What Are Some Signs Of A Time Waster

[jamesfromhouston]

I have a "checklist" of questions I ask them that I've developed over the years that I weave into the conversation. Questions I've asked hundreds of times to hundreds of different women. I know the responses that typically result in me getting laid, and I know the responses that typically result in things going nowhere. So I compare each women's "responses" with the history of data I've accumulated over the years.

I do the same thing with the pics I send, using slightly older pics (that are still fairly accurate) and and utilize the response history in the same way.

Asking the same questions (not necessarily verbatim, but the same in spirit) and using the same pics is key.

By "keeping up the pressure" I'm referring to continuing down the checklist until I get a good gist of who I'm dealing with.

Would love to know the questions.

 

[fastlife]

I’ll simplify all this massively: If I’m still having fun and I’m still interested, I keep seeing her/trying to see her. If, at any point it stops being fun or I lose interest, I move on, her loss.

I don’t worry about interest level, whether she initiates, whether I have to double text, triple text, etc. I just focus on creating a life that’s filled with peak experiences—for me and whoever else wants to come along for the ride. My interest level is her responsibility, never vice versa.

I will say tho that the above philosophy does require a high degree of self-honesty as well the ability to generate options. A lot of guys are needy on both ends of the spectrum—needy for validation/sex on one end (which will cause guys to chase time wasters and turn girls who may not have been time wasters into time wasters) or too needy to avoid rejection/have certainty (which will cause guys to not persist with women who are down but just need a little more persistence).

 

[Toddz]

Women that waste your time are easy to spot, as long as your keep your eyes open. Is she easy to get together and make plans with? Or is she constantly busy and making excuses? Is she sexually open to you and have you slept with her within 3-4 dates? Or is she putting up barriers and making you take her on endless dates without escalation? The escalation part is important because your seduction of her will stagnate and burn out leading to your frustration.

If her Interest Level is Low, then it's better to recognize this early on and just move on. If her Interest Level is High, then she will make things easy for you. You just have to be mindfully aware and seduce her.

I just got back into the game after taking some time off. So far dating 5 women. I've slept with 3 of them. The other 2 were low interest, so I simply let them go. Women will waste your time if you let them, they love attention and validation.

 

[bat soup]

Hi bros.

Recently I've been reflecting on this question/challenge I face. I've met many women (online / offline) and often, women will either go out/progress with you or not. (They're either interested or they're not.) But often times, regardless of this, a lot of women enjoy stringing you along to fish for your attention. Basically wasting your time. Sometimes its very easy to spot their attempt & this sort of time waster but a lot of the times, I find it difficult to spot them.

Especially when there are some girls who I've hooked up with, who go into the time wasting mode suddenly (change of IL). Or other more overly sexual/interested girls who seem to want to make things happen.

Fellow bros, from your experience, what are the signs of a girl whose just out to waste time?

Whats your policy on interacting with 'potential' girls before you consider them time wasters?

Timewasters love to chit chat, especially online. Then when you want to actually meet up, they make excuses. Another thing they love to do is avoid actually answering questions so they'll deflect by asking you something or pretending not to understand. They don't want to actually reject you outright because then you'll stop giving them attention.

 

[Robert28]

Women that waste your time are easy to spot, as long as your keep your eyes open. Is she easy to get together and make plans with? Or is she constantly busy and making excuses? Is she sexually open to you and have you slept with her within 3-4 dates? Or is she putting up barriers and making you take her on endless dates without escalation? The escalation part is important because your seduction of her will stagnate and burn out leading to your frustration.

If her Interest Level is Low, then it's better to recognize this early on and just move on. If her Interest Level is High, then she will make things easy for you. You just have to be mindfully aware and seduce her.

I just got back into the game after taking some time off. So far dating 5 women. I've slept with 3 of them. The other 2 were low interest, so I simply let them go. Women will waste your time if you let them, they love attention and validation.

I guess I just have a hard time wrapping my head around the fact that a low interest woman will actually go on dates with me. But I’ve had it happen. To me low interest means she won’t go on a date at all and either rejects or gives you the run around, that’s easy to spot. The problem I’ve run into is they’ll agree to a date and waste your time knowing it’s going nowhere.

 

[eli77]

Does it return your calls or text within 48 hours

 

[mrgoodstuff]

In reality ALL women have ONE man they place on a pedastal, and usually a couple more. If your less than that, then your kissing her ass.

In the Will and Jada situation, August Alsina was on the pedastal, Will is kept around as an azz kisser. Who knows how many other visitors to that situation get to be on Jada pedastal....

 

[Redwolf]

The bottom line is they will make the escalation process difficult. You won't be able to ger her out alone or if she agrees initially she will flake with all kinds of excuses. At the same time she will be in your inbox stringing you along wanting your attention.

The validation for her is having your attention and you showing her interest.

 

[Jake_Gyllenhaal69]

The bottom line is they will make the escalation process difficult. You won't be able to ger her out alone or if she agrees initially she will flake with all kinds of excuses. At the same time she will be in your inbox stringing you along wanting your attention.

The validation for her is having your attention and you showing her interest.

I don’t consider this a time waster. TBH, your wife or partner are going to be the worst time wasters in your life.

 

[Mike32ct]

She stays over your house a dozen times and nothing happens. She invites you out for dinner and dancing on your birthday. During the “date,” she tells you about her new boyfriend that has nine kids.

Time waster? Potentially lol.

 

[Chuck Taylor]

During the “date,” she tells you about her new boyfriend that has nine kids.

Tell me about it. Eight kids is okay, but nine....?

 

[spred]

She stays over your house a dozen times and nothing happens. She invites you out for dinner and dancing on your birthday. During the “date,” she tells you about her new boyfriend that has nine kids.

Time waster? Potentially lol.

During my last date with my time waster, she was buying heart necklaces for her and future boyfriend (my replacement).

 

[Mike32ct]

Tell me about it. Eight kids is okay, but nine....?

Exactly. You can’t make this stuff up.

 

[Redwolf]

I don’t consider this a time waster. TBH, your wife or partner are going to be the worst time wasters in your life.

That doesn't even make sense. If a woman is in a actual relationship with you and submitting to you, she's not wasting your time.