The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[Lozboss]

Got the happy birthday text haha! Bright and early. Laughed, deleted, and moving forward.

Happy Birthday Brother! Well done.

Go enjoy your weekend- hope it's awesome. Remember to open your heart to this new woman and let her in. You will have to build the level of attraction you had to your ex but that will come with spending time together. Give her a chance!

 

[bobafatt]

I completed the challenge by I don't know how many days - she has tried to get back in contact with me on three separate occasions but I have ignored everything...apart from yesterday.

I moved to another city yesterday and sent her a text before I left just saying all differences aside, I wish you all the best with everything.

She did try and open up a conversation but I ignored, even though I shouldn't of even bothered texting her, I did because I felt like I owed it to myself and I'm a friendly person like that.

I'm really looking forward to exploring my new city, meeting new friends and starting a new job. It's been a massive reality check but now that's it's all done its like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

This challenge is perfect for any person who wants to do it for themselves, do not use this as a weapon as I can see it really backfiring!

No matter how much off an beta I was in the relationship, I can confidently say that by using the NC challenge and following it that I have come away the bigger and better person who won't put up with any more ****.

Remember guys if she is still hurting your feelings, she is still in your life. Get rid and move on.

Peace

 

[Between_The_Lines]

I moved to another city yesterday

I'm really looking forward to exploring my new city, meeting new friends and starting a new job. It's been a massive reality check but now that's it's all done its like a massive weight has been lifted off my shoulders.

I'll bet that you're going to look back and see this as possibly (one of) the greatest decision(s) of your life. You already are going into it with a great attitude - literally, moving on, in every sense. Good for you man. Best of luck to you. Cheers.

 

[zoom5]

Im loosing grip lol.

 

[Twist of Cain]

a month tuesday.. fuking unreal.

 

[zoom5]

She added me on facebook.
Why the **** did I accept that...

 

[Twist of Cain]

had our first weekend off.. jus got back from a country bar. went with a few buddies on course..

ill be honest - more guys than girl hitted on me due to my physique. made me shudder just now.

girls night out rattles me to no end. i could only pull one out of the flock, and im good looking, but 5'8"... went home, back @ base. buzzed off burban. fapped, typed this, its been a month, not sure if ill hit s 9.5 again.. clubs are false these days. too many hungry dikks and girls night out.. i bounced for 4 years so i could sense it.

depressed.

night.

 

[Infern0]

Day 27 bpd ex.

Had a good day today, tomorrow is the big one month which is pretty awesome.

Not much to report, she has text me a few times, trying to work out if I can handle her as a FB for the great sex but if I'm honest with myself I'm not there yet.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

Day 27 bpd ex.

Had a good day today, tomorrow is the big one month which is pretty awesome.

Not much to report, she has text me a few times, trying to work out if I can handle her as a FB for the great sex but if I'm honest with myself I'm not there yet.

Hey there - My turn to reply on one of your posts? I know what youre talking about re the BPD NC thing. The BEST sex ever with these girls right? Well the FB is a great idea, but as we know so difficult to not get sucked back into the void. The post you replied to me on - the female Im talking about in that - highly suspected BPD. I didnt add that to my post as I cant confirm it. So my 3 year NC/No FB was actually, I thought, not too bad. Keep going, youll make the right call. Cheers.

 

[Infern0]

Hey there - My turn to reply on one of your posts? I know what youre talking about re the BPD NC thing. The BEST sex ever with these girls right? Well the FB is a great idea, but as we know so difficult to not get sucked back into the void. The post you replied to me on - the female Im talking about in that - highly suspected BPD. I didnt add that to my post as I cant confirm it. So my 3 year NC/No FB was actually, I thought, not too bad. Keep going, youll make the right call. Cheers.

I'm at the stage where I know the theory, and could probably apply it to good effect, however it's as you say not catching feelings which is the problem.

the sex is like being on coke or some ****, honestly you can't explain it to someone who hasn't been with a BPD, the feeling they generate due to the massive amounts of oxytocin they pump out is literally intoxicating, you can't replicate it with a non.

I kind of look at BPD'S as the ultimate test of "alpha" skills, if you apply seamless game to them you can keep them around for great sex but literally one wrong move and they start the devaluation. It's especially hard because after an orgasm she starts crying and looking into my eyes and begging me to love her, but if you say you do she's gone girl on your ass!

I think I'm going to take a bit more time away from this one as recovering from a run in with her takes at least a few weeks, thankfully the recovery time is getting shorter each time. She's pretty predictable, like a robot.

 

[drake33]

Okay, so I get home from my awesome weekend(seriously f'n amazing) and I have two happy birthday cards....one "from" my daughter, which obviously her mom did...and then one from the exs grandmother....saying she wishes me a happy birthday and hopes things change....not sure how to approach this...help me here brahs!

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Okay, so I get home from my awesome weekend(seriously f'n amazing) and I have two happy birthday cards....one "from" my daughter, which obviously her mom did...and then one from the exs grandmother....saying she wishes me a happy birthday and hopes things change....not sure how to approach this...help me here brahs!

A simple "thanks" or "thank you" is enough for both of them.

Keep it simple.

Moving on? Good.

Overthinking? Strategizing? Bad.

 

[drake33]

A simple "thanks" or "thank you" is enough for both of them.

Keep it simple.

Moving on? Good.

Overthinking? Strategizing? Bad.

Silence...I shouldnt have said anything back. I did what you said. "Please tell our daughter thanks for the birthday card" and her grandma was very chatty, but the ex..yeah...have a feeling this was a breadcrumb tactic.

 

[Between_The_Lines]

Silence...I shouldnt have said anything back. I did what you said. "Please tell our daughter thanks for the birthday card" and her grandma was very chatty, but the ex..yeah...have a feeling this was a breadcrumb tactic.

What went wrong? You could have gone the silence route, yes, but a simple "thanks" followed by you immediately being on your way shouldn't throw you off that bad, unless you replied expecting something (more) in return?

 

[drake33]

What went wrong? You could have gone the silence route, yes, but a simple "thanks" followed by you immediately being on your way shouldn't throw you off that bad, unless you replied expecting something (more) in return?

No, just expected a simple...I will...Im back to silence though...beginning to feel like SHE is trying to NC me?

 

[Between_The_Lines]

No, just expected a simple...I will...Im back to silence though...beginning to feel like SHE is trying to NC me?

Stop looking at this as some game you have to "win" and view it as a simple gesture of courtesy from your end. That's it, nothing more to it than that.

Her lack of a response? Her doing NC on you? Look at it as a reaction to you doing NC on her - meaning, it probably got under skin. Maintain no contact from here on out. It's not a big deal at all. These sorts of tense situations make us split hairs and blow things out of proportion. You're fine and you did just fine.

 

[HeadLightsOn]

I'm at the stage where I know the theory, and could probably apply it to good effect, however it's as you say not catching feelings which is the problem.

the sex is like being on coke or some ****, honestly you can't explain it to someone who hasn't been with a BPD, the feeling they generate due to the massive amounts of oxytocin they pump out is literally intoxicating, you can't replicate it with a non.

I kind of look at BPD'S as the ultimate test of "alpha" skills, if you apply seamless game to them you can keep them around for great sex but literally one wrong move and they start the devaluation. It's especially hard because after an orgasm she starts crying and looking into my eyes and begging me to love her, but if you say you do she's gone girl on your ass!

I think I'm going to take a bit more time away from this one as recovering from a run in with her takes at least a few weeks, thankfully the recovery time is getting shorter each time. She's pretty predictable, like a robot.

A friend of mine is a psych nurse. I asked him of ALL the mentally ill/diagnosed people he nurses, who are the hardest. He looked at me and said 'Do you know what BPD is?' I said I did. He said 'theyre the worst, the most manipulative and cant be treated with drugs.' He also said he has to almost detox himself to make sure they dont get into his head at work. Pretty scary stuff.
My suspected BPD is on her next merry go round of NC as Ive mentioned. She always falls off the band wagon. But Ive moved on for the most part. Its simply too hard to run as a FB. I need my mind intact more than my libido to be serviced...

 

[DaddyLongShanks]

A friend of mine is a psych nurse. I asked him of ALL the mentally ill/diagnosed people he nurses, who are the hardest. He looked at me and said 'Do you know what BPD is?' I said I did. He said 'theyre the worst, the most manipulative and cant be treated with drugs.' He also said he has to almost detox himself to make sure they dont get into his head at work. Pretty scary stuff.
My suspected BPD is on her next merry go round of NC as Ive mentioned. She always falls off the band wagon. But Ive moved on for the most part. Its simply too hard to run as a FB. I need my mind intact more than my libido to be serviced...

Always have another woman with her to keep her sane. If you care about her, you can lay pipe in her while maintaining a stable image and lead by example for her life. You know you can't tell them anything...

 

[drake33]

Stop looking at this as some game you have to "win" and view it as a simple gesture of courtesy from your end. That's it, nothing more to it than that.

Her lack of a response? Her doing NC on you? Look at it as a reaction to you doing NC on her - meaning, it probably got under skin. Maintain no contact from here on out. It's not a big deal at all. These sorts of tense situations make us split hairs and blow things out of proportion. You're fine and you did just fine.

I know, youre right. We really start to over think these things, but at the same time, it makes me wonder. I am simply giving her what she wanted. I havent bothered her, I've only communicated to confirm plans with our daughter. I wonder...I posted pics of me and the other lady on FB, who is friends with friends of hers...they're from the same tiny town...were talking 500 people. Maybe she's jealous? I dont know, but she sent the card, I simply said thanks. But lets be real...our daughter is a smart cookie...but she cant pull that off on her own...in the past, she would let our daughter scribble on it...she didnt...it was ALL the ex's writing. Im moving on...I have allowed her to do the same, she asked for this...so she needs to leave me alone. Using our daughter is not fair. This weekend is mothers day...Im not doing anything special for her...**** that! Why would I? I am allowing her to have our daughter a little earlier than usual because its my weekend, but other than that....Im not purchasing cards or anything...Plans are set for the week through Sunday, so I have absolutely no reason to contact her or speak to her.

 

[drake33]

No woman is worth losing your sanity for. And if you stay with one, in any way shape or form, you will.

Truth! Mauser, do you have any experience with the ex sending things from the kiddos? Any advice on that?