"You are attractive, but you are too old"

[Derek Flint]

See my sig, which refers to a 23 year old who was having LMR

I believe the "you're too old" is either a s*** test or an excuse.

 

[BigDawg]

Touche'

 

[BigDawg]

Touche'!

(whoops! the second touche' was added accidentally 'cuz the forum was experiencing difficulties this morning )

 

[HeartlessBtch]

Re: Re: "You are attractive, but you are too old"

Originally posted by drixsa
Not trying to be judgemental but besides a nice fling, what do you really want with a 21 yr old??

Are you trying to say that a 21 year old cannot have a stable and mature relationship with a man who is a few years older than her? :trouble:

 

[drixsa]

Re: Re: Re: "You are attractive, but you are too old"

Originally posted by HeartlessBtch
Are you trying to say that a 21 year old cannot have a stable and mature relationship with a man who is a few years older than her? :trouble:

Yes...
I am not saying that it cannot happen but lets be honest in anything more than a short term thing it rarely happens. Most "mature" guys want a the 21yr old for her physical appearence but after that there is usually not much else to offer.

 

[Zeph]

Originally posted by Derek Flint
I'm 45 and I like to date women in their mid-20's

When they play the age card, I reframe it:

"It's not a question of if I'm too old for you, it's a question of if you are mature enough and experienced enough to date me"

Very good.

"Look, you're very nice, but you're just a girl , I'm interested in real women who are smart, focussed, etc. <list your criteria here> and I'm not convinced that you can be counted on for that."

(Here is the part where she tries to convince you how XYZ she is).

 

[ghostin]

The only girls i kno that would even go near and older man like that are just in it for the money.

Most girls that aren't gold diggers just think old men that go after young women are just pervs.

 

[Derek Flint]

Originally posted by Zeph
Very good.

"Look, you're very nice, but you're just a girl , I'm interested in real women who are smart, focussed, etc. <list your criteria here> and I'm not convinced that you can be counted on for that."

(Here is the part where she tries to convince you how XYZ she is).

Yeah, I like that too.

What it comes down to is, always, always, always have the stronger frame.

 

[Derek Flint]

Originally posted by ghostin
The only girls i kno that would even go near and older man like that are just in it for the money.

Most girls that aren't gold diggers just think old men that go after young women are just pervs.

If I had your limiting beliefs, I would be sitting home weekends instead of being out and socializing with women 10, 15 or even 20 + years younger than myself.

 

[ghostin]

Originally posted by Derek Flint
If I had your limiting beliefs, I would be sitting home weekends instead of being out and socializing with women 10, 15 or even 20 + years younger than myself.

As the old saying goes....... "You get what you pay for"

 

[Derek Flint]

Originally posted by ghostin
As the old saying goes....... "You get what you pay for"

Well, since I barely spend more than a few dollars, if any, on these chicks, my "bang for my buck" ratio is quite high.

The only other cost involved is the ocassional motel room, but when that 23 year old naked hard body is riding me at 3:30 AM, it's well worth it.

 

[al77]

Re: Re: "You are attractive, but you are too old"

Originally posted by Mee
I'm in my mid 20s and can't believe a man your age is trying to date *very* young 21 year olds. That sounds chauvinistic, not to mention gross.

I must say that if you're an older man trying to hit on me, personally, you MUST be as HANDSOME as Sean Connery, Pierce Brosnan, Brad Pitt, Rob Lowe, etc. to make up for your old age.

1) Though he claimed to be looking to date women who were intellectually equal to him, he admitted dating women as young as 21 years old, which was a HUGE red flag, since most men who date very young women are looking for playthings. Just trying to get laid. I was insulted that he *possibly* thought I was a slut.

2) He was good looking for his age but was no match for the youthful good looks of younger men. If he had looked like Pierce Brosnan......he would have TOTALLY qualified for me.

Why is that gross and chauvinistic? If 21y.o. want to sleep with 40y.o. than it is their own business. She is old enough to sleep with whoever she wants.

Men are looking to get laid ANYWAY, if she is 21y.o. or 40y.o. - there is no big difference: men wants to get laid. I.e. men always looking for playthings. Why you are so worried about this situation I have no idea....
If he is "serious" about a girl, than means he is willing to marry her and actually steadily pay for sex in marriage. If she is just a plaything, he still pays - but much less and not steady.
We all know that... so whats teh deal?

 

[MrLuvr]

Re: Re: "You are attractive, but you are too old"

Originally posted by Mee
I'm in my mid 20s and can't believe a man your age is trying to date *very* young 21 year olds. That sounds chauvinistic, not to mention gross. When I get hit on by old men, most of the time, I get creeped out or feel insulted, because those guys must think that I am on the "same level" as they are in terms of attractiveness and desirability. I must say that if you're an older man trying to hit on me, personally, you MUST be as HANDSOME as Sean Connery, Pierce Brosnan, Brad Pitt, Rob Lowe, etc. to make up for your old age. If you're a RICH old guy, then I'm sure there are plenty of young women from poor/broken homes looking to get financial support. By the way, the men I consider to be "too old" for me would be 33+. 29-32 would be ideal.

Basically, I feel that most normal, decent women would prefer to date men her own age or slightly older rather than a much older guy.

At my old job the company president, who was 37, was hitting on me. He had divorced his 34 year old wife and was single and looking. He was good looking for his age, for he worked out daily. Although he seemed smart, ambitious, and mature, 2 things troubled me:

1) Though he claimed to be looking to date women who were intellectually equal to him, he admitted dating women as young as 21 years old, which was a HUGE red flag, since most men who date very young women are looking for playthings. Just trying to get laid. I was insulted that he *possibly* thought I was a slut.

2) He was good looking for his age but was no match for the youthful good looks of younger men. If he had looked like Pierce Brosnan......he would have TOTALLY qualified for me.

Interesting comments. So, YOU could not bear to go out with an older guy because he would not be attractive enough for you, but you expect that older guys should settle for older women, just because they are older.

You say that the company president at your old job was 37 and he was hitting on you. But, he could not match the good looks of a younger man. And then you say that 29-32 is ideal for you. There is not much difference between the looks of a 32 year old man and a 37 year old man. It is marginal and if the older man is taking care of himself and the younger is not, the older man might even look better.

It is not about looks at all. I have seen a lot of attractive young girls go out with very average looking guys.

Fortunately, unlike you who seems to be totally fixated on looks, there are many women who consider other factors when dating a man.

You say you are in your mid 20s, but your comments sound like those of a 12 year old. Maybe you need to be looking for 15 year old guys. I think they will be on the same wavelength as you.

 

[Aztec]

Re: Re: Re: "You are attractive, but you are too old"

Originally posted by MrLuvr

You say you are in your mid 20s, but your comments sound like those of a 12 year old. Maybe you need to be looking for 15 year old guys. I think they will be on the same wavelength as you.

:cheer: :crackup:

 

[Derek Flint]

Re: Re: "You are attractive, but you are too old"

Originally posted by Mee
I'm in my mid 20s and can't believe a man your age is trying to date *very* young 21 year olds. That sounds chauvinistic, not to mention gross. When I get hit on by old men, most of the time, I get creeped out or feel insulted, because those guys must think that I am on the "same level" as they are in terms of attractiveness and desirability. I must say that if you're an older man trying to hit on me, personally, you MUST be as HANDSOME as Sean Connery, Pierce Brosnan, Brad Pitt, Rob Lowe, etc. to make up for your old age. If you're a RICH old guy, then I'm sure there are plenty of young women from poor/broken homes looking to get financial support. By the way, the men I consider to be "too old" for me would be 33+. 29-32 would be ideal.

Basically, I feel that most normal, decent women would prefer to date men her own age or slightly older rather than a much older guy.

At my old job the company president, who was 37, was hitting on me. He had divorced his 34 year old wife and was single and looking. He was good looking for his age, for he worked out daily. Although he seemed smart, ambitious, and mature, 2 things troubled me:

1) Though he claimed to be looking to date women who were intellectually equal to him, he admitted dating women as young as 21 years old, which was a HUGE red flag, since most men who date very young women are looking for playthings. Just trying to get laid. I was insulted that he *possibly* thought I was a slut.

2) He was good looking for his age but was no match for the youthful good looks of younger men. If he had looked like Pierce Brosnan......he would have TOTALLY qualified for me.

This is exactly what I mean by:

"It's not a question of if I'm too old for you, it's a question of if you are mature enough and experienced enough to date me"

Especially the "mature" part.

 

[BigDawg]

Re: Re: "You are attractive, but you are too old"

Originally posted by Mee
I'm in my mid 20s and can't believe a man your age is trying to date *very* young 21 year olds. That sounds chauvinistic, not to mention gross. When I get hit on by old men, most of the time, I get creeped out or feel insulted, because those guys must think that I am on the "same level" as they are in terms of attractiveness and desirability. I must say that if you're an older man trying to hit on me, personally, you MUST be as HANDSOME as Sean Connery, Pierce Brosnan, Brad Pitt, Rob Lowe, etc. to make up for your old age. If you're a RICH old guy, then I'm sure there are plenty of young women from poor/broken homes looking to get financial support. By the way, the men I consider to be "too old" for me would be 33+. 29-32 would be ideal.

Basically, I feel that most normal, decent women would prefer to date men her own age or slightly older rather than a much older guy.

At my old job the company president, who was 37, was hitting on me. He had divorced his 34 year old wife and was single and looking. He was good looking for his age, for he worked out daily. Although he seemed smart, ambitious, and mature, 2 things troubled me:

1) Though he claimed to be looking to date women who were intellectually equal to him, he admitted dating women as young as 21 years old, which was a HUGE red flag, since most men who date very young women are looking for playthings. Just trying to get laid. I was insulted that he *possibly* thought I was a slut.

2) He was good looking for his age but was no match for the youthful good looks of younger men. If he had looked like Pierce Brosnan......he would have TOTALLY qualified for me.

shallower than a dinner plate.

 

[Lost In Translation]

great translations from ******** Maximus_Decimus

i was thinking the same thing when i read her double standards

rule of pimpin' : b*tches talk sh*t


Lost In Translation

**AUSTRALIAN STREET PIMP**

 

[al77]

Re: Re: Re: "You are attractive, but you are too old"

Originally posted by Maximus_Decimus
Translation: I am socially conditioned to date younger men. My female friends would think I'm weird if they saw me with an older man.
....

Maximus_Decimus ,

Superb translation!! !!!

 

[allan976]

I'm in my ahem, "early to mid thirties" and I was dating an 18 year old late last year/early this year. Actually, I hope she was 18-- all I know for a fact was that she was a freshman in college. I just gave up on the situation first of all because I was afraid to touch her (barely legal chick) and second because we had nothing to talk about as I'm nearly twice her age.

Cute girl, but are girls this young really worth your time? It was great hugging and touching and kissing a pretty young girl, but sex with an older lover (late twenties) would be just as good, if not better (due to her experience) and an older HB might actually say something interesting to you every once and again.

Make a young chick qualify herself, in all seriousness. I know it's a cliche, but given a young girl's lack of experience, you are indeed the higher status "prize."

Allan

 

[Derek Flint]

When I was 29/30 I dated an 18 year old girl.

She was great - tall, gorgeous, great body, interesting, intellegent, mature.

Much more so than most of the women my age and older.

Too bad she had to go back to the opposite coast.