jariel mate ... i dont know you at all so i can only read between the lines here.
i have been in a very similar situation where my ex was telling me she loved me , missed me , wanted me , but yet did nothing to make things happen , you need to remember that if your ex sees you being in any way weak , she will play on it all the way to the bank my friend.
now this is where you could possible turn things around in your own favour , but only if you want to that is , firstly you need to accept for the time being at least that whats done is done , and make all the effort to STOP punishing yourself . its not all your fault ok just remember that.
women want a man to be a man , they say they want flowers and for us to go shopping with them and all that bull**** ....but it never works that way .
you need to focus on yourself , and i mean focus.....please realise that any further contact with this girl is only going to make her realise she made the right decision by ending things. [ seriously ] .you will look like a pest [ not good ]
i know you only want her back in your life..... and fast , but it wont happen until she sees you have changed and become a better man , and stop dwelling on all the stuff that has happend.....from now on its nc all the fooooooking way brother,,,,,,,do not reach out to her at all......
you said you have dated a couple of chicks right......your lucky because since i got the boot i have had nothing ..... zero.......does this concern me not really because i have realised that women are a king size pain in the ass.
its great to have their company and the poony of course , but they can never make your life totally happy until you dont give a sh-t wether they are with you or not.......its their f---ing loss remember that , you are a catch and you deserve to be treated better than being messed around.
she may go out and find another bloke or even have one already, so what the one thing she has over looked is you ....... and you need to have this mindset if you are going to get over this drama that is playing out .
all the stuff you are talking about mate is the same stupid stuff i have been put through for nearly a year ,,,,,luckily for me i have adopted a mindset that what will be will be , and there is nothing you can do to make her change her mind .....other than to say this........... if she reaches out again after no contact you can say this [ only if you want to give it 1 last try at your own risk of course , it may work and i use the word may ] look if you no longer want what we had then thats fine i wish you all the best but i am moving on with my life and you can come if you want to [ thats providing you want her to come along ] or whats done is done its upto you . if she says can we be friends just tell her that you cant be friends because you love her and want her and just being friends like some emotional tampon is not what your looking for - give me a call if you change your mind - then you have to walk away very calmly and try to be polite in a manly way . and never look back.
it may take her weeks , months , or even yrs for her to realise she made a mistake by letting you go who knows .
i had a girl very recently who iv known for 25 plus yrs told me she only got married because she couldnt have me , i was in shock when she said it .
i also had a girl i dated 17 yrs ago who recently admitted she never treat me right and that i was great to her ,and also admitted how she still likes me , and how i used to make her feel special , so what does this tell you .......it tells you they never forget the good ones ,,,,,,,all the knobs are forgotten but the strong good guys who stick to their guns get respected......and this will happen here if you follow the correct path . put any items of hers out of the way delete numbers and move forward with you mission and purpose in life - which is a very powerfull tool to have under your belt.
you have to be prepared to walk and never look back no matter how painfull it is , you may get her back but on your terms maybe or you may find someone a lot better , but you can not rewrite history , and you cant know what will happen in the future because it aint here yet , so all you can do is focus on the present which is getting over this drama....and becoming the best you can with the materials you have to hand .
the one thing i want to say is that i love women they are great when they choose to be , but when they are hell bent on making your life a misery they make it a mission . do not let this happen otherwise the outcome is not very nice .
if you want this girl back thats one thing , but if you get her back by begging and all that stuff .....she will have even less respect for you, again not good mate .
i have grown to realise that some women you can talk round and a lot of them you cant , you see women act on emotions and how they feel , talking logic and reason will never work [ NEVER ].
but as above be nice sweet and charming by telling her you love her and if she changes her mind give me a call id love to see you , but dont call unless your serious about things , then walk away . this may work after some time apart.
or the other way is nc from now on and call it a day forever , its upto you pal , but what ever you do dont call or text her ,
time will make you realise that life is one big drama - you win some - you lose some thats life .
keep positive and focus on your mission and purpose and things will get better.
all the best to ya
