Happy Birthday Brother! Well done.drake33 said:
bobafatt said:
I'll bet that you're going to look back and see this as possibly (one of) the greatest decision(s) of your life. You already are going into it with a great attitude - literally, moving on, in every sense. Good for you man. Best of luck to you. Cheers.bobafatt said:
Hey there - My turn to reply on one of your posts? I know what youre talking about re the BPD NC thing. The BEST sex ever with these girls right? Well the FB is a great idea, but as we know so difficult to not get sucked back into the void. The post you replied to me on - the female Im talking about in that - highly suspected BPD. I didnt add that to my post as I cant confirm it. So my 3 year NC/No FB was actually, I thought, not too bad. Keep going, youll make the right call. Cheers.Infern0 said:
I'm at the stage where I know the theory, and could probably apply it to good effect, however it's as you say not catching feelings which is the problem.HeadLightsOn said:
A simple "thanks" or "thank you" is enough for both of them.drake33 said:
Silence...I shouldnt have said anything back. I did what you said. "Please tell our daughter thanks for the birthday card" and her grandma was very chatty, but the ex..yeah...have a feeling this was a breadcrumb tactic.Between_The_Lines said:
What went wrong? You could have gone the silence route, yes, but a simple "thanks" followed by you immediately being on your way shouldn't throw you off that bad, unless you replied expecting something (more) in return?drake33 said:
Stop looking at this as some game you have to "win" and view it as a simple gesture of courtesy from your end. That's it, nothing more to it than that.drake33 said:
A friend of mine is a psych nurse. I asked him of ALL the mentally ill/diagnosed people he nurses, who are the hardest. He looked at me and said 'Do you know what BPD is?' I said I did. He said 'theyre the worst, the most manipulative and cant be treated with drugs.' He also said he has to almost detox himself to make sure they dont get into his head at work. Pretty scary stuff.Infern0 said:
Always have another woman with her to keep her sane. If you care about her, you can lay pipe in her while maintaining a stable image and lead by example for her life. You know you can't tell them anything...HeadLightsOn said:
I know, youre right. We really start to over think these things, but at the same time, it makes me wonder. I am simply giving her what she wanted. I havent bothered her, I've only communicated to confirm plans with our daughter. I wonder...I posted pics of me and the other lady on FB, who is friends with friends of hers...they're from the same tiny town...were talking 500 people. Maybe she's jealous? I dont know, but she sent the card, I simply said thanks. But lets be real...our daughter is a smart cookie...but she cant pull that off on her own...in the past, she would let our daughter scribble on it...she didnt...it was ALL the ex's writing. Im moving on...I have allowed her to do the same, she asked for this...so she needs to leave me alone. Using our daughter is not fair. This weekend is mothers day...Im not doing anything special for her...**** that! Why would I? I am allowing her to have our daughter a little earlier than usual because its my weekend, but other than that....Im not purchasing cards or anything...Plans are set for the week through Sunday, so I have absolutely no reason to contact her or speak to her.Between_The_Lines said:
