Serg897
Master Don Juan
^ pure gold.
Greasy Pig said:Chick just cancelled our lunch date 2.5 hours before we were supposed to meet. No apology but said she's gotta get Xmas shopping done.
How do you handle this? With a cool "ok, have a good one?", or do you point out her appalling lack of organisation and let her know you're not happy?
Actually, that works better for me, my schedule today is bit hectic! I will give you a shout later on so we can make other plans
It doesn't rub you guys the wrong way to have a girl bail on you for some innocuous reason like that? She made a commitment and broke it over some bullsh1t reason.Malice said:You should say this:
But what if the only women are passionately interested in me are obese - and the slender ones are the ones that flake out on me?Greasy Pig said:Words to live and love by: "A woman who is passionately interested in me will try to maximise her time with me."
I can't remember who posted that but I read it in these forums and it's damn true.
It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Reminds me of what Jophil did after he was disrespected in a similar fashion for a dinner date.SoSuave666 said:I was dating a woman once and we were set for a dinner date. Literally 20 minutes before we were supposed to meet at the restaurant (I had a rez...shoutout to American Psycho for any movie enthusiasts) she said she was running "way late" and probably couldn't make it but wanted to hang out later. I texted back "K."
I went to the restaurant, it's one of my favorites. I sat down by myself in a nice suit with a newspaper. Halfway thru my meal (about an hour after her original text) I received a text from her saying "I'm so sorry babe. I still want to see you, what are you doing?!" I walked up to the bar located in the front of the restaurant, and picked out the hottest woman. I asked her to smile for the camera, and took her photo...then walked away. I responded back to the flaker with a picture message of the girl and text that read "her, probably."
Fortunately enough for me...and somewhat serendipitously (?) the girl in the photo was single. I went out with her and her friends that night, had literally one of the hottest dance sessions I've ever had, and banged her a couple of dates later. Turn your misery into opportunity. And for heavenssake, do NOT allow a woman to play games with you. You think somehow 20 minutes before the date she suddenly got stuck in traffic or something? No way. She knew she was never going to come. That dumb b!tch lost out on a great night, for what was probably a secks and the city marathon with her girls or something. Doesn't matter if she had a date with Brad Pitt (have fun with that one, Ninja), I was better company. Her loss, and ultimately my win.
You aren't supposed to give a sh!t enough for it to rub you the wrong way.mrRuckus said:It doesn't rub you guys the wrong way to have a girl bail on you for some innocuous reason like that? She made a commitment and broke it over some bullsh1t reason.
I don't know. Maybe you guys are happier than me because you have a lower threshold but that kind of stuff really, really turns me off and I wouldn't want to employ any sort of slick move to game her.
I dumped a girl who spilled red wine on my carpet and didn't tell me about it. I had to find it myself. Every time I tell the story guys all tell me I'm stupid, and the one girl i told said "she was probably embarrassed" as if that's some excuse to destroy my carpet.
I just got flaked on by the girl i've been dating for the last 5 weeks. It's her first time flaking, but i could feel it coming. She stopped initiating contact for over a week. My plan was to just wait until she made contact, but i contacted her on wednesday to set up a date for the weekend. I barely text or chat with her. Mostly all interactions has been face to face (dates, movienights etc). I have no clue why she has lost interest all of a sudden. Very strange. We've banged it out on all dates and there has been a good atmosphere and banter between us. Women sure are fickle.Desdinova said:My usual response for a canceled date is one simple word: "Okay". This throws them for a loop. They don't know if it's an 'fine, you're gone' okay or an 'it's no problem' okay. It gets them thinking about you and causes emotional fluctuation. Giving a woman an answer that could mean multiple things and then leaving the poor bytch with her imagination is the worst thing you can do to her.
Create self-fulfilling prophecies. Always assume the positive. Assume she likes you. Assume she wants to talk to you. Assume she wants to go out with you. When you think positive, positive things happen.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I've got a few thoughts for you troll....thevilittletroll said:calling a girl out on her behavior does nothing.
EXACTLY the same thing happened to me. She was a 6 (the girl who is the subject of this thread actually) and went from extremely horny and interested to completely cold in the space of 24hrs.\O/ said:I'm used to rejections and it's fine when the girl doesn't know me, but i think it's much worse when you've been on 5-6-7 dates and everything is (seemingly) great and then poof, no interest. When you don't know what you did wrong or where or why she lost interest, it's harder to work on that and learn from the experience.
Yeah, its unbelievable when this happens. Just have to remember to be non-reactive, and ultimately she will respect you for it.I have no clue why she has lost interest all of a sudden. Very strange. We've banged it out on all dates and there has been a good atmosphere and banter between us. Women sure are fickle.
Hmm. So you are proposing we "parent" the fvck out of every random chick we encounter until they are back in line?Howiestern said:I've got a few thoughts for you troll....
so when you were a little kid and your parents spanked you when you did something wrong, it did nothing to change your behavior?
Thats the problem with America today, too many people getting away with $hit they shouldn't and nobody taking a stand against it. There's certainly little self-discipline and there's not enough "enforcers" to keep the slackers in line.
If someone keeps disrespecting others and is never notified about their bad behavior where does the incentive come from to change?
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
You should talk to divorced guys sometimes for perspective. Decades with the wife and bam - as if she'd never known him. 5-7 dates are nothing.\O/ said:I'm used to rejections and it's fine when the girl doesn't know me, but i think it's much worse when you've been on 5-6-7 dates and everything is (seemingly) great and then poof, no interest. When you don't know what you did wrong or where or why she lost interest, it's harder to work on that and learn from the experience.
Update: Today this girl contacts me, over three weeks later of NC. Slicksters advice was spot on.Serg897 said:Just had a situation like this, found this thread useful. This girl is a hot little 20 year old and Im trying to get a second date, but I anticipated an almost certain last minute flaking due to her age. Sure enough, its exactly what I got.
Her excuse was that she got her "girlietime" (i.e. period) and wasn't feeling well. Super lame. I responded with the simple "okay" just as this thread suggests.
Within minutes I got a "are you mad at me? Because Im mad this had to happen, I'll make it up to you" text. So I guess I'll simply put her on the backburner for a few weeks then try again. I might even say something to indicate to her that its her final chance.
Desdinova said:My usual response for a canceled date is one simple word: "Okay". This throws them for a loop. They don't know if it's an 'fine, you're gone' okay or an 'it's no problem' okay. It gets them thinking about you and causes emotional fluctuation. Giving a woman an answer that could mean multiple things and then leaving the poor bytch with her imagination is the worst thing you can do to her.
So me and this girl were going to have a first date today. I text her about it, I asked how she was doing, and she replied "Not so well to be honest. My life is a big sh*t hole at the moment. lol I do want to see you. not sure if i can today"Atom Smasher said:Yes, that's good too. I cosign on everything you just said.
My advice is to make sure there is no period on the end.
okay
Is a minimal investment and will seem ethereal to her.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.