Hello, guys!
Here's the story.
I was in a relationship for two years, living with the girl, talking about marriage and so on. But i was feeling somewhat unhappy. Thinking about a breakup...
THen this new coworker appeared. Damn, a great chick. Everyone was crazy about her. But i was in love.
We started going out. Had a great time. I told her about my relationship, and soon i dumped my girl.
So we started dating the coworker. Amazing!!! She as well had gotten out from a terrible relationship. She was in love with him but he kept cheating. We agreed not to rush things, just having a great time together, enjoying life. But things got quite serious fast. We were somewhat living together. She told me she loved me. Soon after that ( something like 4 months passed sice we started dating) she came to me crying telling me that she needed time. She couldnt get over the past relationship. It was a blow, i thought she was going back to that guy. But she wasnt. I gave her the time felt quite bad though. Something like a month passed and she came back to me. Said she loved meme and i was the only guy who ever understood her and cared about her. And lots of other great things. We were happy again.
She is quite independent, always doing everything without help. I wanted to help her, to understand her feeling l. She was the girl to marry, really i was thinking about our children... From time to time she got quite cold to me, avoiding contact, which was driving me mad. She had 3 such moments within a two month period. After a couple days passedd, we would get together, she would tell me she loved me and didnt know why she is acting like this. That she understands how stupid she is acting, and she cannot explain it
I was always scared that i was pushing her a bit having in mind her independent character. But she enjoyde being with me.
Some days ago she another moment. We talked althat such ocurrances should not happen again. That this **** is destroying our relationship. And since she is unsure, we should end it. But on the next day we once said we love each other and kissed smiled... We continued.
Yesterday she dripped the bomb. She wanted to end the relationship and be close friends because she has all the best feeling towards me. I told her i cannot be a friend of hers. I was devastated. Tried talking her out of this. But she told me, that those moments of her are painful for her, because she doesnt want to act cold towards me and cannot explain what is wrong with her.
Thats it. U think she needs time...
But i dont want to leave her, i am scared thay if i go NC she will think she lost me forever and will not come back, since she is so independent and i cannot imaging her crawling back to me.
Ill try it thiugh.
The thing is we work together and see each other quite often at work.
Thanks for listening to me. Any comment woyld be appreciated.
Day one it is
Here's the story.
I was in a relationship for two years, living with the girl, talking about marriage and so on. But i was feeling somewhat unhappy. Thinking about a breakup...
THen this new coworker appeared. Damn, a great chick. Everyone was crazy about her. But i was in love.
We started going out. Had a great time. I told her about my relationship, and soon i dumped my girl.
So we started dating the coworker. Amazing!!! She as well had gotten out from a terrible relationship. She was in love with him but he kept cheating. We agreed not to rush things, just having a great time together, enjoying life. But things got quite serious fast. We were somewhat living together. She told me she loved me. Soon after that ( something like 4 months passed sice we started dating) she came to me crying telling me that she needed time. She couldnt get over the past relationship. It was a blow, i thought she was going back to that guy. But she wasnt. I gave her the time felt quite bad though. Something like a month passed and she came back to me. Said she loved meme and i was the only guy who ever understood her and cared about her. And lots of other great things. We were happy again.
She is quite independent, always doing everything without help. I wanted to help her, to understand her feeling l. She was the girl to marry, really i was thinking about our children... From time to time she got quite cold to me, avoiding contact, which was driving me mad. She had 3 such moments within a two month period. After a couple days passedd, we would get together, she would tell me she loved me and didnt know why she is acting like this. That she understands how stupid she is acting, and she cannot explain it
I was always scared that i was pushing her a bit having in mind her independent character. But she enjoyde being with me.
Some days ago she another moment. We talked althat such ocurrances should not happen again. That this **** is destroying our relationship. And since she is unsure, we should end it. But on the next day we once said we love each other and kissed smiled... We continued.
Yesterday she dripped the bomb. She wanted to end the relationship and be close friends because she has all the best feeling towards me. I told her i cannot be a friend of hers. I was devastated. Tried talking her out of this. But she told me, that those moments of her are painful for her, because she doesnt want to act cold towards me and cannot explain what is wrong with her.
Thats it. U think she needs time...
But i dont want to leave her, i am scared thay if i go NC she will think she lost me forever and will not come back, since she is so independent and i cannot imaging her crawling back to me.
Ill try it thiugh.
The thing is we work together and see each other quite often at work.
Thanks for listening to me. Any comment woyld be appreciated.
Day one it is