Desdinova said:
My usual response for a canceled date is one simple word: "Okay". This throws them for a loop. They don't know if it's an 'fine, you're gone' okay or an 'it's no problem' okay. It gets them thinking about you and causes emotional fluctuation. Giving a woman an answer that could mean multiple things and then leaving the poor bytch with her imagination is the worst thing you can do to her.
this verbatium.
this is what I did with my first real grown up GF, and what I did since then
I first met her, she got out of a relationship very soon before i met her. she happily exchange numbers, we had lunch at her job (the mall), i set up a date, she didn't pick up. I can't remvber if i set up another one and she cancelled or not, but I know she told me she still has feelings for her ex, and blah blah blah, ethis that.
I went to her job about a week later while I was doing some shopping and she was happy to see me. I told her look, i'm going to lay it out there. I think you are verpretty and you seem fun, and I would like to take you out. I ujnderstand you just got out of a relainship, and If you don't want to see me I can live wtih that, I'm a big boy. But I'm going to give you one more chance, I'm going to take you out tomorrow night at 7pm to this play, i'llp ick you up at 6:15pm. If for whatever the reason may b e you don't come, you won't hear from me again. I won't be mad, or angry, but i will move on for good.
she called mme at 5pm and told me she was ready.
I use this since and it works, 7-8 out of 10 times.
why?
becuase it shocks the woman from what I have found. most women, expect you to keep setting up dates after dates and put the ball in their court rather to go out or not. they even come to expect the "no response" no response. but a guy coming to them and saying hey, i like you but if you don't do this the way I am tell.ing you to do it again, I'm out. It reeks of confidence, while at the same time reaffirming you are somehow has better **** to do than to wait around for her but at the same time reaffirming that you wouldn't mind seeing her.
and you know what, i've had some women ju tell me point blank "you seem nice, but i am seeing somoene and i don't think that would be a good idea" or i've had some just flake again. but the vast majority of the time.. i've done that probalby 10-12 times, i can only think of 3 that flaked out after. usually most will show up like a good little girl. if hse doesn't call back, you know without a shadow of a doubt she isn't interested
not only did me and that girl out, we had a freakin blast and ended up in my bed naked that night. she still had feelings for him but she was catching feelings for me too and i eventually dated her. she told me a few dates later if i had not done that she never would have probably went out with me, because she was seriously not over her Ex. It wasn't anything I was doing wrong, she just wasn't over him, and she figured "what the hell I will give him a shot"
I havce learned in my ventures with the opposite sex that women come to expect men to basically be non confrontational and non direct in the fear that they may "lose" the woman. Even "players" do this, by avoiding the fact that they are seeing mutiple women. Even though he is seeing more than one woman, he is still an AFC at heart because he doesn't want to lose any of the women by telling them the truth. By being pleasant but firm with a woman it 1. lets her know exactly what you expect from here so there is no miscommunication, 2. lets you not waste time 3. shows her you aren't like most other guys.
