The *No Contact* Challenge! ( Read this if you just got dumped)

[john doe71]

i need your help guys please read

i cannot stop looking at my ex's tumblr account because she posts stuff about me on there and its FEEDING MY EGO but i need to DEFEAT MY EGO in the battle against rationalism and egotism.

i know that it is rational to not look at her tumblr, but i cant help it my EGO desires and yearns to look at it...

PLEASE HELP ME I NEED TO STOP

Want help? Quit loolin at whatever this stupid tumblr thing is, get sum balls n go out and bang sum new p***y. She could give 2 sh*ts bout you

 

[mikey2012]

Aren't you the one who made this ALL TIME gem of a post?

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=205337

Just keep reading that my man. I know I did the last time I broke up.

Yes that's why these bivcthes are so evil. Even Don Juan's can have their beta moments.

 

[mikey2012]

Day 15 - it's done the bitvch is gone .

This is how it goes. You are obviously hurting and still love the cvnt that's why you are posting or looking at this forum.

So if you love the cvnt still and she has gone off with someone else then she is happy. She wasn't happy with you that's why she left you .

Then you should be happy for her!

Do you want her to be with you and unhappy? Or be with someone else and happy??

If you love her then let her go and be happy with some other dude.

She isn't happy with you that's why she left you . You are only being selfish and beta if you want her to stay with her since she would be unhappy.

If she's unhappy with the other dude and she thinks she will be happy with you then she WILL come back.

And for those guys who say they don't still love their ex then why are you still hurt? You wouldn't even be on this site if you didn't love her.

Be a man be alpha. Let her be happy without you. Let her go.

If you truly love her and if she is happy with some other dude then you should be happy .

If you don't love her then you wouldn't be here.

Think about this will get rid of her from your mind.

 

[Dgwizdal]

This has nothing to do with breaking up as such, but I highly recommend watching as many of this guy's videos as you can. It will inspire you to become the man you want to be, embrace your pain and use it to fuel you to become the greatest you can be, whether it's in the gym, in business, in your social and dating life or just in pulling yourself out of your depression...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZrGy0MaLoDI&list=PLDF2092872FB5661A

That video doe.... Incredible

 

[mikey2012]

i need your help guys please read

i cannot stop looking at my ex's tumblr account because she posts stuff about me on there and its FEEDING MY EGO but i need to DEFEAT MY EGO in the battle against rationalism and egotism.

i know that it is rational to not look at her tumblr, but i cant help it my EGO desires and yearns to look at it...

PLEASE HELP ME I NEED TO STOP

She forget about you and is sucking black covck. Picture that and feel the pain. If you do that for long enough you won't notice the pain.

Don't whatever you do contact her. You will drive her more away. You can never change her mind. If she wants you she will walk hot coals for you . If you contact her you will lose all your dignity and self respect.

 

[Jariel]

That video doe.... Incredible

Greg Plitt is a real inspiration ain't he?

I have just found the original video I wanted to post:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G7IK2jNEIoA

Towards the end he talks about a mentor holding his student underwater until the student finally fights back. I think this is a great analogy of what we go through during these hard break ups. It feels like you just want to give up on life, the pain is overwhelming, but you must dig real deep and fight back with everything you've got.

One you find that fight inside of you, then you can really start moving forward.

I was with this new girl I was seeing last night and her reaction when I took my shirt off was priceless. Her mouth dropped open and she couldn't hold herself back. My efforts in the gym lately have really been paying off and my self perception is changing now from the broken and pathetic guy my ex rejected to a man who gets women aroused and excited.

Self perception is a huge thing during a break up. Most of us perceive ourselves as lacking somehow, not being good enough, and the more we think like that, the more we act that way. We cry, we feel sorry for ourselves and we feel more and more pathetic.

This is what I've been saying about how pointless it is getting back in touch with your ex during this time because she's just going to see a pathetic shell of a man she left behind. You need to rebuild yourself, be greater than you ever were and truly let go before you're ready to make contact...or even return contact from her.

Videos like this have been really good for giving me the burst I need if I'm having a low or lethargic day. I'm going to post a handful of videos in a moment that have been really helpful to me.

Don't give up the fight!

 

[Jariel]

Inspirational Videos

I thought I'd take this opportunity to share some videos that have been inspirational to me and helped me through my break up...and helped me take on a more positive and productive attitude.

They're not all going to appeal to everyone, but maybe you will find some comfort or motivation in them.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zR29tTQDYlk - basically anything by Greg Plitt

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDJA0Ce2j6A - Very different to the usual SoSuave stuff, but she gives some really great advice on positive attitude and dealing with heartache. I'll be honest, I've got a crush on her!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ucv8O75erpg

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G4NfXEuF_cs

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G5EOoeSwAMQ - I recommend everything by Joe Dispenza too.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S8slB-mYCPw

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ks-_Mh1QhMc

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gzv2nt-L6XE

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KopmSpe33Eg - Eckhart Tolle gives a great perspective on handling depression and pain.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fvV5ZCzQCOI

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TssX4fAa59s - very easy meditation techniques.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06UnHtD1ZbY - I'm not a fan of all of Tyler/Owen's videos, but he has some very insightful ones on break up.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uV7e59e7Hyo - A lot of people are sceptical about these kinds of videos, but there's great wisdom here about the benefits of staying positive.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cEOW_uhF8bk

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t8Ju4xaV3Ug - some good advice in his videos.

I'll leave it at that for now. I hope these have been helpful to you guys.

I'll leave it at that for now.

 

[Arossi2211]

NC again !

Day # 1

She broke up with me one week ago after 3 years. It wasn't the first time she has dumped me. I did NC and never heard from her, so I broke the NC yesterday and texted to ask to see the kids to which she replied not now. I went to her place yesterday anyway without her say so to see the kids but I melted and ended up begging and pleading doing everything wrong and making myself look like a complete gump !!

I grabbed a load of my **** and told her she will never see or hear from me again because I don't want to go through the pain of seeing her and not being able to have her !!!

So this is NC part 2 but this time I am determined to stick to it for the full 60 days!! I do want her back and I feel bad I told the kids they won't see me again but **** it she ****ed me up and now hearts are broken.

Interested to hear what you guys are sayin on my sorry state of affairs......

 

[Renegade357]

Interested to hear what you guys are sayin on my sorry state of affairs......

You married to this chick?

 

[Arossi2211]

You married to this chick?

No but I proposed a month ago and she said yes and was trying to show me wedding dresses about a week before she dumped me and I didn't show too much interest! When I brought it up yesterday she said she only showed me the dress to see my reaction.

 

[StayingHopeful]

Day 26

I feel ****ing amazing! I haven't heard from her since our last encounter (dont remember what day it was, dont care) and my life has been great! I don't find myself thinking about her at all, I got a couple girls keeping me occupied and been going out on regular dates. Keep your heads up guys! Remember that you're a ****in boss and don't need your ex to validate you! There's a **** ton of girls out there waiting to jump your bones but you wont be able to accept that if you're dwelling on "her". Be the boss you know you are!

 

[Arossi2211]

NC round 2

Day # 2

Waking up in the middle of the night thinking of her and the kids and the fact I've upset them by saying I won't see them again! I need to be strong and I won't contact her, she threw me away like rubbish so I won't make myself look like a chump again no way I'm worth more than that!

 

[Blinkers]

Day 4.
Jeez I am weak minded...
So in 4 days I have started moisturising, got a hair cut, spent £100's on new clothes, increased personal trainer to 3 x per week, joined a squash club, purchased a new top notch bicycle and have decided not to drink except Christmas and new years. Yet here I am in the forest with my brother who is attempting to cheer me up and still checking my phone for messages despite blocking numbers and emails.. I am so angry with her...look what she's done to me! Got all my man toys and only really want her to come back and tell me she was wrong so we can pick up again..
I know mysery has stages but what the heck... gimme a magic pill. (After we finish burning these sausages of course)

 

[mikey2012]

Day 4.
Jeez I am weak minded...
So in 4 days I have started moisturising, got a hair cut, spent £100's on new clothes, increased personal trainer to 3 x per week, joined a squash club, purchased a new top notch bicycle and have decided not to drink except Christmas and new years. Yet here I am in the forest with my brother who is attempting to cheer me up and still checking my phone for messages despite blocking numbers and emails.. I am so angry with her...look what she's done to me! Got all my man toys and only really want her to come back and tell me she was wrong so we can pick up again..
I know mysery has stages but what the heck... gimme a magic pill. (After we finish burning these sausages of course)

Why do u want her to come back? Do you love her?

 

[Blinkers]

Yes I do love her

 

[Arossi2211]

Yes I do love her

Same as me man love her and finding it hard to let her go even after she chucked me away !

 

[Lotus Effect]

Chill guys!

We all love them, and they all despise us because we are needy.

When I say few I mean FEW man are really able to handle a breakup. There is no magic pill. The magic pill is to WALK AWAY, never to look back!

NEVER!

You have to dig really deep within yourself to get some will power to remain No Contact. But this is the only way you can do it!

It hurts in the begining. It hurts even more during the middle. And sadly, will keep hurting for some time, more than you want to believe. But that is it!

There is nothing that can be said or done right now to change her mind. She will not come back. You really have to keep it to yourself. And in fact, you can't know if she will ever be back, odds are that she won't. So the only thing to do is to remain NC, focus on yourself, and while you are improving yourself you wait time pass for you to heal little by little.

There will come a time eventually when you realise you are over her.

Sadly, I'm almost 3 months NC and we broke up 6 months ago, and I'm still not over her. But that is simply because I have a lot to work on myself yet!

So keep working on yourselfs, and let the good old time work his magic!

Cheers!

 

[Lotus Effect]

Day# 17

Bad day for me too, Lotus.

Thought a lot about her and especially about what her motives were to contact me at the end of last week. I cannot help but admit that although I have deleted her phone number and have removed her from my social network profiles I am still waiting for her to contact me and hope strongly that she does.

Wonder a lot if she is happy, if the thought of the times we shared with her cross her mind or if she is busy being too excited with her new bf and new job and getting used to the lifestyle in a different (and more beautiful) country.

The latter thought is causing me to die inside little by little and I have to admit I feel irrelevant and not worthy at times during the day. It is as if that new guy is giving her things I was unable to.

Now I have no idea if that is true or not and if he is better than me but at my lowest and weakest moments I am positive it is a fact and get down on myself even more.

It does not help that I have no one but a buddy of mine and my mother to talk to about this sh!t and during the whole facking day at work I need to keep up appearances and not show what I am going through. Living the whole day with that mask on is tiring.

Anyway, writing here seems to help me a bit even though checking this site daily perpetuates this feeling of loss it seems like as I continue on thinking about her.

Perhaps the only solution is to find a new girl and until I do I will be crumbling as I am these days. I have a lot of days still ahead of me.

Thanks for reading, guys.

On to day #18.

Hey man!

keep it up! It hurts a lot. And the mask is really heavy!

But it is ok to feel bad, after all, we are human. It's good to feel this to remind us that life is not a cake walk!

And don't feel ashamed to cry to someone, and talk to your friends about. You have to get it out of your system.

If you keep hiding it, it will just feed the monster!

I know the exact thing you are going through. My ex also changed her job, moved from her house and is dating a new guy.

She rebuild her life in a matter of months. Yours did the same. And that is why is easier for them! But that is also a good thing. They get it so easy, that they will never improve. They will always be the sh*tty person that they are, and sooner than expected life will run over them.

Looks are not forever. Character is.

I said it is a good thing, because it is so hard on us, that we have to crawl out of our shells, and develop to become greater man. It is an excelent oportunity to get better. Hit the gym hard. Work more!

Watch this video. It is really inspiring
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=06UnHtD1ZbY

See ya man!

 

[Renegade357]

Day # 2

Waking up in the middle of the night thinking of her and the kids and the fact I've upset them by saying I won't see them again!

These are her kids not yours right?

 

[Arossi2211]

These are her kids not yours right?

One of the kids is hers and the other has my name on the birth certificate but it's possibly not mine !!