What to say when a girl cancels?

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Your time is valuable, so if a chick keeps flaking on you it doesn't matter if she's interested OR if there are actually legit situations going on that's causing it...your time is still valuable.

Me personally, from my experience, just because a chick cancels seeing you doesn't AUTOMATICALLY mean low interest. However, a chick with high interest wants to see you and be around you, as a result, I always use that as a measuring stick with any chick I'm talking to. If the chick doesn't come off as the typical "high interested chick" in tone, her communication levels, her willingness to talk to me and see me.....then EITHER she has low interest or her LIFE is getting in the way, but either way, at least at the time being she's not getting any of my time.
 

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Whenever a woman flakes on you, you have failed.

Calling her out, saying okay, making up fictitious women, ultimatums, and even radio silence will do nothing. Women expect this, and are used to it all. Saying something at best, will get you a "ok, have a nice day"! Silence and ghosting will get you silence and ghosting. At the end of the day, she's not with you.

And as for nexting the girl, she actually nexted you first. Women only get ONE chance with me. Why the f**k should I even entertain a low interest attention wh0re? Or even worse, an all-talk-no-action wh0re?

Guys, if a woman flakes, KICK HER ASS TO THE CURB, DELETE ALL HER INFO, DON'T PURSUE HER. She didn't show up, thus she has low interest.

What we need to do is enforce a ONE STRIKE rule.
 

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Dear GP,
What to say when they Flake?....In a word Next!
 

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Far out this is a nearly three-year-old thread. But fvck it's good to read how supportive the members are here.
As an update, I recently ran into the chick who was the subject of this thread whom I went NC on nearly three years ago.
I played it very cool and spat some crap at her.
Lo and behold but who texts me that night telling me I was looking good? I just wrote back "thanks".
 

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Nismo is right. Until you're truly able to drop a girl at will you'll never reach the beautiful plateau of "I don't give a fück". It really is your simplest, easiest weapon. Logically, why would you give a fück? She sure as hell doesn't. Crack yourself a nice cold beer because you had balls to try, and move the fück on to the next prospect.
 

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always be coo with it. always. otherwise says, " I'm butt hurt".
 

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I just ignore for a while , usually get question marks or something else depending on how pyscho they are . Then I'll respond when I feel like it and say I got busy .depending on the severity of them leaving you high and dry I wouldn't get mad and call them out . That's little boy stuff . I would do that when I was 12 when I didn't get my own way. Plus it's not worth . It can come back at you several ways which kinda vibe you out of the box . To me it's kind of a reaction test , sometimes they are telling the truth and sometimes they are not . They throw out there that they can't do it ect and then there lil plan backfires because they don't no you actaully don't care . Which in term says high value and puts a spin on the emotions . If a girl was so into you and trying to pursue you and then suddenly dropped out without a word and said she was busy later on you would commonly be questioning your own worth . Sure you can go to the next but if u wanna bed her this may be better suited . Plus you can still go to the next and keep soemthing else on the shelf .
 

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i would schedule another meeting (if she wants) somewhere far from her home and not show up. this should teach her
 

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No response is best here because you really don't care.
This

There is no reason to get upset about this guys. Sometimes girls might have an actual reason not to show up, and often we probably miss some covert signal beforehand that she is not that into meeting up.
So when she has to cancel, just don't respond or go the "Okay" route. But don't get angry. She might not be interested, but that is ok. You are not defined by her opinion.

If she keeps leading you on and then cancels -> then you have much better stuff to spend your time on.
 
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i would schedule another meeting (if she wants) somewhere far from her home and not show up. this should teach her
An exclusive party on a rich mansion with some celebrities who are clients of your company should be enough to make sure she dress to impress and shows up
 
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