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I thought I read in one of your posts that you were a Christian. How do reconcile going to buffets with your faith? In Christianity, gluttony is recognized as one of the seven deadly sins.

"Be not among winebibbers; among riotous eaters of flesh: For the drunkard and the glutton shall come to poverty: and drowsiness shall clothe a man with rags." Proverbs 23:20
I didn't say that I go to buffets all the time. In fact, I have not visited a buffet since before the Pandemic. Therefore, I can't really start defending something that I'm not doing or have not done. In terms of whether I will contemplating visiting a buffet this particular year in February, around Valentine's day, then perhaps I might plan to do this.

I don't think one or a few buffet visit (assuming I'm comfortable enough to eat in a congregate setting with strangers or am able to fish out a time when there just might be one or two isolated people there, which in all accounts might be unlikely), is that that reference is talking about.

If you are controlled by food, and just living to eat, then you will not only just come to poverty (ie spending money on these things?), but you put yourself up to a whole risk of potential health outcomes. Everything is all about context. You can't take something that is done as an "anti-Valentine's day solo celebration", and say this is a pattern of behaviour all the time.

With a great 15 lbs loss of weight since a diet started in August, I doubt overeating is any issue here.
 

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Bumping this thread because I just heard about a V-Day event in my area that I wanted to ask about here.

So a radio station in my area is hosting a singles mixer event on V-Day night, its about 2 hours long and I’m pretty sure there’s no admission fee but I could be wrong about that. I have no idea what the targeted age range is for this singles mixer, but it is being organized by the hosts of the morning talk show of what is a music station for the rest of the day. I looked up the hosts of this show and they all look to be in their 40’s so maybe that’s the age range?

As I said previously, I’ve been planning on spending that day at the casino playing slots while drinking beers and vaping THC oil because it lessens the blow of the fact that I’ve been alone my whole life. But now I feel that I’m just pushing myself into a self fulfilling prophecy if I don’t go to this singles mixer and stick with my original plan instead.

What do you guys think, should I give this singles mixer a try? I’m kind of skeptical about going since I would have to go alone to it, and I’m not sure if that would look weird or not seeing as it is a singles mixer after all.
 

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Bumping this thread because I just heard about a V-Day event in my area that I wanted to ask about here.

So a radio station in my area is hosting a singles mixer event on V-Day night, its about 2 hours long and I’m pretty sure there’s no admission fee but I could be wrong about that.
Find out if there is an admission fee and how much it is.
 

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Find out if there is an admission fee and how much it is.
I looked into it a little more, what I found says that its open to everyone 21+ and there’s no mention of an admission fee, so you’d think it’s probably free since that would be bad to not tell people upfront that you have to pay an admission fee and then just charge them once they get there. I do wonder if it would be twice as many men than women there, I could definitely see that happening especially if there’s no admission fee.
 

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I looked into it a little more, what I found says that its open to everyone 21+ and there’s no mention of an admission fee, so you’d think it’s probably free since that would be bad to not tell people upfront that you have to pay an admission fee and then just charge them once they get there. I do wonder if it would be twice as many men than women there, I could definitely see that happening especially if there’s no admission fee.
just go lol
 

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There's no real net loss in you going. Worst case scenario, it is lame and the liqour store is open lol.
This is true and I could always go back to my original plan of drunken gambling if it is lame lol. I also had reservations about going because I’ve felt that I would even fail the common icebreaker question of what you do for work. Right now, I deliver for DoorDash and that’s it. I’m sure that would be fine if I was still in my early 20’s, but I’m 30 and I feel like I’m gonna be looked down on for that at my age, but maybe there’s a way to put a positive spin on it.
 

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Actually once I wasn’t a girl any more I came to understand Valentines Day (while the origin is chivalrous etc.) has become bastardized to such a degree as to be too expensive (why pay 2-4x on Valentines for the same dinner etc.) that’s normal price any other day. Ditto flowers etc.

I think spontaneous gestures are more meaningful and my anniversary is important (of the date we met & of our wedding day.). Those are more meaningful to me.

I find NYE and V days to be the two days that are total amateur nights for people who don’t normally go out, everything is overpriced and crowded. It’s insane to me.

He’s got a work trip that whole week, funny enough, but I might fly out & join him a couple nights (and we will stay in on Valentines Day itself…)

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Today is February 3rd. When contrasted another reference date, Oct 25, the previous year, there is not much difference in a year to year basis. Except for one year in 2013. I was in a relationship with someone leading to marriage on October 25, 2012, and on February 3rd, 2013 she was completely gone and I was single again (ie we broke up in November 16, 2012, but again it's about contrast of specific reference point dates...the reality in Oct 25, 2012 vs the reality in Feb 3, 2013). The Valentine's Day/month really stung badly in 2013. There was never a year that I felt worst that that time. Having years where the previous year is not dramatically different to the current year, is rather peaceful in its own way (ie my reality in Oct 25, 2023 vs today is about the same today). Felt like a hole in my belly in 2013 during this month.
 

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Today is February 3rd. When contrasted another reference date, Oct 25, the previous year, there is not much difference in a year to year basis. Except for one year in 2013. I was in a relationship with someone leading to marriage on October 25, 2012, and on February 3rd, 2013 she was completely gone and I was single again (ie we broke up in November 16, 2012, but again it's about contrast of specific reference point dates...the reality in Oct 25, 2012 vs the reality in Feb 3, 2013). The Valentine's Day/month really stung badly in 2013. There was never a year that I felt worst that that time. Having years where the previous year is not dramatically different to the current year, is rather peaceful in its own way (ie my reality in Oct 25, 2023 vs today is about the same today). Felt like a hole in my belly in 2013 during this month.
Virtual pat on the back to you.
To some degree, we all go through some stuff that's not easy to forget I've been there and am sure other forum members have too.
 

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So a radio station in my area is hosting a singles mixer event on V-Day night, its about 2 hours long and I’m pretty sure there’s no admission fee but I could be wrong about that.
Likely an event that will be complete shiit. We have a thread about singles events in general below.


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What is a PIED?
Porn induced erectile dysfunction. Someone with porn induced erectile dysfunction is able to get erections while watching porn but is unable to get erections in real life sexual situations.

I find NYE and V days to be the two days that are total amateur nights for people who don’t normally go out, everything is overpriced and crowded. It’s insane to me.
New Years Eve and Valentine's Day are litmus tests of one's relationship status.

Those days are designed more for couples than unattached people. On New Years Eve, it can be a very low feeling to not have someone to kiss at midnight when all the established couples are kissing each other. It can be very difficult to find that midnight kiss randomly at the bar the night of NYE.

As for Valentine's Day, it's an easier holiday within an established relationship as compared to unattached or just barely starting (1-3 dates in).

I agree with the assessment that they are overpriced and often amateur nights.

Super Bowl Sunday (which now is set to either coincide) with the weekend before Valentine's Day or Valentine's Day itself is another relationship litmus test. A lot of Super Bowl Sunday gatherings are very couples heavy at private residence parties. Most men will now bring their girlfriends or wives to Super Bowl parties at a private residence. An unattached man can feel quite alone and out of place at a Super Bowl party that is almost all couples.
 

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Likely an event that will be complete shiit. We have a thread about singles events in general below.
Who knows, it could be. Like I said when I first mentioned it on this thread, I looked up the hosts of this morning talk show that are putting on this event and they’re all older than my age group. So there’s a good chance I don’t line up with the age demographic that will be there. Because even though it says open to all ages 21+, most millennials and gen z don’t even listen to the radio and wouldn’t even know about this event anyway. And like I also already mentioned, I feel like I would fail the most common icebreaker first question of what you do for work. All I’m doing right now is delivering for DoorDash and that’s it, that might’ve been ok in my early 20’s but I’m 30 and I bet most or all of the women there would look down on me and immediately write me off from that, which would make me feel even worse.

Have you even fixed your PIED problem? If you haven't fixed your PIED problem, there's no point in doing anything. You need a structured rehab program for your PIED.
No I’m working on recovering from it still, but only started at the beginning of the new year so that’s not enough time I’m sure. That did cross my mind though that in the unlikely scenario where I did meet a woman at this event and she wanted to have a ONS, my PIED would just ruin that.
 

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And like I also already mentioned, I feel like I would fail the most common icebreaker first question of what you do for work. All I’m doing right now is delivering for DoorDash and that’s it, that might’ve been ok in my early 20’s but I’m 30 and I bet most or all of the women there would look down on me and immediately write me off from that, which would make me feel even worse.
We all seem to hit all of the anti-seduction checkmarks.

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No I’m working on recovering from it still, but only started at the beginning of the new year so that’s not enough time I’m sure. That did cross my mind though that in the unlikely scenario where I did meet a woman at this event and she wanted to have a ONS, my PIED would just ruin that.
I put some bold highlights in your post to illustrate what you are saying, and if it makes sense to even go to this event. Why worry about a stage that in all likihood would never happen since you may get nexted on the icebreaker question anyway? If you feel you hit most or all of the anti-seduction checkmarks to the point you are just shooting yourself in the foot as soon as you open your mouth, then why worry about a scenario that might never happen?
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

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