My Thoughts.
Many guys who fail USE feminism or the surface concepts of it to justify their own lack of success. People do this many arenas of life. With health...
"it's too time consuming"
"genetics"
"it's too hard"
"i hate lifting"
"yoga is for pvssies"
And so on...
It's EASIER to blame the external world, than change the internal beliefs and actions that will yield BETTER more USEFUL results.
However, does feminism spoil a bunch of the apples?
Absolutely.
Will I let it damper MY success with women?
No, and it never has. BUT, I make a point to speak with women in a manner where I convey MY beliefs on relationships and gender roles as it relates TO MY life. Keeping that in the forefront ensures that I only find women who buy into my reality, and who aren't fake enough to sneak through.
To me, what Wyldefire said makes grand sense, but the guy who feels victim in his dating pool, will also feel victim in other areas of life. It's a victimhood mentality that permeates all facets of life. You will rarely see a successful businessman or athlete or person, who blames other.
The friends I have that try to steal girls from other guys, or complain that all women are hoores, are also the same ones who try to shirk the system, cheat others, and so on, because they don't feel anything can be done honestly. Bottom line, they don't trust themselves enough to be who they are and fight through the jungle to find what they want. They're fearful they won't get what it is they desire.
BUT, I say....
Feminism IS WRECKING more women than it's helping, it just means men have to be more discriminating when dating women, more selective.
I've been caught off guard by sweet girls, who play the "i'm old school at heart," yet want to extract control from the men. They complain about 1 piece of the puzzle, but then complain about the other. They are perpetually unhappy. While it's not grand scale true, it's a high enough % to call it an epidemic.
When you go AGAINST the natural flow of life's essence, you throw it into a tailspin of confusion, where frustration abounds as it's inherent talents are lost and foresaken for those that suit a more utilitarian approach. Better put?
Men and women are frustrated because we're basically reversing roles, or duplicating roles, and those things we genuinely love deep inside are not being expressed. Women who love to home school and do house work, decorate and cook, entertain and give love, as well as receive it, must trude into the cold, harsh corporate cuthroat world of business and sales. They must take the responsibility of numbers, finances, managing a household like a small business. At the end of the day, they're emotionally bankrupt. And the men, who are in the same state as it's their inherent nature, return home to a needy, whining wench, rightfully so, but all the more unhappy, because her equally exhausted male counterpart seeks what SHE is also missing. It's a conspiracy of the highest order, unbeknownst to man and womankind.
A man, to be IN marriage, will INVEST his future earnings, estate, seeds, future lays, future time, possibly friends, freedom independence and dreams, on 1, count that 1, woman. A man, me, in my arrogant opinion is what I liken to as the "best investment you can ever get from the world." And that investment is HAD by being worthy of RECEIVING that investment. Yes, it's cold hard definitions, BUT, it serves the point.
What of the women with Gates?
Or Trump?
Or Tiger?
Or the sweethearts that stuck by their high school and college boyfriends who brought them to a life of passion and wealth? Opportunity and happiness?
Our deterioration of character comes from the LIVE TODAY mentality, like we'll die and not have had anything worthwhile in our lives. It's the grasshopper mentality, while those who surge ahead work like ANTS.
Buy it or don't buy it. I see with a vision like that of Neo in the Matrix at all the worker bees toiling at work, hoping to provide material possessions at home, while the inherent emotions are evaporating at an alarming rate. It isn't money that's bad, it's the values BEHING the money that are bad. It's the BELIEFS that are leading to the pain.
We can either have a completely autonomous society, one where robots provide pleasure, where babies are soon to be born in bags, so women don't have to endure the pain of birth, nor the physical impairment that follows, OR, we return to a society, a world, built on compassion, feeling, togetherness and love.
Am I bitter on women?
Not in the least. I love the girls in my family. I've loved before. But women who believe they're fooling the piper are far gone wrong. Spending their youth is like spending their big inheritance. They're pitched all over TV no guys could eternally love them. That divorce is their goal. That independence their aim. That life shall be lived alone, most likely. And the only reason it comes to being is because whatever we believe, comes to conception. If you believe it, you will bring it about. You will attract whatever your dominating thoughts and feelings are.
I do feel girls are going bankrupt. They're spending their sexual freedom. They're spending down their emotional pot, the one in which they give to men, to others, to bring life to the world.
This is my view,
A-Unit
Nice post and enlightening, Wyldfire
great post A-Unit. That needs to go in the bible even though it is mainly opinionated. Wyldefire you made a great attempt at looking at this issue from a male perspective and managed to point out our flaws. I have to be with you 100% on this one. I won't allow myself to become an evil person but at the same time I don't think it would stop me from hating feminist with a passion. I don't know if that makes any sense to you. I just have a really bad habit of holding grudges (which I don't think is very DJ attitude). Thanks for the great posts guys.