Update again on Train Girl Part 1
So...After starting to see other woman and sort of landing on one in particular...I decided to reach out to TG.
I broke a lot of rules actually. Yet, rules are meant to be broken sometimes. You learn why rules are in place the best sometimes when you break the mould of them.
I sent a weak beacon text. Which I always advise against. But, with having a budding relationship with another girl that was a strong prospect gave me extra confidence of indifference.
Here is how it went down.
4-7-15 I wished her well for her travel.
She texted me back immediately. Thanked me.
4 hrs later she texted again that I have always had impeccable timing of texting her at the perfect times(thinking about me). Sort of flirty. So I took a shot.
I told her if she was ever board on a train and needed some reading material I would send her the love letter I wrote her. Then nothing.
3 Days later. She texted me. "Hey "yardstick" ( a term of endearment we referred to me as) I am flying to San Fran today and could use a little reading material."
I send her the letter right away. She disappears again.
May 2nd she flys back home from Cali and texts me when she lands.
"I thought about you alot on my trip and this whole flight home.(letter to you to follow) Can we just get together already jeesh."
I wait a full day and a half...just like she did once... and text her the same thing she did the last time after we saw each other.
"Im thinking about it"
The last time if you remember was after she was at my house and I sex choked. She asked me out again. I responded. She says back the next day " I was thinking about it" And thats when I dropped her cold.
So, now, to my "Im thinking about it" text she responds in 20 min. "So what are your pros and cons?"
I torture her a little bit and she kinda begs. Frame changer. Then I disappear.
About ten days later. My current girlfriend (of about 2 months now) goes to Mexico with 2 other girls.
So I text TG. A demand to see her.
And here we go again. Books, flakes, books again, flakes again. Both times she reschedules.
Finally, she shows. Like we never missed a beat for 3 months she hops in the car and without any nervousness we get along great. Within 20 mins. She brings up the letter and wants to clear the air.
NEVER saw this coming....
She starts to get choked up. Says its the most amazing thing she has ever received. Says she read it to all her important people in her life. Says she reread it over and over. Says she never stopped thinking of me. She cries a bit twice.
She says she was so mad at me until she got the letter because she thinks I just dropped her. She says one reason she thought it was because we didnt sleep together. Says she couldn't really figure it all though but she wanted to try with me. Asked me why I never responded to het texts after the "im thinking about it" text she sent me. Says she was trying to let me know she was thinking about me and wanted to keep seeing me. Try. Develop. Says she thought about all the things she wanted to do with me and was pissed she couldn't.Wanted to hang with me over other people for things because I "get her" and am more fun then her friends and others.
So I told her. I was done playing games with her. I made it abundantly clear (too much) what I wanted with her and after her flaking and texts I was done. Thats it. Just done.
She freaks out. I never flaked on you!! I was just managing my life and pulled in a million different directions but I wanted to see you!! She says the text was meant to be flirty. She regrets it though. She says I should have just called you. She says she has this problem with a lot of people in her life but everybody wants to text and FB message and she hates it.
She says thats one of the reasons she loved the letter so much. And, me so much. Because I never texted with her to much. I always left her alone and it made her want time with me. I never tried to label us and she appreciated that because she was always struggling in her own mind what we were and what to do.
Anyway, I wont go through the whole back and forth but I ll tell you this. I challnged her every step of the way. I didnt let her get away with sh!t and she backed off on some of her BS excuses. Most where actually heartfelt and legitimate. Still though... They are excuses. The phone didnt ring. The letter never came. (She says she wrote it and when she copied and pasted it to email she lost it.) I believe her because of the details she stated about it. But... yet again. It never came. And for the sake of man humor. Niether did I. Neither did she for that matter. She actually did hint at one point when we where talking about why we didnt have sex that she rubbed a few out to me. Whatever. Words.
We had an amazing day and night together. Hooked up just a little bit. I had to cut it short though because I had to pick up the GF from the airport in an hour. Ill be straight with you dudes. I wouldnt have slept with her anyway. I like my girlfriend. My girlfriend actually does what she says she is going to do. The best a woman can anyway.
So. Me and TG definitely cleared the air. By her claim she was absolutely falling in love with me. There was no other guy or guys at all. She thought I dropped her and not the other way around. She still wants to spend time with me. She said the whole summer she is home gives us 4 months to figure this out. She also invited me to another VIP festival. Says she didnt want to go with anyone else and was waiting to see me to ask. I declined. I actually told her out loud. "Im sorry Ill be strapped to a chair naked and being struck with various objects" She thought I was joking. So she asked again. I repeated. She said ok then. "wild". And just left it at that. That was my hint to her( that she really didnt need becasue she knows still i am a "player") that I was seeing other people. One thing about TG is she never cared about other women.
Conclusion-
This girl is not a gamer. Was not seeing anyone else this whole time. Has a lot of heart for me and definitely "wants" me in various ways. Remember, how I once thought her friends were giving her advice on how to game me...Well she reveled to me that her friends would see me at the gym and take pictures of me and send them to her! They all want us to be together. She does too but she is pissed at me still. HA! Women! Nuts!
She is a gigantic flake. Not the gaming kind of flake though. Not one that pursues options flake. Just a general ditsy doesnt know what she wants or how to manage what she does flake. Its a personality thing and a pot smoking thing. She actually pretty immature.
What am I going to do? Nothing.
I have a girlfriend. I am not a two timer. I wouldn't do that to either girl.
However. I will once in a while give this plate a spin. Its a real long play. I am certainly not going to pursue and she knows that. Its up to her to act on what she says. I made that very clear. I dont think she will. I dont think she has the guts. And...she is moving in September. I am indifferent really but it is fun to think about. If my current GF blows up... I can always reach out. Its kinda exactly were I would have wanted this.
