but they're airheads. And the ones that can sort of keep up in a conversation or with my humor are not LTR material.
Is this normal for guys that are out there dating many women? I mean I wouldn't say I date a ton, but its probably better than average. And I've dated the whole spectrum of women, from 9's and 10's to girls that were just a pity date because our friends set us up. Plus I've dated older and younger. Oldest was 10 years older, youngest was 5 years younger. All that said, i have no interest in settling down again anytime soon. I'm not even close to being in love with anybody. I don't want a girlfriend, and even sex is so much trouble sometimes. I'm not LTR material right now, ha ha.
So that's my question you people, can you relate to this? Are girls like Kelly a common occurence once you've stepped up you're own improvement? And what did you decide to do with a girl like this? Do you keep her around as an FB. Do you make her your gf while chasing other girls (i would never do that)? Or do you just move on and hope you run into a more attractive version of the same submissive girl? I mean, she doesn't smoke, do drugs or get drunk. She is 100% submissive or close to it. I mean she's never really challenged me at all. She would make a great housewife, but is missing that edge to make her an interesting date. Plus, i would rather take a more attractive girl if I'm going out somewhere nice or some kind of ceremony where I know many people. But Kelly is the one I would love to come home to.
Anyway, this whole post is probably much too long and boring for most. But I guess what I want to know is how rare is a girl like Kelly?And if you have never experienced a girl like Kelly before in your own life, do you think i'm an idiot for passing this up? In my life, she is one in a million. I have seen other women (much older though) be like this for other men. My theory always is - if there's one girl like that, then there's more. But in my case, she's known me for 10+ years. She's survived me going to college, moving away, getting married and divorced, me not dating anybody and yet, she still remains like the fireproof safe after an explosion. Absolutely, f-ing dependable and reliable and loyal. In my 24 years on this earth, i have not seen such commitment.
Would I be stupid to turn Kelly down in hopes of finding better? Or is this such a rare occurence, that its like walking past $10000 lying on the ground? If I don't take it, then my life isn't ruined, but it would be so much sweeter if I picked it up and made the most of it.
I'm reluctant to write and post this but its still 100x better than trying to talk with my friends about this. My friends don't know **** about women or what to do with one when they fall in their lap. I would appreciate any comments from guys on this site, at least you all know a thing or two about women.
This is about a girl named Kelly. She's overweight by a decent amount. She has a cute face and is all around pretty cute, but she could stand to lose some pounds. An HB5, maybe less to some of you if saw her. Its whats kept me from actually falling for her the way she has fallen for me. Throughout the duration of us knowing each other, she has never really done me wrong. I mean she's made mistakes, but its all been with good intentions. She is submissive, sweet, kind, friendly, unselfish. She is everything that my ex-wife pretended to be, except this is the real deal.
What Kelly is missing is 1) being as attractive as my ex-wife or other girls i've dated and 2) not as fun to be around. I mean going to the doctor was fun with my ex, we could turn everything into fun time. We both had that attitude of "how can I make this moment fun?" Lots of fire, passion and chemistry. That spark seems to be missing between me and Kelly. I attribute it mostly to me not being physically attracted to her very much. I can still get it up and **** her good, but sex is different when you don't love the *****.
But the reason she has stood the test of time is her persistence. Her love for me is just beyond anything I ever seen. Such loyalty. This girl has been chasing me for quite a while. For years. I mean since she was in 6th grade. Sure she dated people and even had sex, but once we started dating, her loyalty to me went up a notch.
We started dating a couple years ago (she was 20 then). She was one of the plates I was spinning while I was dating my future ex-wife. Eventually I just stopped talking to all my plates when things got serious with my ex. Basically went no contact. Kelly did attempt to call me several times, text me etc. I just ignored it or gave short answers to let her know I moved on. She never told me she loved me but, I felt it from her. She fell for me hard, and all the more because she had a crush on me long before I even knew her name.
Fast forward to last year. I'm finally getting over the mess of my divorce and started dating again. I get Kelly on the phone and we didn't miss a beat. The more I talk to her, the more she reveals how much she really loved me. I have never said it back. So I'm spinning multiple plates again for a while until the whole thing bored me to tears. I still date sporadically now i guess, maybe once every few weeks. But this girl Kelly will not let me forget about her.
Kelly has sent me dozens of letters, notes, texts, left phone messages, sexy pictures of herself, shes always been that way. And she really let loose when I told her how much i liked the heartfelt messages. When we see each other, she always has gifts for me. I guess it would come off as creepy if I asked her to stop and she didn't stop. In fact I have asked her to stop on occasion, and she complies. But eventually I start spinning that plate again and she starts up with the loving affectionate stuff again.
Now you could say its just an AFC version of a girl, especially given her lower value to guys. But she has dated other guys in the past. She's had sex and had boyfriends. But she has stopped all that since we started talking again. She has never once gotten mad at me. We have never had an argument ever. See, I've had girls go all AFC on me plenty of times. They send me letters and stalk me and chase me. But they get out of control. They can't stop themselves. I chase them away and eventually they stop harassing me. But Kelly has never gone whacko on me. Its just like she is just anxiously yet patiently waiting for me to see that she is the right one for me. She has even told me this in similar words.
And now that I think about it, as much as she isn't the typical slutty gf, she would make the perfect housewife. I would rather marry this girl than date her. Does this make sense to anyone? I mean Kelly gives me sex whenever I ask. In fact she does everything I ask. She is so teachable in every sense of the word. Really, and the longer we get to know each other, the better her precision is at pleasing me (and not just sexually). After years, you would think that a women gets better at pushing the right buttons to piss a man off. But Kelly is finding the right buttons to push to make me happy. Its amazing when I look back at how far she has come. The most impressive thing is she respects me. She holds me in such high regard and compliments me in public and in private. Even other girls that have confessed their love for me eventually turn evil and go bat**** on me. But Kelly is just so consistent.
I have shared with her my desire to have a submissive wife, and she has told that's exactly what she wants to be. From sexual, to how to act in public, to being my assistant for work, to helping me clean, giving me physical attention (baths, massages, back rubs etc), she's proven herself over and over that she could be whatever I ask her to be. She is exactly what I want to come home to.
And I've overlooked these qualities in kelly because I thought I could do better, at leaest from a physical standpoint. And yes I can. Even now, I'm talking up pretty attactive girls, but they're airheads. And the ones that can sort of keep up in a conversation or with my humor are not LTR material.
Is this normal for guys that are out there dating many women? I mean I wouldn't say I date a ton, but its probably better than average. And I've dated the whole spectrum of women, from 9's and 10's to girls that were just a pity date because our friends set us up. Plus I've dated older and younger. Oldest was 10 years older, youngest was 5 years younger. All that said, i have no interest in settling down again anytime soon. I'm not even close to being in love with anybody. I don't want a girlfriend, and even sex is so much trouble sometimes. I'm not LTR material right now, ha ha.
So that's my question you people, can you relate to this? Are girls like Kelly a common occurence once you've stepped up you're own improvement? And what did you decide to do with a girl like this? Do you keep her around as an FB. Do you make her your gf while chasing other girls (i would never do that)? Or do you just move on and hope you run into a more attractive version of the same submissive girl? I mean, she doesn't smoke, do drugs or get drunk. She is 100% submissive or close to it. I mean she's never really challenged me at all. She would make a great housewife, but is missing that edge to make her an interesting date. Plus, i would rather take a more attractive girl if I'm going out somewhere nice or some kind of ceremony where I know many people. But Kelly is the one I would love to come home to.
Anyway, this whole post is probably much too long and boring for most. But I guess what I want to know is how rare is a girl like Kelly?And if you have never experienced a girl like Kelly before in your own life, do you think i'm an idiot for passing this up? In my life, she is one in a million. I have seen other women (much older though) be like this for other men. My theory always is - if there's one girl like that, then there's more. But in my case, she's known me for 10+ years. She's survived me going to college, moving away, getting married and divorced, me not dating anybody and yet, she still remains like the fireproof safe after an explosion. Absolutely, f-ing dependable and reliable and loyal. In my 24 years on this earth, i have not seen such commitment.
Would I be stupid to turn Kelly down in hopes of finding better? Or is this such a rare occurence, that its like walking past $10000 lying on the ground? If I don't take it, then my life isn't ruined, but it would be so much sweeter if I picked it up and made the most of it.
