spinaroonie said:
Can you elaborate on how you get 50% of girls you approach and number-close to meet up with you? Lots of guys here struggle with flakes, so it would be good for the successful guys to share tips.
You say you do college campus day game...
1. How long are your interactions?
2. Do you text or call first? What do you do if you call and she won't pick up?
3. How long do you wait to text / call?
4. How long after the initial interaction do you go for the meetup?
5. How would you rate your looks?
Thanks OC Speedball, I'd really appreciate your feedback.
Sure thing, man. I actually just did a 30 minute campus sarging session with my friend.
First off, I want to preface this by letting you know that I am relatively new to this (about a year). I had hardcore acne and braces until recently, so it really held me back. I am not some pimp- but I
do get at least half the girls to meet up with me.
1) Interactions range from 30 seconds to 10 minutes. The longer I stay in set the more comfort I build with her, which gives her a sense that she has known me longer than she has; which translates to higher interest and less chance of a flake. But at the same time, I also number close girls in a minute or less. I've found that girls can be high interest whether you spend a minute talking to them or half an hour- a lot of it has to do with the initial impression.
In fact, I got a number in a minute today on my sarging session. I ran into a girl from my geography class that is one of the hottest in the class. She sits way on the other side of the room so I've never hit on her (I keep it local while I'm in class) but I've caught her looking at me a few times. I walked up and said, "Hey! You're in my class but there are like 10 people that sit between us so I'm ****blocked." She laughed and pushed me playfully. I teased her a little more and then said, "Ok, we're gonna hang out this summer. Give me your number." She said, "Oh, we are? You seem so sure of yourself. Haha! My number is..." Because this girl is in my class there is already a sense of security established- which is always good because it will reduce the chance of flaking even further.
2 and 3) I always text first because that way they know who it is when I call, thus making her more likely to answer the phone. I feel that when a girl has your number in her phone it makes her feel like she knows you more than she really does- which is vital if you don't want girls to flake on you. Usually I text them a few hours later (typically that night). They respond, and then I send them one or two more funny texts so she falls asleep with me on her mind. If I text them again it will be a couple days later.
I wait three to five days to call. If she doesn't pick up I hang up. They always text or call back. Usually they text back later with something like, "Hey! Sorry I missed your call. What's up?"
4) I go for a meet up maybe four to seven days later. When I first got into this I once had a girl meet up with me two weeks later even though I set the date up like a week ahead. Talk about coming off as desperate, haha. And then a few months ago I had a quick number close with a girl I met at a bookstore. I waited a week to call her but she still met up with me and we made out.
5) I'd rate myself a 7/10. I'm above average, but not super "hot" or anything (although I do have a six pack
). I know 7 is like the go to number when guys rate their looks, but I really am a 7. I judge this based off of two things: 1) The girls that have been attracted to me without me doing anything. I take all of them and try to get an average rating for their looks. In my case, the girls that have been naturally attracted to me were usually 6s, 7s, and 8s. (And of course, you're always going to have the uglier ones be attracted to you as well).
And 2) The amount of compliments I get. I've gotten, "My friend thinks you're hot" a few times, but usually girls will say I'm sexy or cute. Recently, a girl that I knew from my class last year saw me and saw that my acne had gone away. She said, "Oh my gosh, you could totally be a model!" About a month ago I was at the grocery store and a girl in her 30s told me that I looked like Ben Affleck. I do not think I look like Ben Affleck, but the point is, she was complimenting my looks.
Also, girls look at me as I walk by. If I smile at them they'll usually smile back. I didn't notice this until recently- I thought it was normal human behavior for people to look at you and smile politely. But my friend noticed this and pointed it out to me.
So if anyone wants to find out what their rating is look at two things: How hot the girls are that are naturally attracted to you, and how many compliments on your looks girls give you.
And remember, what works for me might not work for everyone. Hope that helped though.
