Woman's Point of View

[Lexie]

That's what all women will say at a bar if asked. But an hour later they'll be going home with some guy they met..

Perhaps, but this is hardly a bar. And I'm not going to drive who knows how many hours to hook up with someone I don't know. Plus, for all he knows I could be some 50 year old man with a pot belly and a really feminine disposition. (I'm not)

 

[LovelyLady]

Just like a woman. .

Thank you!

for you to take things out of context, miscontrue things and just subjectively perceive things and make inaccurate comparisons in general..

Awe, now you're just trying to sweet talk me...

He said he would spank you if you didn't quit testing. So he doesn't want you testing him in the future. I agree him saying "spank you" probably was more than just putting a humorous spin on his serious request, it was a compliance test. But the difference between a man's test and a woman's test is it's not a trick question. If he had said "don't stop testing me" but actually wanted you to test him, that would be an example of a trick question..

He didn't say that about spanking me to tell me to stop testing him - it was a pass, and it was his way of letting me know he thinks he can (man)handle me. LOL

Men don't give trick questions. There's better ways you could've gotten your answer to the question, "will a man lead" than through trickery.

yup, definitely need to end this little romance of ours, Keto. You need a girl that is is more liberated and direct and speaks her mind frankly, just like a man... I'm off to make wild animal passionate love with Interceptor... who isn't phased by my ... ummm... what was it? my "womanly way of take things out of context, miscontruing things and just subjectively perceiving things and making inaccurate comparisons in general."

:flowers:

 

[ketostix]

Thank you!

Awe, now you're just trying to sweet talk me...

He didn't say that about spanking me to tell me to stop testing him - it was a pass, and it was his way of letting me know he thinks he can (man)handle me. LOL

yup, definitely need to end this little romance of ours, Keto. You need a girl that is is more liberated and direct and speaks her mind frankly, just like a man... I'm off to make wild animal passionate love with Interceptor... who isn't phased by my ... ummm... what was it? my "womanly way of take things out of context, miscontruing things and just subjectively perceiving things and making inaccurate comparisons in general."

:flowers:

Very funny. You know when you've been totally logically defeated. Instead of admitting you're owned and don't want a guy to call you out, you cut and run. And then play another game card that's up your sleeve. LOL

 

[Lexie]

LL,:crackup:

Keto: seriously, the guy was flirting with her.

 

[LovelyLady]

Perhaps, but this is hardly a bar. And I'm not going to drive who knows how many hours to hook up with someone I don't know. Plus, for all he knows I could be some 50 year old man with a pot belly and a really feminine disposition. (I'm not)

Hey Lexie - how about you hook up with me and Interceptor in Sunny Florida? I guarantee THAT would be worth the drive :crackup:

 

[LovelyLady]

You're just so damn irresistable girl! :flowers:

 

[Lexie]

Hey Lexie - how about you hook up with me and Interceptor in Sunny Florida? I guarantee THAT would be worth the drive :crackup:

Lol, sounds amazing!!

 

[BlackJackal]

If they see you as "just friends" chances are they aren't interested and won't be for a long time. I do believe that the best, and longest-lasting, relationships start out as friendships, so if that's where you'd like to take things then stick around for the long haul. If you're just looking to date, I would say move on. For some reason or another she doesn't see you as dating material and she may have her sights set elsewhere.

I can honestly say it's possible. Seeing as I got it on with a close female friend of mine recently.

 

[Lexie]

I can honestly say it's possible. Seeing as I got it on with a close female friend of mine recently.

Are you interested in an LTR with her? Or just "getting it on"? I'd like to hear how this changes your relationship/friendship with her, if it does. Keep us updated!

 

[BlackJackal]

Are you interested in an LTR with her? Or just "getting it on"? I'd like to hear how this changes your relationship/friendship with her, if it does. Keep us updated!

Well like I said before I'm not interested in relationships. I'm more of loner but thats a different story.

But as far as me and her goes, it's a long and complex story. Last time I've seen her was in June. I met her again last December and when ever we had the chance I beast that s***..lol. But I will say considering how close we were/ are, that our friendship evolved ( ie: we got closer, alot closer ). But there are certain serious elements that make it hard to even see each other. Like I said theres more to it.
If you're interested I could pm you the story.

 

[Mental]

I use that line on girls in bars. They jump me on the spot. It's amazing what sweet-talking does to a woman.

"Hey baby, why don't we go back to my place, and you can deliberately misconstrue my words? Why don't you slip into an argument based on subjectively perceiving things and making innaccurate comparisons... I'll let you drive..."

Sesy! I can see this becoming a Flight of the Conchords song.

... I basically joined because I thought that there might be some questions men could only get answers to by asking a woman. As one of the few sane women I know (I know, it sounds like and oxy-moron), I'm open to answering any reasonable questions some of you might have but don't want to ask a female in person.

Ok... a few questions for you ladies.

1) Why are some guys (average looks) considered creepy and weird for a positive talent, when others ("hot guys") are considered more amazing for those same talents?

I know several guys who could take any positive trait they have and a lot of local women would turn him into the worst guy imaginable...

For example, I had mentioned about a year ago to a woman how I was starting out my own career, and that I'm freelance entertainer. months later, after being majorly burned, (and after having a really bad week) this woman tells me that she would never date me because I "jump" from job to job and couldn't support her...

She got out of the words "freelance entertainer" "loser who can't keep a job."

2) Are women already looking that far at the future?! I just wanted to buy her a cookie or get some coffee. It's not a marriage proposal.

3) Why do so many women start avoiding any man that dared to ask them out once like they'll give them the plague?!

I'm a reasonable guy. If it doesn't work after a date, and you act respectful to me, I'd respect the woman's decision. "It was fun while it lasted" kind of thing. No hard feelings, if there's respect and some honesty.

Actually, come to think of it, there's only been a few times where the women haven't been really nasty in how they say no, so it's rare when I can fully respect in every way how the woman handled telling me "no" for a date.

But any woman (even the ones that I respected for showing class in how they aid "no"), that I've asked out has stopped talking to me completely, and I'm suddenly to be ignored. It's like I don't exist. It doesn't matter how much she spends time with me, how much we joke around BEFORE I ask her to coffee... Out comes the "want to join me for some coffee?" Poof! suddenly nonexistant to her. If I say hello passing by her 2 months later (and I've moved on), I can't even get a simple hello back, or even a simple nod.

3A) Why does it have to be that akward all the time? It's understandable if I deserve it (If I said: "Hey, baby, nice tatas! Let's bump uglies!" then ok)... but I could invite a woman to a public event, big party, huge group, (not even officially ask her out yet) and they treat it like a date, and then comes the silent treatment.

3B) What's up with that? Why does it have to be so akward?

 

[iqqi]

Don Wannabe - you are a pvssy-azz bytch n!igga
Sittin behind the screen insulting a woman makes you feel big once in your life, doesnt it. At 36 years old still on sosuave writing insults when a man of your age should have life figured out.
go back to your sand box punk

Uh oh. I learned that you shoudn't call guys on here pvssys. They get mad, and want to fight you! .

 

[aliasguy]

If there's at least one thing that woman really, desperately want Men to knw is that women almost above all else want Honesty.

Problem is, that many males tink they shouldn't be upfornt about it.
So women become distrustful.
Because men are disingenuous.Sometimes.
We aren't always sincere.

It's either cowardice. Or just manipulation.
Healthy women respond well to sincerity. You may not believe it. But a lot of what men know nowadays inside of the communuity is counter intuitive.
That is, against what you believe.Or rather what youve been conditioned to believe.


At some point you will have to state your intentions.
At some point women will wonder whatdo you intend to do with them.

Jst sex?
An LTR?

You'd be surprised how accepting women can be when you state your intentions openly.

"I'm seeing other women. But I really want to see you too."


"I'm not really seeing anyone else. Frankly, no other woman really captivates me like you. I want to see you exclusively."



At some point. Maybe , not at first really. Because in the beginning stages your're in the attraction phase, and then the seduction begins.
After attraction you have to have the comfort and rapprort. Stating you only want sex, as iopposed to implying it may not be the best sell. And definitely statijg you want her as a GF when you just met or early on, is also going to meet resistance and skepticsm.

Stating that you want her as GF in the beginning is a No No.
It breaks the natural flow of seduction. You're denying the woman to be seduced the way she likes, and is naturally wired to expect.

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"Honesty."

Really?

You believe that women want "Honesty"?

No, they don't. They want you to be a confident, sexual MAN. And they want you to make them FEEL. And they want you to dominate them emotionally and sexually.

All this touchy-feely crap is a waste of time.
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[iqqi]

Alright, let me ask you this then: what do you see as dealbreakers, other than pussification (read: indecisiveness, clinginess)? It doesn't have to be one characteristic that's a dealbreaker in and of itself, but that when combined with others would really turn you off.

1. PETTINESS. This is a big one for me now. I can't stand a petty man.

2. Cheap. Huge dealbreaker. Don't know how to tip? That means you are cheap or ignorant, both dealbreakers.

3. Smells bad. I have to agree with lexie on this one, I was JUST thinking about this yesterday! I went out on a date with this guy over the summer, and he smelled not so hot. It was just such a turn off, and on the first date, that I couldn't get reattracted to him after that. Every time I smelled something bad after that in his presense, i thought it was him!

4. Feminine. YUCK! I hate feminine men. Need specifics?

5. Boring. If you just can't make conversation, or think its cool to invite me out, when really you just want me near while you watch the game... not hot. Especially if we don't know each other that well. If you suck at conversation in the beginning, thats cool, just take me to the movies instead! I don't have anything against shy guys.

6. Hunters. I can't stand people who kill animals for sport.

7. Jesus freaks. I usually seal the broken deal when I tell them I'm Satan.


Here is a thread that I posted years ago, when I used to give Reverse Field reports, lol. It goes in depth to another huge dealbreaker, that I think was already mentioned by one of the other ladies.

 

[Social_disturbance]

Ladies, what is your favorite cologne?

 

[iqqi]

Ok... a few questions for you ladies.

1) Why are some guys (average looks) considered creepy and weird for a positive talent, when others ("hot guys") are considered more amazing for those same talents?

For example, I had mentioned about a year ago to a woman how I was starting out my own career, and that I'm freelance entertainer. months later, after being majorly burned, (and after having a really bad week) this woman tells me that she would never date me because I "jump" from job to job and couldn't support her...

She got out of the words "freelance entertainer" "loser who can't keep a job."

I don't know what you mean by this exactly. Are you saying that some chick judged you harshly-er than she would have another guy because you aren't a supermodel?

2) Are women already looking that far at the future?! I just wanted to buy her a cookie or get some coffee. It's not a marriage proposal.

Yes, some women are. Why are you trying to buy her a cookie anyways, don't you know that is AFC!? She won't respect you in the morning! You are going to FAIL her sh!t test!

Just kidding. But yes, it is true that alot of women do like to fantasize about the future, and sometimes you can and will get rejected simply because she can't see that in her far off future. Retarded, I agree.

3) Why do so many women start avoiding any man that dared to ask them out once like they'll give them the plague?!

I'm a reasonable guy. If it doesn't work after a date, and you act respectful to me, I'd respect the woman's decision. "It was fun while it lasted" kind of thing. No hard feelings, if there's respect and some honesty.

...Out comes the "want to join me for some coffee?" Poof! suddenly nonexistant to her. If I say hello passing by her 2 months later (and I've moved on), I can't even get a simple hello back, or even a simple nod.

Lol, I know what you are talking about, I have seen this happen. But before you asked them out, were you even on speaking terms to begin with?

Some women hate to reject, so they will avoid you to spare your feelings, or her own. If that makes sense.

Some guys also don't take no for an answer, and by nodding back, women invite men like that to try again. She just doesn't want you to try again, or misread her "signals."

How many posts on here have you seen like "she smiled at me... does she like me??"

 

[Lexie]

1) Why are some guys (average looks) considered creepy and weird for a positive talent, when others ("hot guys") are considered more amazing for those same talents?

2) Are women already looking that far at the future?! I just wanted to buy her a cookie or get some coffee. It's not a marriage proposal.

3) Why do so many women start avoiding any man that dared to ask them out once like they'll give them the plague?!

I'm a reasonable guy. If it doesn't work after a date, and you act respectful to me, I'd respect the woman's decision. "It was fun while it lasted" kind of thing. No hard feelings, if there's respect and some honesty.

3A) Why does it have to be that akward all the time? It's understandable if I deserve it (If I said: "Hey, baby, nice tatas! Let's bump uglies!" then ok)... but I could invite a woman to a public event, big party, huge group, (not even officially ask her out yet) and they treat it like a date, and then comes the silent treatment.

3B) What's up with that? Why does it have to be so akward?

1) Who knows....it works the same way with girls though.

2) Yes, that's part of what makes them women, they have to be frugal with their eggs! I'm not saying every girl jumps to the white dress fantasy as soon as you sleep together, but the future is always somewhere in the back of our minds...

3) I think you hit the nail on the head with the word "awkward". I'm interested in how old you are now though, because I think this is also part of a maturity issue on the part of the women you're asking out. They should be able to just get over themselves, but some are afraid you're going to ask them out again and they don't want to have to turn you down a second time (vain, I know), and others probably feel like you'll just hate them now.

 

[Lexie]

Ladies, what is your favorite cologne?

mmmm....I actually do really like Axe. Other than that, Creed is nice, Ralph Lauren...ladies at cologne counters are good to ask if you're going shopping!

 

[Social_disturbance]

Allright...Next and most important question. What makes you ladies go "ga ga" and weak in the knees. Specifically what moves - i.e. necking in a certain way or in a certain area, a certain kind of kissing, etc.

 

[DarthJuan]

I feel a disturbance in the force.

Wyldef....