My gf of 14 months left pretty damn heartlessly at the end of January this year.
We had no real issues between each other. We vibed and clicked easily and were friends at work for close to a year before dating, during this time she came back to my desk every day batting her eyelashes non-stop every day and being intimately close in my space just to touch me and get her boobs up against me.
First date in November 2017 we made out with ease, 2nd date next weekend sex, and within about 4 weeks she wanted to know if we were exclusive.
I take full responsibility for screwing everything up come end of March 2018. I got her pregnant as she stopped taking birth control a few weeks after we started dating. Her first instinct was abortion which I don’t believe in, but it was her decision so I had to be there and support her. Next week she acted like nothing happened and wanted to meet my mom for the first time. I told her sure and she was set to meet her on Sat at our home. I felt like I wasn’t ready to get serious and married and didn’t want to hurt her and that if I did this it would make it all even more serious and I would waste time and hurt somebody who was always my friend that I cared about who wanted to get married and have a family. Called her up before coming and told her so and broke it off out of nowhere.
Hours later came some of the most hate filled text I’ve ever seen from a girl who up to that point had been pure sweet and gentle for the entire time we dated and knew each other as friends. Wishing me the worst, calling my mom a racist ***** (ex is black, I’m white), me a loser, insulting my **** size, etc. I responded kind and lovingly to all of it. Next day she texted apologizing.
We got back together next week bc I thought I made a dumb decision and went out again, but my mom blasted me for getting back with a girl who would say the things that she did and so did family friends. So I broke it off again. We agreed to be friends. Next day i went over to hang out and be friends and we kissed right off the bat and headed to the bedroom.
3 weeks later after me taking her out the previous 2 weekends and thinking all was good, she doesn’t answer me on a random tues night. Next day at work she tells me she left her phone in the gym that night. We hang out that afternoon and she tells me that she doesn’t see this going to the end and can we be friends. I say no way and walk away. She walks down the street crying and begging for me to please talk to her and let’s discuss this about our friendship and being in each other’s life. I say no, and she tells me she needs time and space bc I’ve hurt her really bad
She goes to Miami with her family. Comes back and instantly sneaks up behind me at work on Mon and kisses me. 2 days later she won’t anymore. I get suspicious and find her on Tinder. I screen shot it to her and blasted her about it. She tried to say that we’re on a break and it’s none of my business.
So yeah she ends up sleeping with a guy 2 days after being on there. And the guy that she left her phone in the gym with about a month later.
After hooking up with tinder dude she texts me on Sun that she misses me and still loves me. We get back together bc I put a lotnof work in (not knowing about any of these guys for sure yet).
I let her come meet my mom and dad in May 2018. Everything goes well. Next night she tells me late that she’ll call me in a bit as she’s on the phone with her bff. Later find out she’s seeing and screwing around with the guy from the phone in the gym night.
Anyways everything goes good all summer and fall. Our bdays are June and July. I traveled with her and her family for her bday. Found out at that vacation that she had basically screwed around. Was furious and texted a buddy. She saw his reply onpy and tried to make me feel bad and say that she didn’t do anything with anybody and didn’t appreciate me talking **** about her to my friends.
For my bday she made a dish to bring to a meal that my mom makes every year for me, and it resulted in her showing up about 45 min late and red eyed from being half drunk (only I could tell). Then she left earlier than anybody.
We go to Jamaica for vacation in Sept. All good until the last day when she’s drunk gets mad at me over me confronting her in front of somebody about getting her ass back to the hotel room bc I thought our passports were stolen. She starts darting her finger in my face, being violent, mean, demeaning, I finally say FU ***** at her, and she punches me in the face. Gets ready to do it again a few min later sonI chucked her on the bed by the throat. That ended that reap quick with her crying. She then tried to slam and break my phone.
Well 2 hours later she is sorry and buying blow for us to do. Later that night she reads my texts to my brother asking what I need to do to make us work bc my mom and dad don’t like her. She tells me we have no future and doesn’t wanna be a part of my family.
Next morning all is well. We get back and my mom’s bday is a week later and she tells me to wish her happy bday even though she knows she doesn’t like her. We continue on having fun and having sex. Bad **** happens when my mom overhears me talking to a friend late at night about her punching me and us using blow. Next day my mom is heartbroken to hear all that and tells me to not bring her back.
Ex starts a new job where she travels for training. Her hours change to where she’s at home at 7:30’instead of 6:30 and it’s winter, dark, and cold, and she’s in bed by 9:30 every night. We see each other on weekends.
Starting early December she claims she’s religious now, and isn’t having sex until she gets married and doesn’t want me to leave any more beer in her apt. My dog is in the process of dying from an ear tumor and my parents make me feel like **** for leaving them to deal with her 10 hours a day on weekends while I go off and just have fun. I’m stuck in between a rock and a hard place. I choose to take care of my dog, not spend the night (especially not for a girl no longer having sex with me), and continue to hang out on weekends.
I buy her an $850 necklace for Christmas. She got me a nice $100+ gift too. We have sex that night. But brings up that she’s traveling home in 2 days bc I didn’t invite her to Christmas and she was tired of not being invited. She said after thanksgiving that she would spend xmas with us so i told her cool. One week after no sex December started she said she was going home so I guess I was supposed to beg her and say no no no you have to be with me. Mrs suddenly dedicated to God randomly buys blow again before going saying “it’s the holidays I deserve to have fun.”
Gets back and is furiously mad on sat that I haven’t called her (she said on fri she was going out with her gay boss and would call me when leaving, and she never did so I wasn’t gonna plead). She suggests a break bc it was obvious I didn’t want to be bothered and neither did she now. I told her no. Next day she texts me sad and she misses me, and says she thinks she is depressed about her pregnant sister and her mom’s drama. We patch everything up and spend NY together. Again no sex.
January starts and she comes over to my house with my parents gone. Telling me she’s going to SC to see her bff. Yelp review later shows her being in our state that night at the bar with some friends. Next weekend says her bff is coming to visit. We hang out the next weekend and make out at the movies, act all loving and she tells me she’s going to a party for the AFC championship with people from work (she works in a satellite office not with a company of people). I wasn’t invited. Called her after the game and she sends me straight to vm.
Call her out on that two days later and she doesn’t remember doing it and says if she did it was only bc she was out.
Next day comes a “there’s been something on my mind can we talk.” She calls and gives me the speech about how my family doesn’t like her and she’s not allowed to come around ever, and she doesn’t want that for me or her, and she ultimately wants to get married and that she thinks I don’t and just wanna date for forever and have fun and will never progress it to that, and we don’t really see each other anymore and we’re not growing.”
I tell her I don’t agree, and she asks can we still talk and be a part of each other’s life. I tell her I don’t know but had to go get on a work call. Texted her I loved her and to take care. She said the same. A text the next week to tell her I loved her again and wanted to move in and give her what she wanted and show her I was serious. All I got was we’ll talk when I get back in town (she wasn’t out of town as 1 week before dumping me she let me spend $250 on college bball tickets for my fav team and she acted all excited and happy). That call never came. And the next text was just flat out ignored.
I went NC since then and not a peep from somebody I was friends with for 2 years and lovers for 14 months.
Yelp review from her shows her traveling with a new guy less than 3 weeks after dumping me. So she cheated or monieybranched. That **** hurts to know. Like “wow I really meant a lot to you didn’t I.”
As stupid as it is right now I would take her back. I’m just hoping all feeling drop over time and I don’t even wanna talk to her if she does reach out. I actually hope she tries to get me back and tell her no, but that seems like it’s far fetched bc once she’s done with exes I believe she’s done and can move on to the next like none of us ever existed. Until she’s single for a few months and wants an ex for friendship companionship again. Sigh what a sad enging to somebody I wanted in my life always. I wish we never dated and just stayed friends. She owes me $1450 to top it off and is making really good money now.