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This is the problem with these forums in many cases.
1) You're hypocrites. You wouldn't be here were it not for procreation, which most notably occurs under the auspices of a "marriage."
2) Stop using absolutes. They don't apply. Nothing is anything. Kids aren't little ****s and marriages don't suck -- the laws that APPLY to marriage do and possibly the two people ENTERING marriages do, but it's an objective institution that occurs at the Legal, Spiritual, and Religious level.
3) You can espouse facts all you like. Many of you are below 22 (i.e still in College), so at best, you're input into marriage is resigned to "statistics" and a very limited opinion, worth about a grain of salt.
4) Nothing is perfect. At some point, the scales will tip in favor of marriage. For most people, being single through the 20's and 30's is a better choice, but having such a negative view of human interaction severely impacts your own mentality.
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Why you get married...
1. Your religion supports it, so the over-arching "rules" in your household are RELIGIOUS, I.e. woman is subservient to her man and places the value of society SECONDARY. This is a major point for religious types to marry and why the state fears a strong religious base, because religious people don't abide by anything but their own rules. Only by merging religion and state OR dissolving it, can you weaken the power base. But religious people have morals which supercede the system under which they operate.
2. You don't need a TITLE, but want to be with the woman/man you are with forever and see it as some sort of expression or celebration. I don't care if you elope, at least you are making a definite statement to one another.
3. Because you want children. While the laws that our country has to protect children and marriages are quite punitive, they are in place for the protection of the oft-screwed race.
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Many of you are displaying your negativity and ignorance.
Fact: Throughout history women have been 2nd only to slaves in terms of persecution and subjugation (women slaves were the worst, even pre-dating early America circa 1800's).
Fact: Women are EQUALLY screwed, or more so, in divorces. While women CAN earn as much as a man, they probably won't. They don't normally go for the degrees men do, often settling as administrators or teachers.
Men want their cake and to eat it too. I have been here for years and most men are their own worst enemies. They want to spin lots of plates, **** lots of girls (often without protection), and not have any repercussions or social obligations. They don't get women. They chase a women who says one thing and does another, banging their heads against a wall for a woman who doesn't return the affection or attention.
They also get locked into logical absolutes, whereby they try to plan out reality, not realizing they are shapping reality with their perspective and expectations OF reality. You think a bad outcome, you get a bad outcome because your actions are based on a bad outcome, thus, you do all the things necessary to MAKE the outcome bad.
Marry, don't marry. it doesn't matter. I'm not married. I've had many friends marry. I'd rather see MORE constructive talk about how marriage or ltr relationships can be made BETTER, than whining like so many ANTI-marriage websites do. Such people aren't fun to be around because they ***** and complain, rather than do anything. Also, they're the kind of guy who will **** some or many girls and probably NOT pay for the kids he sires.
This is breeding a nation, a world, of irresponsible people who won't care for their ilk, hides behind laws to screw one another, which only doubly screws the kids they had. Even a BAD marriage is likely better than NO marriage or the absence of parents.
Like I said, good or bad, NONE of you would be here without some couple hooking up and hopefully they'd stayed together for YOUR sake. If they didn't, then I'm sorry. I witness first hand how a single mother raises her children vs. a young family. I also see how kids fare without both parents being present consistent.
If you are banging, you better get your headstraight. Nothing is 100% protection and if you have a child as a result, you have a HUGE obligation to that new life to do the best by it. Such threads are hardly constructive to new guys and most of these posts get raving reviews without really any great support.
