Your thoughts on men hitting their stride with women and being f*ckboys after 30.

[Jesse Pinkman]

It seems that like with a lot of things, we admire it when a guy does it at a young age. For example, the prodigy who becomes a billionaire in his 20s or the guy who becomes the founder of his own company at 25. We admire getting there fast such as making your first million at the age of 25 or becoming a popular social media star/celebrity when you are 20.

On the other hand, when you do it at an older age, I guess people are not as wowed for a guy to pull it off. Like if a guy is 45 and managed to find his own company, it is something that comes with a wow factor.

I also see this with game and getting laid. If a guy is in school or his early 20s and getting laid, there is this admiration for it and even the prudes of society will say "he is a kid". At the same time, once a guy hits 30, there comes this pressure from society for him to settle down, get married, have kids, not be a f*ck boy, and so on.

What are your thoughts on a man hitting his stride with dating and attracting women after the age of 30 and choosing to be a f*ckboy to enjoy the lifestyle he couldn't in his 20s?

 

[SW15]

What are your thoughts on a man hitting his stride with dating and attracting women after the age of 30 and choosing to be a f*ckboy to enjoy the lifestyle he couldn't in his 20s?

That's good for him. It's actually more difficult to do that at 30+.

It is even better if the 30+ man is able to get with substantially younger women.

When men get married in the USA, the average age gap is 2.2 years and the man is 2.2 years older. I haven't seen data points around unmarried couples and their age differences.

A growing share of U.S. husbands and wives are roughly the same age

On average, husbands and wives were 2.2 years apart in age in 2022, down from 2.4 years in 2000 and 4.9 years in 1880.

www.pewresearch.org

Most men won't be able to pull off the casual sex lifestyle in their 30s and beyond. They won't be able to attract enough women to create that abundance.

 

[GoodMan32]

To the OP:

A man being a f*ckboy at 30+ doesn't necessarily have to mean he's living the lifestyle he couldn't live in his 20s. In many cases, it could mean a continuation of the lifestyle he lived in his 20s.

In either case (whether he's continuing his f*ckboy lifestyle from his 20s even after he becomes 30+, or he becomes a f*ckboy at 30+), I admire him.

Interestingly, as a 33 year old man, I was more willing to get into a relationship in my younger days than I am now. All I want now is casual sex.

 

[GoodMan32]

Most men won't be able to pull off the casual sex lifestyle in their 30s and beyond. They won't be able to attract enough women to create that abundance.

What you're saying is true.

Which is surprising, seeing as looking youthful supposedly isn't as important for a man's looks than a woman's looks. As a guy I know put it "A 70 year old man looks distinguished. A 70 year old woman looks shriveled"

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Not really interested in what others thing I should do. I do what I want.

 

[Manure Spherian]

What are your thoughts on a man hitting his stride with dating and attracting women after the age of 30 and choosing to be a f*ckboy to enjoy the lifestyle he couldn't in his 20s?

It’s typical Red Pill catch up and getting Chad’s leftovers. Late to the party, but that’s other men’s choices that I don’t care about. RP tortoises had to “do the work” and contribute to GDP and hit the pavement while teenaged broccoli heads, criminals, and couch surfers attract women by way of existing.

Richard Cooper, Myron Gaines, Michael Sartain, and the like—late to the party, frantic, overly serious, middle-aged cleaner-uppers and catcher-uppers.

 

[Manure Spherian]

What are your thoughts on a man hitting his stride with dating and attracting women after the age of 30 and choosing to be a f*ckboy to enjoy the lifestyle he couldn't in his 20s?

I’d also be thinking what went wrong for him from age 13 to 30.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

You will be judged by others in this regard by how you look. Imagine seeing a Ferrari driving in the slow lane on the freeway. Or. Conversely, a crappy looking beater trying to fly down in the left lane. If your actions are congruent with your appearance, you’ll be fine.

 

[Isildur1]

It’s typical Red Pill catch up and getting Chad’s leftovers. Late to the party, but that’s other men’s choices that I don’t care about. RP tortoises had to “do the work” and contribute to GDP and hit the pavement while teenaged broccoli heads, criminals, and couch surfers attract women by way of existing.

Richard Cooper, Myron Gaines, Michael Sartain, and the like—late to the party, frantic, overly serious, middle-aged cleaner-uppers and catcher-uppers.

what do you think of Sartain btw?

 

[Manure Spherian]

what do you think of Sartain btw?

Typical RP madman overanalyzing female behavior, scolding and informing stupid, vapid, plastic and burnt-to-a-crisp broads (“Heehee, did you women know the guys you want are 0.1% of the population?”, as if they care), and doing the typical RP theme of “improvement” (socialmaxxing, GDP, gymmaxxing) and catching up. I recently saw a YouTube short of him in which he said something like, “Now that I’m in my 40s I attract more women…”. Again, my thought was, “Uh… what went on before that?”

Not All this is bad, considering late bloomers need advice and don’t need to die alone. I still think RP content, though some of it is informative, serves as a warning: do not wait on this area of life considering the more time passes in one’s teen years and 20s, the harder it will be, if not resulting in inceldom/womanlessness. Teenage females start screwing at thirteen and typically Chads and scumbags lose their virginity to older women. Young men should be aware of this to avoid being deluded by the Revenge of the Nerds and Silver Foxes meme.
When my son is older I will warn him of the consequences mentioned.

 

[Clockwerk50]

What are your thoughts on a man hitting his stride with dating and attracting women after the age of 30 and choosing to be a f*ckboy to enjoy the lifestyle he couldn't in his 20s?

I don’t care what people do with their lives as long as it doesn’t affect mine. I hope he is confident in his decisions and accountable for his actions.

 

[BPH]

Why does not being married at 30+ make you a f*ck boy?

 

[Manure Spherian]

Why does not being married at 30+ make you a f*ck boy?

It doesn’t. See my post if you wish. If a guy is not a womanizer by 30, chances are he won’t be one.

 

[BPH]

It doesn’t. See my post if you wish. If a guy is not a womanizer by 30, chances are he won’t be one.

Sure, I just wonder why OP thinks that's the case.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Yoda once said, "One Who Knocks Not Need Worry Such Things About, But One Who Says B1tch Does Yes."

 

[Vanderdonck]

If he's doing what he wants and not hurting anyone, more power to him. Hopefully my opinion is irrelevant to his life anyway.

Who cares what society thinks, guys. Live your life.

 

[needimprovement250]

once a guy hits 30, there comes this pressure from society for him to settle down, get married, have kids, not be a f*ck boy, and so on.

This stood out to me, so I wanted to quote it. As a guy who’s 31 and never dated, this hit home and is a pretty big concern of mine for a couple of reasons. It highlights how far behind I am since I’m still at the stage of wanting to date for fun and exploration (being a f*ck boy) while society is saying its time to settle down. Also when it comes to the dating pool for my age group, I have a bad feeling it’s gonna be full of women who have settling down in mind and they won’t take me seriously if they were to find out that I’ve never dated. They’ll see it as a waste of time for them because someone’s first relationship never lasts, so they would be entering into a relationship that is guaranteed to fail and never lead to settling down. And to be fair, I want that fun and exploration phase still, so I wouldn’t want to date a woman who has settling down in mind anyway. I just think those women are gonna be the majority at my age unfortunately.

 

[Manure Spherian]

while society is saying its time to settle down.

What society do you live in? American society pressures no one to get married.

 

[Manure Spherian]

This stood out to me, so I wanted to quote it. As a guy who’s 31 and never dated

See my previous post. I’m asking respectfully: how did you get in this position?

 

[DJ Novice]

I’m 57 this year and am just hitting my stride.
I have little problem attracting interest from women including some up to 10 years younger than me but dry spells do happen.

I’m spinning a few plates at the moment including an ex alpha widow who says she will visit when I’m old, still wants to stay in touch and has no desire to date anyone else in the immediate future despite being hit on by multiple guys earning much more than me. She took me to a strip club as a surprise recently post break up.

I don’t regard myself as a player by any means, I reckon I’m 7/10 at most and 6/10 at least. Age is no barrier to learning seduction skills.

Confidence is key but hitting the gym, dressing well and watching your diet helps. A sense of humour is the icing on the cake, make a woman genuinely laugh and she’s yours for the taking.

Spinning plates or having options does create an abundance mentality and really increases your confidence. I no longer self moderate around women (which includes talking about s*x on first dates in a humorous way for example). Authenticity and non-neediness are very attractive to women in my view.