Wife goes to Club/Bar

[drmeathead]

no more josh...period mixed groups or not

she should be on probation for awhile...she needs to take steps to rebuild your shattered trust

this shouldnt ever come up again...she should know the rules from this point out and you are choosing to stay. assume she ****ed and sucked this guy. stay if you want. if you choose to stay hoping she didnt and find out she did it will be terrible for you. assume she did then decide. if you do stay this is a moot point as you shouldnt hold it over her head and her behavior should change

 

[ketostix]

no more josh...period mixed groups or not

she should be on probation for awhile...she needs to take steps to rebuild your shattered trust

Careful someone might misconstrue that and say Josh isn't the issue to you too . I basically agree with the rest of your post. I also agree with Karma that Traveler is not the one who should be supplicating, handing out rewards or handing his balls over in general.

 

[drmeathead]

Careful someone might misconstrue that and say Josh isn't the issue to you too . I basically agree with the rest of your post. I also agree with Karma that Traveler is not the one who should be supplicating, handing out rewards or handing his balls over in general.

i was just saying that there is NO reason to keep in touch with this guy after all the strain it has caused them...unless of course josh's relationship is the primary in this woman's life. maybe i am still jaded after dating a 19 yearold with BPD but i can see this woman pulling

well there were 5 other people there and josh...it wasnt like it was a date and we didnt go "alone" anywhere. whats the big deal

 

[STR8UP]

DJ_Traveler,

Remember that Josh is not half the man you are. Josh is a vampire, a parasite to society, a man that preys on women at a time when they are their most weak.

I have a big issue with this statement.

"Preying one women when they are weak"?

C'mon man...you sound like a chick saying something like that.

You don't know how this went down. The "other guy" is just a GUY It could have been ANY guy. And it's very likely that this started with wifey waving the pu$$y in Josh's face, and if I were Josh I would do the same thing.

 

[CGE333]

It's your choice whether you stay with her or not man. But if (and it's a big if) she has not cheated on you yet, she will. Whenever you say she is depressed= low self esteem= cheating.

What sucks is if you get divorced, "Little Miss Wonder if everyone would be better off if I was dead" will probably get custody of the kid.

I have been in that situation before (with no kid involved) and it was always she went out with the girls or she went out to comfort a girlfriend that was going through a break up, etc.... Lies, they were all lies and she was out there cheating and your women is (or will be soon) doing the same.

I know it aint easy, but that is the truth. You really need to think about the long term here, where do you see yourself in 5-10 years. I think if you look at it realistically, you don't see yourself with her. Good luck, you're going to need it.

 

[Rumpelstiltskin]

Your mind tells you that which your heart cannot bear!

It is better to divorce with one child then to get a divorce with two.

 

[STR8UP]

If you only remember one thing, remember this-

If your woman suddenly breaks her "patterns" and starts doing things that are out of the ordinary, rest assured, she is looking for another source of intimacy.

A man might go through some life changes where he will begin acting different, but it isn't as sure of a sign that he is seeking something outside of the relationship. With women it's almost guaranteed.

The only time a woman will generally "change" herself is when she is shopping for a new man.

You can take that to the BANK.

 

[Rumpelstiltskin]

Of all the empty posts Str8up has inundated this forum with, his responses to this thread vindicates him.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Of all the empty posts Str8up has inundated this forum with, his responses to this thread vindicates him.

Wrong. STR8UP has had more true life experiences with REAL women than 99.999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% of the new douchebags who unindate this forum with thier poop filled diapers full of bogus stories and callous innuendo.

Not that I'm pointing the finger at you . . .

He doesn't need nor does he rely on your fvcked up, misdirected vindication.

 

[STR8UP]

Wrong. STR8UP has had more true life experiences with REAL women than 99.999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% of the new douchebags who unindate this forum with thier poop filled diapers full of bogus stories and callous innuendo.

Not that I'm pointing the finger at you . . .

He doesn't need nor does he rely on your fvcked up, misdirected vindication.

Haha....that's why although I have quite a "fun filled" weekend coming up, most of my fellow Sosuavers will not get the juicy details. I learned that lesson over the past few months....

Bout time for another FL MM SS convention, wouldn't you say brother Karma?

 

[KarmaSutra]

Bout time for another FL MM SS convention, wouldn't you say brother Karma?

I do. I certainly do.

 

[STR8UP]

I do. I certainly do.

Life is getting back on track for me so just let me know when you guys can make it, I'm pretty flexible in the evenings.

 

[ketostix]

Haha....that's why although I have quite a "fun filled" weekend coming up, most of my fellow Sosuavers will not get the juicy details. I learned that lesson over the past few months....

So just because of a few boneheads the innocent ones have to get left out of the juicy details? haha

 

[iqqi]

If you only remember one thing, remember this-

If your woman suddenly breaks her "patterns" and starts doing things that are out of the ordinary, rest assured, she is looking for another source of intimacy.

A man might go through some life changes where he will begin acting different, but it isn't as sure of a sign that he is seeking something outside of the relationship. With women it's almost guaranteed.

The only time a woman will generally "change" herself is when she is shopping for a new man.

You can take that to the BANK.

LOL!!! Sometimes the stuff I read on here is just TOO much to take. OP, and other guys who are like "whoa, really!?"

This is not true.

Plenty of women change their "patterns" and other things, such as hair or wardrobe, as they GROW as individuals, it does not have anything to do with seeking new intimacy.

Man, you can't keep saying that the women YOU have been involved with in your life define all or even most women.

Sorry guys who agreed with STR8UP, but I'm going to have to say this is a big fat FALSE.

I just don't understand how some of you guys get away with such insane generalizations about women.

So are you saying if your girl surprises you by going blonde... or a new ******* technique... she is shopping for a new man?? Heaven forbid she read something in Cosmo, or see something on Oprah, or pass by a salon and see a great new hairstyle, or get sick of her current wardrobe, or decide to join a pilates class.... I mean, what. Does that indicate a huge red flag with you guys?

BTW, Karma and STR8UP, get a room.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Plenty of women change their "patterns" and other things, such as hair or wardrobe, as they GROW as individuals, it does not have anything to do with seeking new intimacy.

The only patterns I've noticed women change on a spur of the moment whim are the curtains in the living room.

I just don't understand how some of you guys get away with such insane generalizations about women.

We're not basing our generalizations on a broad spectrum. They're generalizations based on a broads' actions.

So are you saying if your girl surprises you by going blonde... or a new ******* technique... she is shopping for a new man?? Heaven forbid she read something in Cosmo, or see something on Oprah, or pass by a salon and see a great new hairstyle, or get sick of her current wardrobe, or decide to join a pilates class.... I mean, what. Does that indicate a huge red flag with you guys?

How in the hell can you, even in your most absurd idiocy, correlate a woman suddenly going out with a guy whom she never spoke of to her husband and then subsequently lying to him about it, with a chick reading about U-spot orgasms standing in the check out at a grocery store?

BTW, Karma and STR8UP, get a room.

We soon will. It will be a grand hall where men like us can come together as a Brotherhood. You and your ilk will no longer need to worry about us taking up your precious space at Starbucks.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

You go to starbucks, Karma?? XD

 

[KarmaSutra]

You go to starbucks, Karma?? XD

I used to until I found that I make the absolute best coffee in the world. Here at work and at home. Mrs. K watched Good Eats and picked me up 2 French Press coffee makers.

Let me tell you brother, you'll never step foot in a coffee joint again.

At least not for the coffee.

 

[iqqi]

How in the hell can you, even in your most absurd idiocy, correlate a woman suddenly going out with a guy whom she never spoke of to her husband and then subsequently lying to him about it, with a chick reading about U-spot orgasms standing in the check out at a grocery store?

In my absurd idiocy, I believe I was responding directly to this here:

If you only remember one thing, remember this-

If your woman suddenly breaks her "patterns" and starts doing things that are out of the ordinary, rest assured, she is looking for another source of intimacy.

A man might go through some life changes where he will begin acting different, but it isn't as sure of a sign that he is seeking something outside of the relationship. With women it's almost guaranteed.

The only time a woman will generally "change" herself is when she is shopping for a new man.

You can take that to the BANK.​

Which has nothing to do with specifics (including specifically OP's wife), it is more in general, as in general knowlege about women in general. It is strange that you seemed to (in mid response) fail to grasp that, yet started your response off seemingly like you got it! <SIGH>

The only patterns I've noticed women change on a spur of the moment whim are the curtains in the living room.

We're not basing our generalizations on a broad spectrum. They're generalizations based on a broads' actions.

I've boldened the words that made me think you understood at first that you were responding to something in general.

I've also reddened the words that show that its no wonder you've come to the conclusions you have about women. In general.

I'm not going to argue with your experiences that you've had dealing with broads. The argument itself, including your example of a woman changing the curtains (which I assume you feel is "safe"), is... well to use your wording, absurd, and idiotic.

We soon will. It will be a grand hall where men like us can come together as a Brotherhood. You and your ilk will no longer need to worry about us taking up your precious space at Starbucks.

Sounds gay.

 

[ZenGodMod]

The older we get, the more we seem to behave like high schoolers.

 

[KarmaSutra]

Sounds gay.

How novel. Another broad generalization.