Wife goes to Club/Bar

[Nelford]

Every guy that I’ve ever personally known that regularly got screwed over by women tended to be the type that seemed to deserve it for one reason or many reasons.[/QUOTE]

Come on Hommie, I seen dudes bend over backwards for their women and get cheated on by the dudes who wouldn't do a fraction of what the boyfriend/husband do. Do you think they deserved it. Especially when most dudes are told growing up to be nice to women, be a gentleman, open doors etc.. Then when a guy do all this stuff, they get treated like a door mat.

The dude called her lazy because maybe he is tired of making the d$mn coffee. So if he was in her shoes and he went out and party all night and slept it off at some classmate which is a woman house he would be in the red. No doubt about it he would be accused of cheating. Case closed....

 

[Faded Image]

so what was the end result to this epic saga???

He'd rather be with her than be alone.

 

[The Logical Player]

i remember reading this EPIC lesson of a thread, i want a damn update!!!

 

[jophil28]

This is EXACTLY what my girlfriend said to me when i caught her kissing another guy friend in front of her house late at night, when i came over to surprise her.
.

AA has an established saying that was originally created to describe the mindset of alcoholics, but equally fits most modern western women.." Self will running riot."

 

[sodbuster]

Read Screw the "female dog" sold by palladin press. It is a mens divorce survival guide. Short version-men hang in a marriage too long so she has a chance to "pearl Harbor" them. You come home to locked doors or an empty house. Find your bank accounts empty and credit cards cancelled. She fiels a restraining order so you have 5 minutes with police escort to get the stuff you need to live.

What you need to do is get a credit card she has no knowlege about[so she can't cancell or spend it], start saving cash[where she can't find it][she has all day to search the house,so not there] and move your favorite stuff[hard to replace]out. ETC. There's more,but you'll need to read the book[you may have time the next time she's out]

 

[donif871]

this guy will do nothing..just like lollita_luvvr...same case, same result..some guys just need to learn the hard way.. :trouble:

i wish i know this thread before it happened to me

 

[Nutz]

I'm curious, what exactly happened here? She cheat or what?

 

[Phyzzle]

The OP hasn't logged in since his last post in here, a year ago. So that's that.

I remember this being a thread where STR8UP's cynicism really saw through the situation flawlessly.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1359966&postcount=229

 

[Nutz]

The OP hasn't logged in since his last post in here, a year ago. So that's that.

I remember this being a thread where STR8UP's cynicism really saw through the situation flawlessly.
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showpost.php?p=1359966&postcount=229

LOL, sleeping off the booze for 90 minutes. Uh, huh. Suuuuuure. Poor guy got cheated on in a pretty obvious manner and instead of heeding our advice he probably is a baby daddy to some other dude's spawn by now, if not dumped outright.

 

[Buddha_Mind]

Mind = blown from this thread. Good one.

I don't know how I'd handle such a thing.

If she stays out late and doesn't answer = real real real bad sign, maybe relationship breaker 99% of the time.

A loyal woman doesn't do this -- this is the act of anger -- and immaturity.

 

[Nutz]

This is why I tell women I'm dating I've got a rule: no sleeping over at men's houses if I'm not there. It's not a difficult or overbearing rule to follow. Do that and it's instant dumping, no questions asked.

And I'm a big fan of "trust, but verify", such in the case of going to bars/clubs. I'd make sure either I'm tagging along or I'll have friends show up at the venue they're going to so they can report back. Best solution of course is not to let this kind of scenario happen in the first place. Way too many relationships have been ruined because of a "one thing led to another" kind of situation that need not happen, and probably wouldn't had booze not been involved.

 

[scrouds]

Crazy enough, I never posted in this thread, I remember it from way back.

I will say this one simple thing. There is wisdom in the old society's methods of restraining women.

 

[SharinganUser]

Nutz, WHy did you necro this thread???

 

[backbreaker]

hol.ee.****. wow. i just read this and literally had to go pop a bag of popcorn I BS you not.


for the record, if my wife got drunk and spent the night over a dudes house she would do so with full knowledge that i would be filing for divorce the next day. I don't care how much it cost me, I don't even care if she cheated or not. That's just not behavior that I am going to accept from my wife, and that type of disrespect is the type you can't really recover from. Once that line has been breached and you don't leave, she will become a habitual line stepper lol.

if she is too drunk to drive she better fvcking call and I will come get her. she's actually done that before.

if I got drunk and spent the night over a chicks house that my wife knew liked me she'd be livid and rightfully so. that's disrespectful

 

[backbreaker]

I wonder how star8up is doing.

te people here ran star8up off for the same reason i was ran out of AA.. penis envy. he's successful (though I like to think I am as well) but he's a little bit more show than I am. There is nothing wrong with that, what goes unseen counts for nothing, but the guy knew his **** when it came to the opposite sex.



I remember the day I got jumped and they stole my car. the car had my phone in it. I had told my wife /then fiancee i was going to a jazz club which I do often enough, no big deal but I didn't get home into 2am. I had to catch a cab and when I walked through the door she was sitting on the couch in tears. she knew i had cheated on her. she just knew it. what other excuse could I have for not calling/coming home. i honesty couldn't blame her, that would be my thought process too. obviously it was all cleared up once i walked through the door busted up with no car lol, but it just goes to show how men just let women have the benefit of the benefit of the doubt and women just "know".

lol you spend the night over a chicks house and see how much benefit you get. women aren't dumb.


Also wanted to add, the whole "argument that they got into earlier that shew over blew when he called her lazy (which she was, he wasn't lying), that's drug addict behavior. That's what addicts do when they want to get away to get high. They find something ,antyhing they can use to "get away" and have an excuse to blow you off so that they can go get high. I'm not saying she's getting high, i'm just saying that's a textbook case of someone using something as an excuse to go out and get away.

I cannot believe there were actuaully people on this forum trying to give this tramp the benefit of the doubt. that's what happen when you let women run a male forum i suppose

 

[AAAgent]

i wanted this to turn out into him finding out the truth but in the end it seems that he didn't, feelings really do cloud ones judgement.

I've been involved in a situation where i don't know the truth but till this day i believe one of my ex's lied to me. She will lie to her grave because i didn't have enough evidence to prove the truth.

She told me some guy attempted to rape her but instead forced her to do a sexual act. She also told me she was a virgin but was not super tight (ive been with a virgin before) and my d1ck slipped right in.

Well i wanted to find out who this guy was as she wouldn't tell me and wanted to beat his a$$ and possbily chop off his hand (yes i get really angry). Well i'm really good at finding information and extracting information. My boy told me to keep my cool until i had enough concrete evidence but i have a problem hiding my emotions. Well in a week i was able to find old myspace accounts, xanga's, facebook comments, etc. piece things together and it turned out she gave this guy head back when she was in middle school and he didn't like her back and in order for her to accept it, she played it off like he raped her so she could feel better.

She also told me I was her 3rd boyfriend and i happened to find out atleast 10 others. She also gave another guy head when she was 12 whom she met online playing counter-strike. But of course he doesn't count because she didn't really consider him a boyfriend. An acquaintance of mine also told me one night when we were hanging out that he kissed my girl and i acted cool. When she heard i hung out with him she asked me what he said if he said anything...i said no and acted normal.

She came told me that day that he cornered her and forced her to make-out. i didn't buy it so i was like okay, i'm going to have to talk to him about this...she then started getting really mad and upset that i was forcing the truth out of her. She told me it was not forced but she didn't really like him.

Well i asked her about everything and told her if she had anything to tell me and she said no, then slowly piece by piece i spit out facts and then each time i told her to tell me the truth. B1tch refused to say anything afraid to be caught in a lie. Said "since you know everything and you think i'm so dirty why don't you leave." I lost the battle and spilt all the beans and she confirmed that she did all those things and dated all those guys but wanted to forget them. She never thought i would find out or thought it would matter at this point. It didn't matter but her one lie led to her many lies she told me.

I still don't believe she was a virgin but till this day she will tell me i was her first. All her sorority sisters hate me because of who she's made me out to be. I sometimes doubt she had bpd because i did push this girl to the limits and i try to see this very objectively. I've never been able to trust a female since her...girl's lie and some will lie to the death.

My friends girl did the same thing to him but not as bad as she confessed the entire truth but I will never one tolerate disrespect again from a woman. I've never tolerated it from a man don't see why i should accept it from a woman and I will never fall for tricks like that again. The first time almost destroyed me, there will be no second. If i have to leave everything and be miserable and even break a family apart so be it. Better a broken family than being broken as i wouldn't be able to take care of my family if i was broken.

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@backbreaker

I know exactly what you mean....when i first found out this sh1t i was shocked and felt betrayed and naive. Sure i was tricking girls into doing this sh1t back then but obviously my girl is too good for that.

No girl is too good to suck d1ck or take it in the a$$ and every1 of them has. That being said i don't tolerate lies like this anymore. I've dropped girls for little drama as i see it as avoidance of huge drama that could cause a hindrance in my life if i don't prevent it early on.

That probably wasn't your time or scene. Back then guys used to meet mad girls from counter-strike and at gaming cafe's. Atleast in philly and nyc they did. I used to have girls send me pictures and get their numbers. Doesn't surprise me one bit.

 

[backbreaker]

She also told me I was her 3rd boyfriend and i happened to find out atleast 10 others. She also gave another guy head when she was 12 whom she met online playing counter-strike.

I don't know why but this sentence has me cracking up laughing.

 

[5string]

Still havent read all of this thread but it really hit home when I read AAAgents post about his experiences. His are very similar to mine. I respect AAAgents attitude toward women as a whole. I won't sit here and tell my stories, but certainly understand how very hard it is to trust a woman when one in your past has hurt you so deeply. We all develop defense mechanisms when hurt to make sure it does not happen again, and this certainly applies to women.

 

[backbreaker]

Still havent read all of this thread but it really hit home when I read AAAgents post about his experiences. His are very similar to mine. I respect AAAgents attitude toward women as a whole. I won't sit here and tell my stories, but certainly understand how very hard it is to trust a woman when one in your past has hurt you so deeply. We all develop defense mechanisms when hurt to make sure it does not happen again, and this certainly applies to women.

I just don't understand why guys START OFF trusting women.

that's my big deal at least now. guys going around expecting every woman to have his best intentions in mind with everything they do is just silly and naive.

trust has to be earned. antyhing i hear or think when I first met a chick I believe it 100%, and usually there is always some truth to it. no one just makes up random blow job stories about women lol.

 

[AAAgent]

I just don't understand why guys START OFF trusting women.

that's my big deal at least now. guys going around expecting every woman to have his best intentions in mind with everything they do is just silly and naive.

trust has to be earned. antyhing i hear or think when I first met a chick I believe it 100%, and usually there is always some truth to it. no one just makes up random blow job stories about women lol.

I didn't start off trusting her completely but i did trust her to a certain extent. When there are no problems whatsoever i had no reason to question anything. When the first situation came up i decided to look into it. Not sure how it came up but the guy who supposedly forced her into oral sex came up as a topic and she told me not to go after him. Naturally i look into and find out who he is and find out all the details about her lying. After i found out about 1 lie, i looked and dug deeper to find out more lies, none that really affected me directly but they were all lies.

But when you start telling me stuff like I'm your first real love, 3rd boyfriend, was a virgin before me, etc. stuff that made me feel like i was special (i was naive and believed this part) and then i find out all that sh1t is made up of lies and deceit that sh1t is gonna hurt. This girl learned to lie and manipulate me very well.

I was naive but not stupid. Some cats hear that stuff and still believe in their female. No fvcking way will i believe when a girl kisses a guy that the guy forced it. My friend believe when his ex told him she only laid in this guys bed and didn't do anything. I told him 100 times she fvcked him and he refused to believe and told me to stop saying sh1t like that about his girl. Turned out i was right. that girl fvcked like 10+ random guys in the span of her sophomore year of college.

I started off my first few relationship giving girls the benefit of the doubt and one was a HUGE backfire. I do believe that trust should be earned but now that i've lost my naivety every single girl i've dated has not earned my trust. Sometimes make me wish i was still naive and be stupidly happy.