Serg897
Master Don Juan
I like this post much better than some of the others ones on here, since they are all pessimism and not much practical tips to actually "adapt to game" in this era.Amante Silvestre said:Easy guys. It's not as bad as it's being made out to be here.
First of all, the main reason why there is a big upswing in women not answering their phones (hence "flaking") is because the odds are good that you're number is unfamiliar to them. I don't answer numbers I don't know either. Has nothing to do with my ego being stroked and all of that.
Second, while text and FB compliments are flattering and all, nothing can substitute for hot chemistry and an eye-crossing, back-arching, leg-squeeming orgasm. Trust me. Women aren't sitting back with satisfaction because 40 dudes are stroking her ego from afar with communications technology. In fact, I would go so far as to say that being flooded with texts , emails and FB posts are probibly making women more desperate now than ever before to find a guy in the flesh who gets their juices flowing. This isn't a disaster to game. It's an opportunity.
Third, too many guys are falling back on technology themselves. They prefer pursuing women via text or an email because it either a) makes it easier for a guy to hide his poor convo skills and/or b) helps distance him from the possible (and in many cases, likely) pain of rejection. Technology also makes it so much easier for women to do the rejecting, or even better yet, avoid situations that would require her to reject you to begin with. Despite what most guys like to think, a lot of women hate the chore of hurting a guy's feelings. For them, it's so much easier to not answer the phone at all then to answer and explain why they lost interest or why it's not going to work out.
Finally, getting a woman's number doesn't mean less now that it did before. The problem is how that information is obtained and used, and this is where a lot of guys have to change up thier game. You're never the only guy who has hit up a particular woman for her digits. If she thought you were cute enough to get her number, then the odds are good that there are other guys out there who have passed the same test. If you're not doing anything in your approach that makes you memorable...then yeah, simply getting a number won't lead to much success. You're just going to end up in a sea of unfamiliar numbers popping up on her phone. It's good to get your name and number into her phone and not just her info into yours. You also have to aim for her to immediately recall an attraction and a good experience with you when your name and number comes up on her screen when you're calling.
1-201-555-6969...."who the f*ck is this calling me?"
Amante (201)-555-6969..."Oh! It's the cute, funny guy with the deep sexy voice I met at Studio 1 the other night!"
Huge difference.
Going of on the last thing he said, I've recently been experimenting with sending a follow up text within a few hours of meeting a girl - I've gotten pretty good results every time. Simply something like this:
"Hey, great to run into you tonight - chat soon
-Serg"
This way, they can save your number into their phones and then recognize who it is when you call. They also remember your name making it more likely they will pick up and want to talk to you if they are truly interested.