I wish she could just respect NC and not send me this bullsh!t. I'm sure she regrets what she's done, and she still cares about me. But there is no way I can take her back into my life.Hey. It's stupid to txt it, I'd rather talk but i don't know if you want. I don't feel good. I miss you. All i needed was a bit of space and time cause i felt paralyzed. I didn't want to lose you and it wasn't about <douchebag's name> or whoever. I just needed some space to take care of myself. I knew already back then that i still cared about you. I couldn't react at all cause i was stuck and i had the feeling that i didn't know what was happening. It's terrible that you're not in my life anymore. I still think about you and can not take u out of my mind. I don't know if you still miss me or did you get over me already and even date someone else. .. i would respect that of course but i wouldn't be myself if i didn't try to txt you. You did the same when you felt like that.
Mauser96 said:Subbeh, it is pretty clear you should stay NC.
Ditto!henrea4 said:It ain't been easy, but I will say that our relationship is now starting to feel much more like past tense than present....and you know something? I genuinely feel as if I don't need her in my life to be happy. Would I be willing to work things out if she made a reach? Certainly. But if she doesn't it's not the end of the world. Before I started NC, I definitely couldn't say that. Maybe I'm finally starting to come out of my denial.
Oh man....THANK GOD I don't drink. Some of the stupid stuff I did to try and "win my ex back" when we initially split was all done while completely sober (though it's arguable whether or not such a fresh broken heart can really be considered "sober") if I had been under the influence of any controlled substance during that time I probably would be sitting in jail right now.hockeyfreak79 said:I should be over 60 days NC. My dumbs ass had too many beers a couple weeks ago and broke it. I'm not going to beat myself up, it was stupid it has definitely set me back. I'm even talking to new broads. WHY the F-would I do this!?
This time around will be easier, but still a dumb mistake. F this 60 day challenge...NO CONTACT IS FOREVER!!
BAM----Needed to vent, thanks SS. GoodLuck fellas, get out there and talking to new chicks with clean slates!
Dude is tough, it sucks, it makes your belly twist into knots , and fvcks with your head. But its not your fault, im going to show you some tough love on here like a few older guys on here gave me and it helped specifically Mauser96. Man she is playing you, she wants you around so she can feel like she is in control and still has you while she is off doing what she did to you before. And there is a reason yall broke up, she cheated on YOU. Not the other way around.Subbeh said:Broke NC; met her by accident while going out with a female friend for a drink. I wanted to be quick about it but unfortunately stayed talking to her for too long and let her try to explain stuff to me.
Since then, she's been sort of begging me to take her back and telling me it's unfair and stuff. In her eyes, she didn't do much wrong, not more than I did.
I really have to keep telling myself that she screwed me over, and that I should stay strong.
I told her again today that there is no future for us, and that I don't want her to contact me again. She's taking it very very hard.